Everyone wants to find the perfect Little to love and cherish and spoil for the rest of your college years, but first, you must find her. You would think that this should be the easiest process, since it is easy to tell who you get along with, but this is potentially one of the biggest decisions you will make in your four years in your sorority. You just cannot mess it up.
It all begins on bid day. Every active is scoping out their potential, Little, Grand Little, or Great Grand Little by searching for similarities in interest, hometown, majors, etc. For some girls it is easy, because they know new members from home, or camp, or other familial or friend connections, while for some of us, we know virtually no one. However, actives aren’t the only ones who do this. The new girls have been stalking you on Facebook since preference to see who they want to involve themselves with for the rest of their college careers, and to find that one person who will mean the world to them. And sometimes, it is just meant to be.
My experience with finding my Big is also the story of why I decided to join my chapter. Sometimes you just have a gut feeling about things, and on preference day I knew who my Big would be and she is the reason I am where I am today.
Finding a Little is something that should come easy, because it is the person you have the most unconditional love for without them having to do anything special. She is special just because she is herself, and that is the best part. I knew I met my Big when she addressed all of the concerns I had about recruitment and sororities in general on preference day. She knew exactly what I needed to hear to get me to join the house, and I am so glad that I did.
When looking for a little, the most important thing for me is finding someone I can see myself being friends with twenty years from now because that is the kind of the relationship that she would have. Also, it has to be such a pure connection that no matter what you both would choose each other over anyone else.
Not only am I searching for the perfect Little, but all of my other sisters are as well, so that is where we run into the problem. Finding a Little is all fun and games until you find out that your best friend wants one of the girls you are interested in as well. The problem with wanting the same girls is that no matter what, you need to allow the girls to select you just like you select them, and not let your desires get in the way of who they should actually be with.
Happy Little hunting, ladies!!!
