We all have those days where we feel like we just aren't good enough for anyone. We constantly worry and think about the things that we aren't good at or need to hide so we don't feel inferior to those around us. I have had these thoughts all the time. Not necessarily about what other people might think about me but more about if I can do something, anything, right. It is this self-doubt that holds us back. I know others out there who have this same gnawing feeling day in and day out and there is something I want all of you to know.
To those of you who feel like you aren't good enough I want you to stop. It sounds difficult to conquer this feeling. But I have a question for you. Who or what are you comparing yourself to when making that assumption? Not good enough compared to Jimbo over there with a million bucks? No. Just. Stop. The only time you should be looking at other people in comparison to yourself is if you are trying to see what you can do to help them. We all grow up and go through completely different circumstances to shape the people we are today. For the longest time, I felt like I was not good enough because my father left. Then my stepdad came and I still felt like I wasn't good enough for the longest time. But my stepdad eventually became my dad because he made me feel like a human being who isn't perfect, but isn't horrible either. Find someone who sees your potential and feeds your fire to become better but still makes you feel like you are good enough for you.
To those of you who feel like you have to hide what you like doing because you don't know if you are good at it. Don't! You cannot let other people's opinions hold you back. You never know, you might just be the greatest rapper or dancer of all time. But if you let that self-doubt eat away at you and keep hiding what you like then you will never have a chance to grow as a person and enjoy your life. You should not have to hide who you truly are on account of people who might not like you or what you do. And to those that do trash talk you because you had the guts to do what you like and be proud of it, it might be safe to say that they are either extremely jealous that they didn't have the gall to do what you do and live their lives, or they are just generally toxic people that you don't need anyway.
It took me so long to make myself realize that I needed to stop comparing myself and start living my life for me. I needed to realize that I needed to start being good enough for me rather than the person sitting to my left or right. It's a hard thing to do but it's time that you start writing your story from your point of view. Do what you love, make memories, and be wonderful you because that is exactly what you are. Wonderful.
