When I first arrived at college for move-in day, I was full of excitement. My family helped me unload and unpack bright and early before the summer heat. We spent the day cleaning, decorating, and organizing. It was a lot, but also a lot of fun. After my roommate arrived and we were both settled in, my family left for home. With hall meetings, Freshman events, and preparing for classes, my mind was kept occupied. It didn't really hit me until after the first week of classes. I started to miss my family, high school friends, and hometown.

Homesickness is as icky as it sounds. When you are alone, you feel lonely and isolated. Unfamiliar surroundings and people lead to a longing for known comforts. Then, you begin to withdraw from activities and refrain from trying new things. Some people even experience anxious and depressive behaviors and thoughts.

There are a few things I like to remember when it comes to homesickness:

1. It is OK

You are not alone! It is ok to be homesick, especially if you are first starting college or living in a new place. In fact, it is a very common and natural feeling to experience. Know that your feelings are valid and it is ok to feel negative emotion.

2. Talk to Someone

Sometimes, if strong emotions are kept bottled up, they can grow stronger and it can be hard to deal with alone. Talk to a friend or mentor about your homesickness. Talking through it can help you find new perspectives and ways to overcome and cope with your feelings. Colleges also offer a multitude of helpful resources for students, such as campus counselors and resident assistants.

3. Make a Homely Space

Whether it's a cozy blanket, a picture, or a favorite pillow, bring pieces and objects from home to decorate your new space with. By making your living environment more comfortable, the less strange and foreign it will feel.

4. Get Involved

When feeling homesick, it can be so easy to fall into isolation. Keeping busy with fun activities and programs can help you connect to others and explore the campus. Attend that arts and crafts event at the student center or invite someone to go watch a sports game. It will take some effort and branching out, but eventually you will establish a home away from home. Homesickness will not last forever!

5. Be Positive and Hopeful

Keep a growth mindset and try doing something positive that brings you joy. For me, that entails journaling, listening to my favorite music, and making a gratitude list. You can be and create sunshine! Be hopeful. Call or video chat with your family every once in a while. Look forward to a brighter future and the things to come :)

- M