Going Out As An 'Ambivert,' The Mid-Point Between Introverts & Extroverts

Going Out As An 'Ambivert,' The Mid-Point Between Introverts & Extroverts

We’re different. We don’t fit into either category exactly. We’re just as content hanging out with friends as we are chilling home alone with a good book or our latest Netflix obsession.

On the spectrum of personalities, some of us fall smack in the middle between extrovert and introvert. Some of us are known as ambiverts. We’re different. We don’t fit into either category exactly. We’re just as content hanging out with friends as we are chilling at home alone with a good book or our latest Netflix obsession.

Being an ambivert myself, there are stages that we go through during a night out with friends. Without further adieu, here are five stages of going out, as told by an ambivert.

1. Getting ready

You're pumped. It's been a long week and you need some serious hang time with your friends. So you're all by a mirror perfecting your makeup, finally deciding on jeans or a skirt, telling inside joke after inside joke and jamming to music. Watching you completely content in your element no one would be able to tell that you're not always this outgoing.

2. The arrival

You're vibing some serious squad goals.

3. Going hard

Someone suggested shots. Who was that? Oh right, me.

4. When annoying strangers approach you

When your friends are at the bar and you're holding down the table and somehow that always sends a signal to creepy guys that they should come up and say weird things to you. Times like these remind you how much you like not being around other humans. A more extroverted person might oblige and speak to them for a while, but you understand that this interaction is a waste of both of your time so you cut it short, whatever way you can.

5. Heading home

The introvert side of you is done being social for the night.

6. Home

Alone and OK with it.

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A Letter To The Grandpas Who Left Far Too Soon

The thoughts of a girl who lost both of her grandpas too early.

Dear Grandpa,

As I get older, my memories are starting to fade. I try to cling to every last bit of memory that I have of you. There are certain memories that have stuck well in my brain, and I probably will never forget them, at least I hope I don't. I remember your smile and your laugh. I can still remember how your voice sounded. I never want to forget that. I catch myself closing my eyes to try to remember it, playing your voice over and over in my head so that I can ingrain it in my memory.

I always thought you were invincible, incapable of leaving me. You were so young, and it caught us all by surprise. You were supposed to grow old, die of old age. You were not supposed to be taken away so soon. You were supposed to see me graduate high school and college, get married to the love my life, be there when my kids are born, and never ever leave.

My heart was broken when I heard the news. I don't think I had experienced a pain to that level in my entire life. At first, I was in denial, numb to the thought that you were gone. It wasn't until Thanksgiving, then Christmas, that I realized you weren't coming back. Holidays are not the same anymore. In fact, I almost dread them. They don't have that happy cheer in the air like they did when you were alive. There is a sadness that hangs in the air because we are all thinking silently how we wished you were there. I hope when I am older and have kids that some of that holiday spirit comes back.

You know what broke my heart the most though? It was seeing your child, my parent, cry uncontrollably. I watched them lose their dad, and I saw the pain that it caused. It scared me, Grandpa, because I don't ever want to lose them like how they lost you. I can't imagine a day without my mom or dad. I still see the pain that it causes and how it doesn't go away. There are good days and there are bad days. I always get upset when I see how close people are to their grandparents and that they get to see them all the time. I hope they realize how lucky they are and that they never take it for granted. I wish I could have seen you more so that I could have more memories to remember you by.

I know though that you are watching over me. That is where I find comfort in the loss. I know that one day I will get to see you again, and I can't wait for it. I hope I have made you proud. I hope that all that I have accomplished and will accomplish makes you smile from ear to ear. I hope that the person I marry is someone you would approve of. And I hope that my kids get more time with their grandpa than I did because the amount I got wasn't fair.

I want to say thank you for raising your child to be the best parent ever because they will one day be the best grandparent ever. Just like you.

Cover Image Credit: Katelyn McKinney

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11 Signs Your College Roommates Are Basically Your (Cooler) Parents

Slightly less bossy, definitely as protective.

For many, moving away from family and home to attend college can be a very hard experience. For the first time, you are without an immediate support system and often have to figure things out for yourself. However, if you are lucky, you may be able to find some humans you mesh well with that make your college town feel a little bit more like home. And if you really like them, you may even decide to live with them.

That's what happened with me and my pals. Over the course of the time we have lived together, we really have become like family. My roommates love and take care of me and sometimes even make me dinner. They are basically like a second set of parents and here's why:

1. They bring you your lunch when you forget it at home.

And might even add a cute little note.

2. They clean your room when you have a "friend" coming over but didn't have time to make your bed that morning.

This actually happened to me. T god for Tracy... first room impressions are important.

3. They pick up the snacks you like at the grocery store.

In this case, dairy-free Ben & Jerry's. But only the coffee caramel flavor.

4. They pester you to get your homework done.

While the reasoning may be different (they want you to drink wine with them), the result is the same.

5. They attend all your games/presentations, even though you say you don't care whether or not they come.

But deep down you are very grateful for their support.

6. They know when you're upset.

7. They plan vacations with their significant other but still bring you along.

Shoutout to Sophie and Kyle for letting me crash Memorial Day Chelan trip 2018 <3.

8. They take care of you when you're sick/drunk.

OK so maybe they are a little more understanding of the post-drinking, late-night debauchery than your real parents, but that's OK.

9. They remind you to do your chores.

If you're like us, you may even have a chore chart.

10. They are your personal photographer.

11. They listen to all of your dumb, nonsense "problems."

Cover Image Credit: Sami Newland

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