Feeling Good Enough Is Not The Answer

To The Girl Who Doesn't Feel Good Enough

"Anything's possible if you've got enough nerve." - J. K. Rowling


As it starts to get into the colder months, I always notice that I am more down on myself. Whether it be with my mental state, how I look or how I treat myself overall. This made me come to the realization that a ton of other girls feels like this almost every day, and that is not okay. We are beautiful and amazing creatures that need to think more of the badass women that we are.

To the girl who feels as though she is not good enough:

You are worthy of so much love, positivity, and happiness. It does not matter what it is. You are you. You are unique. No one can be you and you cannot be anyone else. There is a reason that you are you and that you are here. You are beautiful. You are worthy of more than you think that you. Who else can be a shoulder to cry on? Talk to late at night? Or even go to when your friends have no one else to go to? Not to mention all of the extracurricular things that you probably do. Like a job? Or writing in your journal or for a company like Odyssey.

You are a human being. Your feelings are validated. You have every right to be sad, happy, mad or whatever feeling you have that day. But in the end, remember that there is no one like you. You are so unique. There are no two things that are completely identical. The energy that you bring to this world has nothing on anything else.

Grades, weight, and beauty do not define who you are. You define who you are as a person. You have the ability to make yourself known. To put yourself out there. To get the attention of the boy or girl that you like. To look fricken cute every day or a complete mess.

Whether you have had a moment and need space to work on your mental health or just need a break from everything, know that that is completely okay.

There are so many women who look down on themselves because that is what society has taught us. It seems as though our generation is doing a better job at uplifting others, but what about ourselves? Yes, the self-deprecating jokes can be funny at times, but the more negative you are towards yourself the more apparent that becomes. Not to mention it is not healthy to think so negatively of oneself. So speak up to yourself. Society may tell you every once in a while that you are not enough, but in the end, it is up to you on whether or not you want to agree.

Do that thing you have never thought you would do. Join new clubs. Talk to the cute boy that sits in the corner of your class. Do a new task every day. Write down how you feel.

But do not put yourself into a bubble and think negatively toward yourself. You are capable of so much potential and if you do not push yourself towards it, then what can you amount to?

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27 Things To Do With Your Friends When You're Bored

A little bit of fun for any season.

I am sure many could relate: you are texting or sitting around with your friends and no one knows what they want to do, everyone is bored, and everyone is flat out of ideas that are actually realistic and achievable. Boredom makes an appearance at it's finest moments... always.

Here are 27 things you can do with your friend in just about any season (some are exclusive to a particular season) when boredom takes over!

1. Find a local coffee shop to try out.

2. Or better yet, find a local restaurant that you’ve all been wanting to try.

3. Go shopping at each others' favorite stores.

4. Tie balloons with positive messages inside of them to random places in your town to uplift a few souls.

5. Cook a homemade meal for a homeless person and deliver it.

6. Get crafty and create a time capsule that you and your friends can open after (x) amount of years.

7. Make your own sushi.

8. Plant flowers in little pots for your homes.

9. Road trip to random local cities and do some exploring.

10. Have a photo shoot.

11. Buy or create a blank page’s journal filled art, writing, sketches, and pictures of your friends that can be used as a memory book.

12. Visit a pumpkin patch.

13. Go stargazing in the middle of the night with a blanket and a few midnight snacks.

14. Go to a haunted house.

15. Go to a movie with the group.

16. Have a giant sleepover with board games, snacks, movies, and crazy pajamas.

17. Have a game night with the peeps.

18. Have a gingerbread making contest.

19. Have a bonfire when it gets cool outside.

20. Make homemade ice cream.

21. Search on maps for the nearest natural spring or river and go swimming or canoeing.

22. Take a camera, your group of friends, and stroll around town taking pictures of your adventure.

23. Use the pictures you take on your adventures and create a photo wall in your home.

24. Have a "Madea" movie night.

25. Throw a themed party.

26. Write letters of encouragement to children (or adults) in hospitals.

27. Look up random keywords on YouTube for possibly some of the best videos ever.

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What It's Like Being An Introverted Leader

Different people lead differently.


When you think of the qualities a leader or someone in a leadership position should have, being out-going is often mentioned. However, I don't think that always has to be the case. I've been a part of many different leadership opportunities and programs, yet I'm still the same socially awkward hermit I've always been. Being out-going and extroverted doesn't qualify someone to be a good leader, just like being shy and introverted makes you a bad one, it's about your skills.

When I went to a leadership program at a summer camp, I often heard that I didn't talk very much or I was too quiet and shy for a summer camp entertaining kids, I should have been more talkative. I'd also get a few counselors coming up to be that when they were in the same program I was in, they were also the same things I was and not to worry about it. Even now, I'm still quite and relatively shy person, but that doesn't discredit my ability to be a good leader, or anyone else's.

In my high school ASB (Associated Student Body) class, we took a fun personality test to find out what kind of leaders we were; someone who likes to be in charge, be in the spotlight, more organized, or stay in the background. I got someone who likes to be in the spotlight, which was a surprise to me too, but thinking about it, it makes sense. I'm not overly out-going, but given the right motivation, I don't mind going up to people and striking up a conversation.

I can also say that at some point I have possessed all four of these personalities or traits over the course of my different leadership roles. The reason I'm even bringing this personality test up is that it definitely shows that there are different types of leaders out there, and not all of them have to be extraverted. I tried to find the one I took but couldn't find the exact one, but if you're interested there are a ton of different ones out there.

Over time, I've learned and worked on many valuable skills, like conflict resolution, time management, actually listening to what others have to say, and more. I keep myself up to date with my surroundings and what's going on in the world, and I still meet and hang out with people, when I have time. People grow and learn on their own pace, we should let them without overly critiquing them.

In the end, whether someone is out-going or not shouldn't determine the ability they have to be a good leader, sure in some cases it's better to more extraverted, but it's not a make or break trait. So long as they have their mind in the right place and know how to handle different tasks and situations, it doesn't matter.

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