Friendships, while they are something we as humans crave, they are also something that can cause a lot of stress. In high school, I only had a handful of people that I was close to and my friend group slowly got smaller and smaller as the years of high school went on.
My freshman year of college was rough. I went to a new state, to a new college that no one else in my graduating class was going to. I had a blank slate with new people.
By the end of my experience at that college I found out I was really only close to my roommates and making the decision to leave them was one of the hardest ones I ever had to make. They saw and helped me through what felt like rock bottom.
My sophomore year I transferred back home, back to where I was comfortable and where I knew I would succeed. However, the small friend group I had in high school had faded and the people I knew at my new college I wasn't close enough with to just piggyback on their already formed friendships.
That was when I decided to rush, and I met my now amazing group of girls. The groups of girls I met within my sorority was what I always wanted but never really had.
Being friends with 7 of the most amazing girls is something I am truly grateful for. Meeting them the beginning of my junior year was the saving grace I needed after a rough year.
Now it’s the point in the friendship where you start to find your person. Someone who gets you a little more than everyone else. The Christina to your Meredith.
It’s inevitable that in a group of 7 you are going to find someone you click with more than someone else, but how do you do that without hurting the feelings of the others or making the others feel as though you don’t care?
In my group of 7, I feel a valuable connection with each and every one of those girls. They all bring something so valuable to my life and I couldn’t imagine not having them. I don’t like to think that there are better friendships among our 7 that don’t include me. However, that would be childish.
Stuck between a rock and a hard place.
How do you evenly love all of your friends? How aren’t there “favorites”?
Truth is, there are no favorites. There are no better friends. These 7 girls are my people, they are my family.
I do know that I love all 7 of those girls, and i couldn’t get through the day-to-day college bullshit without them.
