We’ve all been there, trying to explain why a certain guy could never be an interest, why some guys are friends in different degrees, and how some guys really start in our hearts as friends but become so much more.
I am the Hermione Granger type. You know? Strong willed. Sassy. Opinionated. Passionate. Book nerd. Likes definitions. You get the picture.
I just wish I had the magic part… Come on let’s be real this would be this best thing EVER!
There are so many things we can learn from these books. J.K. Rowling is #goals. Love her. Now to get into this, have you ever had a hard time distinguishing your relationships with guys? I know I have struggled with this, especially since it can change over time.
One day it hit me while watching Harry Potter: the story and relationships between characters are the basis for how to explain our relationships. Thank you, J.K. Rowling, for making life less complicated.
So let’s get into it, shall we?
Who is your Neville? Harry? Ron? Draco?
Neville – the guy who is your friend that you don’t have feelings for but he also isn’t your best friend either. This is the majority of the guys you know.
Harry – he is the guy who is your best friend but you don’t feel romantic about him. You both know where you stand and this is the most pivotal part of your friendship. Sometimes a guy may be a Neville but he can’t be a Harry without 1) being your best friend 2) isn’t a romantic interest 3) he also has to know 1 & 2. Harry knew the entire time where he and Hermione stood. The line was clear, he was like her brother and that is what makes their relationship so amazing.
Ron – the guy that makes you defy logic, which in and of itself is a miracle because logic is one of your defining qualities. He is the guy you want to run up and hug but force yourself to remain calm so you hug Harry instead because Harry is safe.
Now we can’t forget about Draco either. He is the guy who pushes your buttons, but not in a good way. He is the guy you wouldn’t even call a friend because he is the definition of a jerk. You know? The guy you put in his place when needed.How can you distinguish your Harry from your Ron?
Looking at it I asked myself which guy is the one I like? RON. Duh. He is charming, downright hysterical, but mostly there is more to him than first meets the eye. Then there is Harry. We all want a Harry in our lives. He is the guy who might as well be your brother because you are so close. He is the guy friend you get advice from when Ron is being stupid.
Ron is the guy you cry over and this is proof that he is the Ron and not Harry of your life. Ron is the one guy who can break your heart as well as make you fly in one look or one word. Keep in mind this guy may have been the “friend” for a while but he made his way into your heart and it really didn’t take much. However, it did take a lot for Hermione to admit it.
So...
Who is your Harry?
Who is your Ron?
No complication. Next time you have to explain the type of relationship you have with a guy friend use the Harry Potter Guide to Guy Friends. Your Harry can’t be your Ron it is just that simple.
