Going on a Blind Date

Going on a Blind Date

What Guys Really Think About Blind Dates
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By the time I hit 21, I was starting to wonder if it was ever going to happen. A real boyfriend, that is. But my own personal worry was nothing compared to my friends, who'd been on me about it since I hit college. One thing I'd come to learn is that people either found it entirely fine that I'd never dated long-term (my closest friends) or they found it entirely weird (everyone else). Suddenly, so did I.

My college roommate wasted no time on the project right after I let my guard down over beers. I agreed to be set up, so long as it could be kept casual and she'd swear to never tell a soul.

I had a bad feeling about the whole thing, but I also didn't feel like I had tons of other options. She wasn't my BFF, but she lived with me and knew me pretty well, so she must know my type, right?

Getting Dinner

Andy picked me up two floors down from his own dorm room. We hit up a casual diner around the block from a party where we were meeting our mutual friend, my roommate, later. Things started out well enough; he was just as cute as described and just as nervous as I was. I was pleasantly surprised at how non-awkward it felt.

At the diner, Andy brushed the menu aside and sputtered out, "I know what I'm having. You're good right?" And though I'd never been to the place (and often take my precious time ordering) I didn't want to ruffle feathers and ordered the first vegetarian thing I saw.

Getting Grilled







And then it happened. Out of seemingly nowhere, Andy went into "speed dating" mode, quizzing me about my entire life. I tried to keep my composure, but after running down my basic life history, I was starting to get a bit uncomfortable.

Eventually, he shifted to music, which I can talk about at length, but it somehow turned into him lecturing me about my tastes (which apparently conveyed that I was "depressed"). I may have gotten five words in total, and left the restaurant feeling like I'd either just been in therapy or a police interrogation.

Getting It
After a breathless walk to the party, Andy and I went our separate ways. And though I was pretty certain the non-interest was mutual, I spent the rest of the night avoiding him like the plague.

Insulted by the match-up, I wasn't particularly warm to my roommate either. If there's one thing I gained from the whole experience, it was learning that she didn't know me at all. What exactly did she think of me?

Years later, I'm still in the same spot, but I've never let another friend set me up. The truth is, awkwardness aside, sometimes no one knows what you need in a relationship more than you. In my opinion, you're better off waiting and figuring it out on your own.








This article was originally published on Loveawake dating site. Edited and published with permission from the author.

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When You Give A Girl A Dad

You give her everything
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They say that any male can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad. That dads are just the people that created the child, so to speak, but rather, dads raise their children to be the best they can be. Further, when you give a little girl a dad, you give her much more than a father; you give her the world in one man.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her a rock.

Life is tough, and life is constantly changing directions and route. In a world that's never not moving, a girl needs something stable. She needs something that won't let her be alone; someone that's going to be there when life is going great, and someone who is going to be there for her when life is everything but ideal. Dads don't give up on this daughters, they never will.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her a role model.

If we never had someone to look up to, we would never have someone to strive to be. When you give a little girl someone to look up to, you give her someone to be. We copy their mannerisms, we copy their habits, and we copy their work ethic. Little girls need someone to show them the world, so that they can create their own.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her the first boy she will ever love.

And I'm not really sure someone will ever be better than him either. He's the first guy to take your heart, and every person you love after him is just a comparison to his endless, unmatchable love. He shows you your worth, and he shows you what your should be treated like: a princess.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her someone to make proud.

After every softball game, soccer tournament, cheerleading competition, etc., you can find every little girl looking up to their dads for their approval. Later in life, they look to their dad with their grades, internships, and little accomplishments. Dads are the reason we try so hard to be the best we can be. Dads raised us to be the very best at whatever we chose to do, and they were there to support you through everything. They are the hardest critics, but they are always your biggest fans.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her a credit card.

It's completely true. Dads are the reason we have the things we have, thank the Lord. He's the best to shop with too, since he usually remains outside the store the entire time till he is summoned in to forge the bill. All seriousness, they always give their little girls more than they give themselves, and that's something we love so much about you.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her a shoulder to cry on.

When you fell down and cut yourself, your mom looked at you and told you to suck it up. But your dad, on the other hand, got down on the ground with you, and he let you cry. Then later on, when you made a mistake, or broke up with a boy, or just got sad, he was there to dry your tears and tell you everything was going to be okay, especially when you thought the world was crashing down. He will always be there to tell you everything is going to be okay, even when they don't know if everything is going to be okay. That's his job.


When you give a girl a dad, you give her a lifelong best friend.

My dad was my first best friend, and he will be my last. He's stood by me when times got tough, he carried me when I just couldn't do it anymore, and he yelled at me when I deserved it; but the one thing he has never done was give up on me. He will always be the first person I tell good news to, and the last person I ever want to disappoint. He's everything I could ever want in a best friend and more.


Dads are something out of a fairytale. They are your prince charming, your knight in shinny amour, and your fairy godfather. Dads are the reasons we are the people we are today; something that a million "thank you"' will never be enough for.

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A Reflection On Iron Man, The OG Avenger

My reactions to the 2008 film after a decade of Marvel adventures.

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Before the madness of Infinity War and even before the Avengers, Iron Man made his screen debut. As the start of the superhero era, I couldn't refuse watching the movie when I found it on cable. Although I am a huge Marvel fan, it had been a long time since I have seen it.

Tony Stark's character changed in the past ten years. Although he's still the same "genius, billionaire, playboy, philanthropist", he developed from the simple rich boy stereotype. In his first movie, his biggest worries consist of changing his company and stopping terrorism. Although at the time these issues seemed tough, his worries have grown much bigger. Now he fights not only for his planet, but the entire galaxy.

On top of fighting aliens, Tony developed anxiety. Between him falling through a wormhole during the attack on New York and the vision Wanda showed him in Age of Ultron, Tony constantly worries about the fate of his friends, often blaming himself for the danger they are put in. Seeing Tony virtually carefree was bittersweet as I realized being a superhero has changed him forever.

Although I am sympathetic now, there was a time when I was upset with Iron Man. During Captain America: Civil War, I felt especially frustrated with his choice to sign the accords. I thought about how he seemed to be a spoiled man who had his superpower handed to him through his family's wealth. I forgot about how through his wealth, his intelligence and caring for others is how he got started as an Avenger.

Something that always blows my mind is how he built his first suit when he was kidnapped by terrorists using his company's missiles. From there, he decided not only to use his technology to save his own life, but to help the other victims, and eventually life throughout the universe. Although I still don't agree with his argument from Civil War, it was heartwarming to remember the origin and values of Iron Man.

Pepper Potts also surprised me during the film. Although now I recognize her as a side character with sporadic appearances due to Gwyneth Paltrow's fluctuating contracts, she really shined in her first Marvel film. Pepper sees the good in Tony, even through his impulsive decisions, staying by his side when he needs her the most. Not only that, but she gets into the action herself, hacking into Obadiah's computer to find out his plans and taking the S.H.I.E.L.D. agents to his hideout to confront and arrest him. She doesn't stay home while Tony's in trouble- she takes charge. Plus, she can run in heels, which is no small feat.

Although the future seems bleak for Tony now, he deserves happiness in his life after everything he's done. I hope Tony and Pepper can live long and happy lives together, even after the madness.

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