I Am Heartless When It Comes To Dating

I Am Heartless When It Comes To Dating

How could she be so heartless? *Kanye voice*

Two weeks ago I was at dinner with my two of my best friends. We were reminiscing about the past and noticed a pattern in my past. When it comes to dating, I can be “heartless.” At first it stung and I was completely caught off guard with their criticism, but then I thought about it, and totally agreed. Here is why I’m heartless, and why I’m okay with it:

I am a daddy’s girl until the day I die. I love my dad not only because he’s spoiled me to no end, but he’s shown me how a woman should be treated by treating my mom with care and respect. When it was time for me to start dating, I didn’t expect any less. Now don’t get me wrong, I didn’t expect a guy to buy me a car, or flowers every other week, or anything crazy, but I expected respect, and nothing less.

As I entered high school, with hormones all weird, sometimes I would lose sight of what I deserved, but don’t worry, I quickly remembered. For example, I was with a guy for almost a year, and towards the end of our relationship he was no longer being the person he was in the beginning. The minute I realized that he was no longer treating me the way I deserved to be treated, I ended things without looking back. My friends to this day can never understand how heartless I was after I ended things. In a way, I will agree that I could have been more emotional and forgiving, but everyone handles things differently.

I don’t apologize or wish to change the way I am when it comes to dating, because I don’t believe that any person should feel their worth decrease. I also don’t believe that anyone has the right to make anyone feel worthless at anytime. Whenever I start to feel like I’m being treated badly, or I feel I’m being taken for granted, I try to confront that person and come up with a solution. I’m very direct and blunt with my feelings and thoughts, which can make me appear emotionless. I am this way partly because my dad is this way, but mostly because I never want anyone to misinterpret what I say or send any mixed messages. If I think, “Wow, this person makes me feel like sh*t,” then chances are I’m going to tell that person that they make me feel like sh*t. I would rather tell someone how I feel and find a solution then have them make me feel worthless. If we can’t find a solution that works, or there is no attempt to reach that solution, I have no problem deucing out. It may be rude or arrogant, but that is who I am. I know my self worth, and I think that everyone deserves to be treated with respect and worthy, and if someone continuously makes me feel opposite of that, I won’t tolerate it. If that makes me heartless, then I am unapologetically heartless.

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You can’t keep track of the amount of mental breakdowns you’ve had, how much coffee you’ve consumed, or how many times you’ve called your mom to tell her that you’re dropping out. Nursing is no joke. Half the time it makes you want to go back and change your major, and the other half reminds you why you want to do this, and that is what gets you through it. The thing about being a nursing major is that despite all the difficult exams, labs and overwhelming hours of studying you do, you know that someday you might be the reason someone lives, and you can’t give up on that purpose. We all have our own reasons why we chose nursing -- everyone in your family is a nurse, it’s something you’ve always wanted to do, you’re good at it, or like me, you want to give back to what was given to you. Regardless of what your reasoning is, we all take the same classes, deal with the same professors, and we all have our moments.

I’ve found that groups of students in the same nursing program are like a big family who are unconditionally supportive of each other and offer advice when it’s needed the most. We think that every other college student around us has it so easy, but we know that is not necessarily true. Every major can prove difficult; we’re just a little harder on ourselves. Whenever you feel overwhelmed with your school work and you want to give up, give yourself a minute to imagine where you’ll be in five years -- somewhere in a hospital, taking vitals, and explaining to a patient that everything will be OK. Everything will be worth what we are going through to get to that exact moment.

Remember that the stress and worry about not getting at least a B+ on your anatomy exam is just a small blip of time in our journey; the hours and dedication suck, and it’s those moments that weed us out. Even our advisors tell us that it’s not easy, and they remind us to come up with a back-up plan. Well, I say that if you truly want to be a nurse one day, you must put in your dedication and hard work, study your ass off, stay organized, and you WILL become the nurse you’ve always wanted to be. Don’t let someone discourage you when they relent about how hard nursing is. Take it as motivation to show them that yeah, it is hard, but you know what, I made it through.

With everything you do, give 110 percent and never give up on yourself. If nursing is something that you can see yourself doing for the rest of your life, stick with it and remember the lives you will be impacting someday.

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