Ever since high school I remember hearing, “Don’t be the nice guy; nice guys always finish last.” Nice guys say this all the time and end up turning into douchebags because they think it's want girls want. I mean, girls, let us be honest for a second here-- we do love our bad boys. But why? Why do we actually get obsessed with them?
Number one, because they are assertive. Confidence is key, people. You think we want to be with these guys because I know they are douchebags; no, it’s because first and foremost they are assertive. They know what they want. Sure, in most cases if we are in fact talking about a douchebag he just wants you to get in his pants, but pushing that aside, at least he has a goal and is going to do anything in his power to succeed (and then when he does, he’ll probably stop texting you, but anyway). Normal guys need to be assertive. Who said you cannot be nice and assertive? No one. It is not that we do not like you because you are nice; it is because we feel like we run the relationship. I do not need you to ask me what I want to do and where I want to eat all the time. You decide, be assertive, and be aggressive. Just to clarify, you can do all of those while still being a nice guy.
Number two, because they are somewhat of a mystery. A lot of time, the “nice guys” lay everything out on the table, but that is not as fun as getting to know someone piece by piece. Girls are attracted to these bad boys because we just do not know who they are; they are something we can try to open up. It's like a game almost. Why is he the way he is? Let us try and make him talk about himself, learn more. I know boys love the chase; well, girls do as well. It cannot be too easy, and the so-called nice guys a lot of times make it that way.
That is it. That is literally it. Two things, two things are all you “nice boys” need. The point is, girls love nice guys. For this day and age, #relationshipgoals are everywhere or cute pictures of presents or date ideas boyfriends have done for their girlfriends. Girls love it. Constantly girls are retweeting and simply tweeting about how they wish someone would do that for them. You think douchebags are going to do that for them? You think they are going to go out of their way for any girl? Of course not (unless the douche is trying to get in your pants), but the nice guy is and we know it. We all want that fairy tale. That’s all every girl wants. A guy to love her and treat her with respect and kindness. The “nice guys” are those guys. The nice guy is the one who randomly shows up on your doorstep with a smile, or will be there for you no matter what he’s doing; that is who we want and that is who we need. So instead of saying, “Don’t be the nice guy; nice guys always finish last,” think about it differently because I promise you are seeing it wrong. We all know you have a wonderful, nice personality, so just throw in a pinch of assertiveness, confidence, and mystery and you’ll be perfect.
