Where would you draw the line? When would you say someone has the right to leave? Two minutes after they start feeling uncomfortable? Two days? Two months? Two years? How long is too long?
You ignored what warning signs you saw and stayed anyway...the biggest reason hoping maybe things would change. But with every fight, every conversation, every action you don't see, (but are told about) you thought that things would get better.
Nothing ever changes…..so when it is enough? When is it finally time to say goodbye?
Everything at one time or another goes through “rough patches,” and I’m no life expert, but rough patches don't mean that things change for a few days or weeks, and then go back to exactly what they were. I don't always know the best ways to handle situations when they're thrown at me but I know this; your self-worth is not validated by those who can't seem to understand you for all that you are and you should never have to settle just because it's the best you can come up with.
For example, maybe you have a job in which you always feel like you are failing in, maybe you are friends with someone who never makes you feel like you matter, constantly bringing you down to make themselves feel better, or maybe you or someone you know is in a relationship that you know you can be better without if you just had that extra bit of confidence to walk away from them.
I see it way more often than I’d like, you're so afraid to walk away from something that has done nothing but destroy you. You fear one day that you won't be able to find yourself anymore because you spent so much time running after something and someone that never existed. You stayed because you were comfortable, and you don't have to. Learn to be kinder to yourself and create that chance for freedom to take risks.
For many years, I refused anything new and stayed in situations I knew I could be better without. There was so much comfort in the madness, and that's just it. Comfort. I never wanted anything else because staying where I was... was all I needed. And not having to explain myself for being who I was... was easier than starting over.But boy was I wrong, the best part is breaking free and finding out that no matter what situation you find yourself in, there is always something better out there for you. Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life and that you didn't settle for it.
