Forgiveness. It seems like a simple concept, but it’s often easier said than done. I personally prefer to hold a grudge for a good hour. Childish, probably, but sometimes I need to be angry, okay? Ignoring your feelings doesn’t make them go away.
But, I digress. After you get over the initial anger, you should really let the issue go. Why? Because holding onto your anger will never get you anywhere.
I knew someone who absolutely refused to forgive anyone who had ever done him wrong, and he was a very bitter, angry, resentful person (and honestly, he probably still is, but I wouldn’t know because he isn’t in my life anymore). He was never happy, and I don’t think he ever will be due to all of this pent up anger. I have a personal belief that you will never be happy if you continue to dwell on things from the past, especially things that don’t matter. You will be much happier when you learn to let things go.
Now, I’m not saying that you should let everyone walk all over you because they know you’ll shrug it off. But if you get into a fight with your boyfriend over something stupid, get angry for a little bit, then talk it out and let it go. I will admit to having a difficult time letting some things go, but in the end, it’s usually not worth it.
So just think: if it won’t matter in five years, don’t waste more than five minutes being angry about it. You deserve to be happy, and you won’t if you continue to dwell on your anger from the past. Learn to accept the apology you never got. Forgive, let it go and go enjoy your life.