Why do you do that? Why do you leave us waiting? And then call us obsessive and crazy when we text you first one time? Why do you leave us hanging feeling like we did something wrong when in reality you’re just getting back with your ex? Okay, that last one was slightly passive aggressive but still, why are you not texting us back? We can take upfront rejection a whole lot better than ghosting. Ghosting is aggravating and insulting, much more insulting than rejection. We understand that not every guy/girl isn’t going to like us, we get that. But why not just tell us?
I have had this happen to me many times, and most of the time I didn’t do anything wrong, I didn’t over text them, I didn’t text them first (if I did it was once or twice), I didn’t talk about what the future might hold, I didn’t do anything that would qualify me as crazy or obsessive. The thing that gets me about this though is that since when did it become a thing to call a girl who knows what they want and has confidence enough to text first crazy. I, personally, don’t care if a guy decides he doesn’t like me, however, I do care if someone just decides to go ghost on me, for no reason, it’s offensive.
Text us back, especially if you’re interested, we worry and overthink to the highest degree. We go from thinking that we are annoying to that we did something wrong to that you hate us. Its very exhausting and I know that it just makes us sound crazy, like why can’t we just go on about our day? The thing is that we become used to talking to you throughout the day every day after only 3 days. Yes, three days of constant contact is literally all it takes for us to get used to it, used to you, so when you don’t text us back it rattles us.
There are plenty of fish in the sea, stop making us go crazy by not texting us back because you’re not interested, just tell us so we can cast out the net again. Okay, that was a weird metaphor, but you get my point. We are women! We can handle rejection and everything in between, what we don’t like to handle is being ignored. We don’t need a someone else to make us question ourselves, we have enough insecurities on our own.
I cannot stand being ghosted on, especially when I have no idea why. I prefer being told upfront about things, and so does like 90% of the rest of the female population. Ghosting isn’t the way tell us that you’re not interested, that we’re not your type, that you aren’t feeling us anymore, that you’re dumb and back with your ex, etc. A simple “I’m not interested in you anymore,” or “I still love her,” or “I’m not into this”, or “She cheated on me but I want to try again,” those all work just as well. Okay, a couple of those are once again me being slightly passive aggressive but still, they’re all much better than ghosting on us. Point of the matter is that don’t ghost, grow a pair and use your words.
