The world works in mysterious ways, like when people win the lottery, or long lost twins bump into each other on the train. Or even when you find yourself looking at your best friend and realizing just how much you love being with them, and how their nose is just the tiniest bit crooked, and how their laugh is something you want to hear every single day.
It isn't uncommon to fall for a best friend, what is uncommon is to act on those feelings. Most of the time, we're scared. Scared of ruining friendships, scared that it's all in your head, scared that maybe they don't feel the same way. So we stop, we shut ourselves down to the possibility and close off our hearts.
Don't.
Whatever you do, don't shut down and let your fear rule you. Don't deny yourself happiness because of some self-doubt. Take that boy or girl, take your best friend and make them yours. Ask them out to coffee, or further yet out to dinner. Take that step because there's nothing that can happen that is worse than not seizing your own happiness.
Whatever you do, make sure that it is what will you make you happy, because ultimately that is the most important thing. You being happy and content with your life. I've been there, I know. I know how hard it can be to take that leap of faith and simply fall.
To fall for someone doesn't feel much like flying, not at first anyways. In the beginning, it's full of panic, you don't know if you're right or wrong, or have no grounds to feel the way you do. When I first realized that I had feelings for someone, let's call him Carlos, I was positively terrified. For days I fought with myself about whether or not I was crazy, or if he would even like me back, or if I had made up everything in my head and was just being a great fool. It was from there that I made a decision. I decided to be happy despite what anyone told me. I decided to fall. And let me tell you, allowing myself to be open to the possibility of being with him has been the best thing I've done in months.
Dating your best friend is something beyond wonderful. You know each other, so that awkward first date, trial period doesn't exist. You're already comfortable with each other so there's no need to try and impress them. Your weirdness clicks together which makes you good friends, but you see beyond that and that's what makes you good together. With Carlos, I don't feel awkward, or unsure of myself. Every minute I spend with him, whether we're alone or with our friend group, is utterly amazing. He makes me laugh and smile and I couldn't imagine not spending my days with him. He's my favorite person and I'm lucky to not just call him my boyfriend, but my best friend. Every day I'm amazed by the multitude of little things that I simply adore about him. How his nose is just the smallest bit off center, how his eyes crinkle when he smiles and laughs, and how embarrassed he can get when words just don't work. I'm absolutely crazy about him, and everything he does.
So go out there and tell them how you feel. Open yourself up to the terrifying possibility of dating someone who knows you as so much more than a pretty face they saw from across the store. Allow yourself to be happy because it might just be the decision that changes your life.
