Everyone says that in college you are going to make your real, true friends that you'll have for a lifetime.

Not to say your high school friends weren't real or meaningful, but it was different. In high school you were friends due to proximity; you grew up with them and watched them develop into the great people they are today. But your friendship was based on the fact that you've always just been friends , you've always known them. But they have different interests than you, behave differently than you, and sometimes its just awkward. You couldn't really bond beyond a certain point because you were just different. It also felt strange because you don't want to be that person that "changes" but at the same time you've changed. So when you're around these friends you "act" rather than be yourself, furthering the awkward, closed friendship. You'll always be friends, but it won't be the same after you come back from college.

Then you go to college, worried about making friends. Will I be alone this entire time? I have trouble meeting new people and feel intensely awkward. Your mother tells you "don't forget to leave your dorm and try to make friends with everybody; pretend to be an extrovert." Turns out there isn't much to worry about since everybody is basically just as desperate to make friends. You start by exchanging numbers with your new friends, and before you know it you have a full contact list of people you probably wont ever see again.

But there's also some people you'll met again and again. People that you shared so many interests and hobbies with; "you like Sherlock too? Wow you also listen to Panic! at the Disco?" Then the topic would diverge into politics and sociology and you realized you've found your squad. But its more than just your interests, its how our dynamic and chemistry clicks. All of us don't like to party or drink, we prefer to stay in doors and play board games or watch Black Mirror. We love trying new restaurants but can't stand to be in public for more than a few hours. You could be doing anything with them and it would be fun. They understand you, and you understand them.

Your college friends are going to be your closest friends because you bonded over more than just your location and your past.

I'll always remember one dark and rainy night where one of my closer high school friends, Diamond (code name), was mentioning how last week her father's college friend flew out from Denver on a business trip and decided to meet his friend/ her father. They were best friends in college until they graduated and hadn't seen each other in more than ten years.

But what's going to happen after college? What's going to happen when you all graduate and leave each other? Will you still be friends after a few years? Or will it be the same situation as your high school friends?

We always forget just how much choice we have in our lives. If you want to, you can stay in a nearby location as your friends. The reason more people leave their friends is because they are prioritizing a job over their social lives. It won't be easy after graduation, but if you want to see your friends more often, that is up to you. You are in control of your life.