Generally, one side argues that flirting outside of your relationship is harmless. Some have even said it's part of a healthy relationship. While the other side of the argument, concludes that one should stay in their lane and focus on their partner. I personally agree with the latter.

Storytime: During a recent swipe session, I matched with a cute guy that I actually already happened to know. He seemed nice and he's pretty tall, which is always a plus. We had a decent number of common interests and soon enough I was actually quite smitten with him. We'd been talking for a few days, and eventually, the conversation shifted towards making plans to hang out. We had spoken in person a few times by then so I was comfortable with this, and I started picturing a cute hiking date because this is what girls do. So as I was anticipating our plans to materialize into a date, I decided to check out all of his socials. If you're a girl on the prowl lately, you understand the importance of the ritualistic and intense media stalking of your potential flings. I first snooped around on Instagram, because we were already communicating through "DMs".

This is where I feel idiotic. He had pictures on his profile with a girl. I assumed she was his ex-girlfriend because there hadn't been a recent picture of them for a few months. Naturally, I asked my roommate what she thought and she agreed that he might just be a chill guy who is civil with his ex. To be honest, this is the only explanation I wanted to accept at the time because it would be really crappy if they were still together. Right?

Well last weekend, they went to the beach together. I was so annoyed that I posted a poll on my Instagram story asking, "Is flirting cheating?" He saw it, and coincidentally his post about his trip with his girlfriend was gone shortly after. Even after this, I was still holding out for this guy. But alas, I found his girlfriend's Facebook profile and she is still "so proud" of him and everything he is doing. It seems like she really loves him, and I truly hope they have an honest relationship. However, he should have been honest with me if he is in some kind of open relationship with this girl.

The moral of the story is, flirting outside of your committed relationship is unfaithful. No one deserves to be manipulated into being the "other woman" and nobody wants to date a cheater.