You're shaking. Your stomach is in knots. Your heart is racing and you're thinking, "Is this happening to me?" You've heard about it and seen it on T.V. before, but you never thought it'd happen to you, especially like this. This isn't a natural disaster; it's your first heartbreak.

Let's be real, heartbreaks suck. And the first one is the worst. It's one of the worst feelings a person can feel. It's like your world is ending, but instead of seeing it all fall around you on the floor, you see it when you look in the mirror.

You can barely see yourself in the mirror because of all the tears. Your eyes are swollen for crying for God knows how long. You feel physically drained. You don't want to eat. You can't sleep. You don't want to do anything. It's as if a part of you is gone and is never coming back. It's like watching all of your hopes and dreams with this person fall to shambles and no matter how hard you tried, it wasn't enough.

But that was then. This is now. Yes, it still hurts. When you hear about them and their new relationship, it still hurts. You can't pretend that you never fell in love and that it didn't mean anything, when it meant everything to you. But now, you look back and realize how much better you are.

There's a reason why you two didn't work out, and you might not know why yet, but you will. When the next person comes along, you'll know why. When the next person comes along and makes you feel ten times better than the last one, you'll know why. When the next person comes along and makes you realize that you never deserved what you wanted to settle for, you'll know why.

Yes, thinking about the heartbreak still stings, and it'll always sting. Knowing that you gave your all for nothing will always hurt, even just a little. But time heals all wounds. Even though the crack will still be there, someone else will come along to help you forget the pain.

For now, you need to focus on yourself. As hard as it is, try not to think about it. Going through heartbreak is rough enough and you don't deserve to keep reliving it in your head. Do whatever you want to do and do the things you wish you could've done when you were in a relationship. Doing what you want will make you happier and remind you of the independence you forget you had. After your first heartbreak, you have to focus on you and your happiness.

Heartbreaks make us go through hell and back, but force us to use all our strength to gain so much more in the end. The storm of heartbreak is the worst part, the aftermath and healing take time. Time will help you. You will feel like yourself but a stronger and overall happier person. You'll look in the mirror you once could barely look at, and realize what a strong, amazing, and confident person you are. It just takes time. Like all natural disasters, heartbreaks happen when we least expect it, but they happen so we can learn and grow.