Has Today's Generation Become More Self-Centered Than Ever Before?

Has Today's Generation Become More Self-Centered Than Ever Before?

Sometimes we need to take a step back from ourselves to realize that we are not the center of the universe

Has today’s generation become more self-centered than ever before?

I am a millennial, and as a millennial, there have been accusations made that this generation has become the self-centered generation. I do think that there is some fact to this strong accusation. I think that people, especially millennials, are too wrapped up in themselves to see that their problems are not as humongous as they appear and that there are other people that matter besides themselves. As cell phones entered our lives and seem to be a necessity in our everyday life, taking photos of ourselves and putting ourselves on various social media platforms has become the social norm. We use social media to present ourselves in a way we want those around us to envision us, but the way we present ourselves is a complete facade. The photos that we post on these sites have been photo-shopped to death and they are posed. These photos did not show how we really are. Nowadays, a person can be denied a friend request based on how presentable he or she looks in a photo.

It seems as if you do not have a connection with social media, you can be considered an outcast. Facebook, etc., you name it, may, in fact, be the cause of self-centeredness. Do we really need to be taking a selfie of what we are eating or what we wearing every day? Why do I care if you got your hair done or went out for a stroll in your neighborhood? Facebook, the heir to the throne of social media, is if you take a moment to think about is making us antisocial. The people on Facebook are not your friends. I bet half the people that we talk to on Facebook are the people we talk to on a day to day basis. Millennials, well let’s not put all the blame on millennials; but let’s face it we were the ones that created the infamous selfie and are the ones that use social media religiously.

YouTube is definitely a site where people post videos to promote themselves and how great they think their lives are. I think YouTube should be specifically for music, movies, and TV shows, not self-promotion. You tubers, a person who creates videos of random topics or promotes a product or themselves, are sometimes famous for doing absolutely nothing and they have tons of viewers and are able to earn an income making videos. Many You tubers post videos about their daily lives, which is called vlogging. These people think that the moment they rise out of bed and hit the hay, their lives are broadcast worthy and everyone cares about every aspect of their day to day lives. Also, by posting yourself on YouTube, there is this desire to look flawless. This need to reach this epitome of perfection within your physical appearance leads to vanity. In almost every vlog I’ve witnessed, a person is always advertising a product that enhances physical appearances. Most of the time while they’re filming this vlog, they are too preoccupied at staring at their own reflections through their camera lens. The only reason why people post videos is to somehow become famous and gain several admirers that want to listen to them go on and on about their day and how amazing they think their lives are.

So here are a couple of questions I want to ask yourself honestly and truthfully.

1.Have you ever used FaceTime on an iPhone and noticed that instead of being intrigued to what the person you are talking to is actually saying you are mostly taking quick glances of yourself to see what the other person is seeing when he or she is having a conversation with you?

2. Are we as millennials truly self-indulgent and would rather put all our efforts in only helping ourselves? Don’t we all want to connect with people and not have technology block out our overall surroundings?

3. If we go far back enough, do you think that we can find the cause of our selfishness? I think that there is a notion that if we concentrate on ourselves rather than others, we are more productive versions of ourselves and reach the achievements that we structurally laid out. Is there a happy medium where we can not only help ourselves but help others?

The reason why we were put on this planet is so that we can interact with others and touch someone else's life. I think that social media is inhibiting our function to communicate with others. We have the power to limit the accessibility to social media, and by eliminating social media, we can notice the people in our lives that we may take for granted, such as neighbors, acquaintances, or a person that does an act of kindness for you once in a great while.

Even the people that we don’t personally know are important, and sometimes we need to take a step back from ourselves to realize that we are not the center of the universe. Our thoughts and opinions do matter, don’t get me wrong; but we should not only care about our own opinions, we should care about the thoughts of others and take the time to process what other people say to us.

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My stepdad has done any and every thing for me. From when I was little until now. He was and still is my go-to. If I was hungry, he would get me food. If something was broken, he would fix it. If I wanted something, he would normally always find a way to get it. He didn't spoil me (just sometimes), but he would make sure that I was always taken care of.

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Yup, the tough one. My stepdad has taught me things that I would have never figured out on my own. He has stood beside me through every mistake. He has been there to pick me up when I am down. My stepdad is like the book of knowledge: crazy hormonal teenage edition. Boy problems? He would probably make me feel better. He just always seemed to know what to say. I think that the most important lesson that I have learned from my stepdad is: to never give up. My stepdad has been through three cycles of leukemia. He is now in remission, yay!! But, I never heard him complain. I never heard him worry and I never saw him feeling sorry for himself. Through you, I found strength.

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Social Media Can Bridge The Gap Of Communication Between The Two Genders

We have small devices hidden in the back pockets of our jeans that give us access to billions of users across the Internet, and all it takes is one post to spark a revolution.


You spend time at least once a week going through your social feed. You even spend time once a day going through your social feed.

There is a power in the words you speak and post online, and these very words can impact others' lives, negatively or positively. As an example, according to the Huffington Post, women are met with being "…ignored, trivialized, or criticized by men…" online mainly because the rift between the two genders prevents proper communication.

Gender equality can be achieved by online engagement, or posting. In some cases, though, the opposite can be true. I personally love Instagram and will occasionally find myself scrolling through posts recommended by the platform itself simply so I can waste time and complain about that later. A few weeks ago, I happened to be relapsing into my Instagram addiction and found myself particularly drawn to a certain post by Rowan Blanchard, which had a caption reading that "Cis men are violent and dangerous and until numbers prove [her] wrong [she] won't be able to not make statements that can't be read as vague."

Now, MSNBC identifies activism today as "…easier than ever…" thanks to social media, with "…[facilitated] public dialogues and… a platform for awareness…," but the caption of Blanchard's post shown is not activism at its finest. In a brief synopsis, activist Rowan Blanchard, who you may know from the show "Girl Meets World," addresses her distaste for men, going so far as to generalizing them as dangerous. In my opinion, this is one step backward in the fight for equality rather than a step forward.

Men and women alike have our differences that we consistently brush over in angry online comments but never truly sit down and discuss. The presence of a civil conversation between members of opposing sides of the gender argument is astonishing, and I myself have never seen one online. These conversations act like haunting illusions of a future we can only dream of, as if such a situation is purely unattainable otherwise.

We fawn over the thought, calling ourselves servants at the hands of a society where men and women can join each other and claim that there is no reason to feel unequal. The idea is breathtaking, and the friendships between men and women would be endless. Unfortunately, modern-day social media displays misogyny, misandry, animosity and all forms of verbal destruction against both genders that I feel sorry to merely acknowledge.

Before I took a break from being active on social media, I used Instagram to showcase my thoughts on these issues. I found it compelling to have an audience of my close friends and acquaintances listening as I explained and rationalized about online sexism repeatedly.

Occasionally, the topic sparked up friendly conversation about disagreements, and being honest, I felt threatened by how unthreatening the discussion was. It was as if I was asking for a reason to feel angry, to feel offended, but I instead was met with the harsh reality that social media can allow engagement in normal conversation.

The culture that revolves around online discussion is brash and led by emotion rather than by statistics, and while Blanchard may claim that she wants precise statistics before she alters her position against men, many online still fail to recognize the validity of such numbers. Her use of a hasty generalization clearly shows the lack of structure within her argument; I may be solely pointing her out, but her rationale stands as an example of the obstacles we face in the path to gender equality.

MSNBC used Twitter demographics to explain the impact of current events revolving around gender debates on the amount of discussion about sexism, and the results show that social media holds power. It holds hope and determination and serves as a pathway to a society where we may be able to hold hands and know we have no fear of being inferior to one another. Our generation is accustomed to seeing this magnitude of a response online, but when imagining every person who tweeted about this, there is potential change that we can visualize.

We have small devices hidden in the back pockets of our jeans that give us access to billions of users across the Internet, and all it takes is one post online to go viral. Within minutes, we can reach out to hundreds or thousands of people, updating them about our lives. With the ability to contact an enormous number of people, the only question you are left to ask yourself is, "How will you bring about a positive change to social equality?"

Your response to this question is being awaited every moment of your life.

Disclaimer: Please note that this has been a speech previously submitted as an assignment in a class.

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