First off, I want to say it's been quite some time since I've written an article... I've taken time off to simply give myself a mental break. I recently switched colleges, now I'm at UMASS Dartmouth. I've been missing writing lately, and I want to get back into the swing of things. That being said, I wanted to talk about something that's really been bothering my lately. I'm about to be twenty years old, and the thought of dating scares me. Most of my friends will tell me what some guy did to them and there seems to be reoccurring issues. I'm not using this article to attack guys, but I want to let you know why it's so important to be the "good guy" in today's society now more than ever. I want you to see why girls are so hesitant to give guys a chance.
Coming from a girl's perspective, we're getting sick of the games. You're seeing more girls choosing to be on their own. We don't like when a guy ignores us for days or weeks even - especially after he's the one to initiate interest in the first place. We like to know that we're on your mind, and that you don't just think of us when it's late at night and the parties over. If you're showing interest in me - don't show that same interest in someone else. It's a waste of both of our time. I'm not the type to entertain multiple people, so I'd hope you'd respect me enough to do the same. People think that girls are "paranoid" or "obsessive" when it comes to relationships. More often than not, someone made her that way. Someone had to of broken her trust - and it changed her as a person. Just do your best to work with her, show her that you're an open book and wouldn't lie to her. Friends are there to vent to, about your own self. Don't take information a girl opened up to you about and go spreading it around. She trusted you with personal information, don't make her regret it. Oh, and here's a cringing text message. The whole, "Wanna come give me a massage" text is so over-rated. It's like there's a book of "Generic things to tell a girl" somewhere out there in the boy universe. Be original, don't tell a girl something she's heard before because I bet you she's rolling her eyes reading that text message. Compliment her on something that sets her apart from the rest. Girls, can we all agree it isn't cute when the guy you're talking to starts going after your friend? NEVER go after the girl's best friend - it's beyond disrespectful. This is why our generation has created the term "f*** boys". Girls want a "good guy," and by good guy - it doesn't mean they can't have edge. It means they want to know that you're always gonna be their best friend. It means that you're honest, caring, and don't care what your friends have to say because it's YOUR relationship. It's showing that you care just by calling before she goes into work to wish her a good day. It's not at all about how much you can spoil her with new makeup or clothes - and that's why those viral videos of girls being showered in materialistic stuff make me mad. That's an unrealistic expectation - girl go get a job and buy your own wardrobe. Good guys are getting more rare as time goes on, and girls are losing hope in finding the ones that are left. Be that guy.
