Tonight, one of my good friends and I sat in my room and we wrote down our future goals and aspirations. This was an awesome experience. We relaxed, had some water, and talked about where we wanted to be in 10 years. This was harder to do than I had thought it would be, because I realized that I have no idea where I want to be or what exactly I want to be doing. All I know is that I will be almost 26-years-old when I get my graduate degree. Coming from an outside perspective, that can be kind of scary. Whenever I mention that, I am always told to calm down about it. However, sometimes the thought creeps up that I may be too old.
Let me explain. Normally graduates start their careers when they are about 23 or 24. I will be looking for my career around the time I am 26. Tell me that is not scary!
What my good friend told me to do was to breathe. She said to not worry about what will happen and just keep on doing what I am doing and it will all fall into place. Now who really believes all that hocus pocus? Well, when I think back, that is exactly how my life has fallen into place. Nothing has ever gone according to plan; it all has just happened. I will still make sure that my life is going in the direction I want it to go in, as much as I can at least.
When you are my age, and when you are not boozing every weekend, you start to think about the long-term stuff. Will I meet that man of my dreams? Will I ever be rich and famous? Does my husband look as good as me? These are all questions that I ponder in my head, which creates chaos. I have no choice right now but to work my butt off and do my best with what I have. Of course we can play the "be grateful for what you do have" card, but that only goes far.
There is a point to all of this. Sometimes, you can sit and think that if you do not do the work yourself, nothing will get done. This can be a really negative thought. It may be true on some level, but friendships can change that perspective. You need to take charge and join a group somewhere that has goals and hopes that are similar to your own. No matter what age you are, it is never too late to come together and create something magical.
Friendships are all about coming together in times when you might be afraid to. Making sure you are working with the current can be hard, but if you find the shoe that fits, just go with it. There will always be obstacles, and, trust me, I think it would be so weird if there were not. Just follow your heart, and let the universe do the rest.
