A Letter To The Man Who I May Not Always Get Along With

A Letter To The Man Who I May Not Always Get Along With

Your father is half of the reason you are alive today. Although it's not always smooth sailing, the love will always be there.


To my dearest father,

I hope I tap into your heart and your tear ducts with this. Although you are not the fondest of me right now, today is a special day for you, as well as myself and the family. Today is your birthday. The day you were brought to the face of this Earth by your dear mother.

Wow, all these years of experience, wisdom, and most importantly life. If it weren't for this day, May 11th, me and my siblings would not be here today. As much as I act irrationally, radically, and spontaneously, I never mean to hurt your feelings. You brought me to this planet. I fully understand that you want to take very good care of your offspring. You don't want to see any of your kids failing at life. You may think that I shrug off all your lectures, but I soak them in.

You've come so far in life and I can't afford to lose any bit of golden advice I can get. I may not apply them right away, but they swarm my thoughts. I always think to myself, "What do you think dad would say/do about this?" prior to making my decisions. Yes, 99.9% of the time it results in me acting dumb anyways, but you have the right to be mad. You always tell me things to help me and believe me, I'm always thinking about it.

Anyways, I would love to thank you. I want to thank you for everything. Thank you for giving birth to me. Thank you for loving me when I mess up. Thank you for loving me unconditionally. Thank you for being such a strong support system. Thank you for not making me a spoiled brat and making me work for things. Thank you for all your lectures. Thank you for yelling at me when I do something wrong. Thank you for all the laughs you give me. And most importantly, thank you for dedicating your life to our family.

Your work is not as appreciated as it should be. I would have not gotten this far in life if it weren't for you. I know I don't show as much love or appreciation as I should, but I am beyond grateful to have you. In fact, I wanna be just like you. An established, successful adult with a beautiful family. You are one of the most powerful men in my eyes. The road you took to get where you are was rocky but you persevered, and that speaks volumes to me.

Not only that, you're such a hard worker, as well. I'm in a phase right now, but I'm looking for the light at the end of the tunnel. You're in this dark tunnel with me, holding my hand and navigating the dark with a flashlight. There comes a point when the batteries in the flashlight die, and you let go of my hand to return home.

I'll be on my own soon, and thus far you have given me so much knowledge and life lessons. This will make my way out of the tunnel much easier than having to stumble upon rocks in the dark. I can't write down the amount of gratitude, love, admiration, and appreciation I have for you.

You're amazing, Dad. So here's to another year, another month, another week, another day, another hour, another minute, and another second basking in your presence! Here's to a million more years, Pops. Here's to more love, more laughs, and more life. Happy birthday, Dad.

Lots of love,


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Dear Mom, From Your Daughter In College

Here are all the things our phone calls aren't long enough to say.

Dear Mom,

Do you remember when I was three and we would play together?

It was the age of princesses and carpet that was actually lava, and you were the prettiest woman in the whole wide world. Do you remember when I was in high school and the world seemed too big and scary? You would know exactly when to take me on a mother-daughter date and have me laughing about anything and everything, and you were the smartest woman in the whole wide world.

Now, I'm buried in homework and deadlines hours away from you and we don't get to talk as much you want, but you're still the prettiest, smartest woman in the whole wide world.

I'm sorry that I don't call you as much as I should, and you know a lot of what goes on in my world via posts and pictures. Our schedules just seem to never line up so we can have the three-hour conversations about everything like I want to. I know we don't agree on absolutely everything, but I cherish every piece of advice you give me, even though it probably seems like I'm hardly listening.

I know that sometimes we get on each other's nerves, but thank you for putting up with me for all of these years. Thank you for listening to me cry, complain, question things and go on and on about how everything in college is. I know I don't come home as much as I used to, but I think about you all the time. After all, you're my first friend, and therefore, my best friend.

Thank you for celebrating my successes with me, and not downing me too hard for my failures. Thank you for knowing what mistakes I shouldn't make, but letting me make them anyway because you want me to live my life and be my own person. Thank you for knowing when to ask about the boy I've been talking about, and when to stop without any questions. Thank you for letting me be my crazy, weird, sometimes know-it-all self.

Thank you for sitting back and watching me spread my wings and fly. There is no way I could have known how to grow into the woman I am today if I hadn't watched you while I was growing up so I would know what kind of person I should aspire to be. Thank you for being the first (and the best) role model I ever had. You continue to inspire and amaze me every day with all that you do, and all that you are.

I don't know how I got so lucky to have a person in my life like you, but I thank the Lord every night for blessing me with the smartest, prettiest person to be my best friend, my role model, my confidant, my person and most importantly, my mother.


Your daughter

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Your Relationship With Your Parents Changes Over Time, Here's Why

Four ways in which your relationship with your parents change from age eighteen to twenty-two.


Over spring break I had time to think about all the different ways in which my relationship with my parents has changed throughout college. We've definitely had our ups and downs, but as graduation grows closer, I take time to note how far we have come. From freshman to senior year of college I have undergone a drastic change in how I appreciate my parents.

At eighteen, I wanted to get as far away from my parents as possible. I was going to college in order to be independent, study, and hopefully make a career for myself. Nothing could stop me and no one could give me advice. I was stubborn and hungry to explore the new life that awaited me. I didn't realize how hard it would be being on my own for the first time ever. I had never even been to camp let alone moved to a different state not knowing a single soul. I was happy for the new opportunities but quickly realized how much I had been sheltered. Initially, I resented my parents for my little life experience going into college but as the years have passed I realized I can't be so immature to put my lack of knowledge on them. As an adult I now make things work and advocate for myself. Your struggles as an individual humble you so you can come back together better and stronger than before.

Here are some ways in which the relationship between you and your parents change:

1. You don't live together 24/7, so you appreciate time spent with them.

When you're not sharing a space with your parents and they are not there to nag at you about chores, you finally get to know them as people. As an adult yourself you begin to relate to them in ways that weren't possible in childhood.

2. You realize what is worth fighting over and what is not.

You have learned how to live on your own and set boundaries. As an adult, you come back home knowing what can be improved upon within the relationship and what are things you can let go.

3. You have experience with adulthood now and can understand how really great they are.

Adult struggles are real and now as someone older and wiser, you have experienced a great many. You then begin to realize how your parents took on all these responsibilities plus the responsibility of raising/providing for you. You don't know how they did it, but suddenly you're mad at sixteen-year-old you who fought them on everything.

4. They are your biggest support system in wanting you to achieve your dreams.

There is no one quite as invested in your dreams like your parents. When you have no one to turn to and nothing to give you that extra boost of motivation, parents are there. They may not be perfect but they love you more than anyone so call your parents.

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