I’m sure many of us have been here before. You get into a heated argument with the guy you’re talking to or dating, and he pulls out the C-word. But do guys really understand what crazy means? Their definition of it would be a girl being upset when he doesn’t want to deal with the situation, and personally I might define crazy as his girl showing up to his house and setting all of his belongings on fire. But men have decided to throw around this word to shame girls for feeling a certain way, and these are some reasons I hate being called crazy.
Being mad vs. being “crazy."
People make other people mad. This does not mean that reacting to being mad is being crazy. There’s almost always a good reason for women to act the way they do towards men. Yes, we’re going to be mad if you are talking to other girls, or if you’re ignoring us, or if you’re just being a jerk. And here’s when the crazy word comes out. You either a) can’t take blame for what you’ve done, or b) you don’t want to deal with us being upset. This isn’t psychotic behavior, this is simply having feelings. Misunderstanding why someone is upset is very different from being crazy.
Being called crazy makes me feel crazy.
“Wow he said I was crazy, maybe I shouldn’t feel this way,” is just one of the things that go through my head when I’m called this word. It makes women feel stupid for feeling the way they do, or it makes them feel stupid for bringing up the situation in the first place. It teaches us to bottle our feelings up and never wanting to open up again. You feel like you can’t understand your own emotions just because they can’t. Calling someone crazy for caring about you and their future with you is a bit too far of a stretch.
Being called crazy makes the situation worse.
Not only am I mad for whatever I was mad about, but when I get called crazy, I get furious. I’ve come to the conclusion that boys will use this word specifically to ignite a new fight, so maybe we would forget why we were mad in the first place. I promise, it does not work. You are now accountable for two fights, and an even angrier girl. It makes us more defensive, and more likely to be mad for a longer period of time. It also makes the man look like the victim. He’ll go tell his friends how his girl is crazy, and he gets all of the sympathy for having to deal with it. Poor you, right?
All and all, being called crazy makes girls irate. And I can’t say that there aren’t girls out there who have done extreme things before. Maybe she did set all of your belongings on fire, but it’s more likely that she acted in a way you did not know how to handle. Think about the circumstances at play before you think about calling a woman crazy.