'Girly Things' Will Not Hurt Your Boy, But Your Sexist Behavior Will

'Girly Things' Will Not Hurt Your Boy, But Your Sexist Behavior Will

Let the boy have the butterfly face paint.


I have never understood what was so harmful about "girly" things. Colors like pink and purple and any pastels. Flowers and butterflies. Painted nails and ponytails. Skirts. Makeup. Face masks.

Society has decided that anything tied to beauty, anything tied to women, is not acceptable for men.

God forbid a boy put on a face mask.

Society decided that exuding feminine energy is weak.

Boys can't wear skirts! It's not like all clothing used to be the same.

Society made it a rule that men be stoic, emotionless, masculine, and unmovable.

Do foundation and sharp, winged eyeliner really determine what someone is capable of? How strong is someone who cannot empathize?

Society showcased femininity, an example of how not to behave.

Do sharpened, red nails still scream submission?

I saw a post the other day that made me hurt for the young boys out in the world. A little boy wanted a little, blue butterfly painted on his face, but his parents told him no, he needed to have something better fit for a boy. The person who posted about this encounter was the one painting kids' faces. They tried to convince the parents to let the boy have a butterfly — it was what the boy wanted, and it was just face paint — but the parents demanded he have a skull painted on his cheek instead.

With all the darkness and pain and suffering in the world, nothing could be more innocent and heartwarming than seeing a little boy running around with a tiny, blue butterfly on his face.

Pardon my French, but what in the actual f*ck is wrong with all of you?

Why is a butterfly girly? It's a bug.

What is wrong with a boy being feminine?

Why can girls be tomboys but the minute a boy so much as looks at his sister's pretty pink nails, something is wrong with him?

God forbid he "turns out" gay.

Here's the thing:

When we tell our boys they cannot be like girls, we are telling them they are above women. We are teaching them being a woman is bad. We encourage them to establish dominance, to embrace toxic masculinity, to replace compassion with violence.

We are setting them up to fail.

America, we are setting our children up to fail.

It is time to do better. It is time to be better.

Let boys express themselves the same way you let your girls. Let children be children, and stop letting "gender" obscure every angle of your vision. We bring children into this world to love them, to encourage them, to help them become their truest selves.

Do not give your child life just to turn around and take it away.

Wake up, and let the boy have the butterfly face paint.

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I'm An 18-Year-Old Female And I Will Never Be A Feminist

Honestly, I'd rather be caught dead than caught calling myself a modern-day feminist.

"A man told me to have a good day... I'm triggered." How ludicrous does that sound? Tune in because that is the extent of modern day feminism.

Sure, I think boys are stupid and that I'm probably better than 90% of the male population, but that doesn't make me a modern-day feminist. Now I believe that woman should stand up for themselves, and Golding's quote: "I think women are foolish to pretend they are equal to men, they are far superior and always have been," is by far one of my favorite quotes... but modern day feminism is not something I want to be associated with.

I'm all for "anything you can do I can do better," and "We can do it!" but realistically speaking in some situations, that isn't feasible. As an 18-year-old woman who works out regularly, and is stronger than the average female, I couldn't carry a 190-pound man back to a safe zone after he was shot on the front line of a war even if I tried. It is not anatomically possible for a grown woman to be as strong as a fully developed male.

Reality check: Men and women are not equal.

They are not physically equal, they are not mentally equal. Modern-day feminism is equality between the two genders, but corrupt and on steroids. I support what feminism used to be. I support women who work hard and have goals and ambition... not girls who hate men and stomp around with no shirts on to piss off the public. Feminism has developed into a polluted teaching that young men and women are plunging into.

We are built dissimilarly.

The human brain is literally an organ that is sex oriented. There is a cognitive difference, that singlehandedly destroys gender equality.

I will not spend my time running a revolution against anyone who likes Donald Trump. I am not going to binge watch Trump's twitter in an effort to start some leftist gob of drama. I refuse to be part of this head hunt to attack all Republicans on the newest Instagram post made about how feminism is stupid. I do not hate men, and society would crash and burn without the successful men and women who work together to create what we call the United States of America.

Why, you ask? Why are the 15-25 year olds of our society clinging to feminism? They are hopping on the rapidly growing bandwagon where all the hipsters, feminists and Trump haters reside. It's "cool" to hate Donald Trump. Twitter is a world of liberalism, hatred and fake love towards all. Social media is where this generation is living — and modern-day feminism brews there.

We need to keep separation in the household within roles.

We must raise our children to do what they are best at rather than trying to do something they are incapable of just to prove an irrelevant point.

Women must stand up for what they believe in and be strong in their shoes, while not getting so caught up in what your modern day feminist says she thinks is right.

We cannot let this briskly changing society sway us away from what is going to keep the world working precisely.

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Independence Should Not Take Away A Woman's Femininity

Why is it that when a woman is extremely independent, it automatically cancels out her sensitive and gentle side?


There is a running joke in my friend group about how I am the dominant person in relationships, and that I intimidate guys who are interested in me. If I am being completely honest, it is true.

I have a very strong and independent personality. I'm not a fan of people doing things for me that I feel I can do myself, like put together furniture or check the oil in my car. I ask my father to teach me how to do these things all the time, not because I plan to be single for the rest of my life, but because I don't like to depend on anyone to do things for me.

So why is it that this type of independence gets interpreted as "too manly" or unattractive? I completely understand that men are supposed to provide for and protect their families. In fact, I encourage all men to make that their goal when it comes to taking care of their family. What I don't understand is why that means women should dumb down their abilities to make the man feel superior.

Now don't get me wrong. When it comes to things like taking out the trash or changing a tire, yes, of course I would want my man to do it. All I'm saying is that it is okay for women to know how or want to do things on their own.

Another thing I notice is that women are expected to be emotional and wear our hearts on our sleeves.

That's not fair.

Anyone who knows me knows I am far from emotional. I am not a crier. I will not be in my feelings if we don't talk for a day. I don't like to talk about my personal life. I am just a very private person in general. Therefore, it is easy for me to keep my emotions out of things and not get attached to people.

These traits are too often considered "male traits." But there are plenty of women in the world who share these traits as well. It just means we need to be loved and cared for in a different way. This also means we need significant others who know how to respect, talk to, and deal with strong-minded individuals such as ourselves.

At the end of the day, everyone is different and has their own preferences and ideas. I just think strong independent women should not be stripped of their femininity because they can do a "man's job" better than a man can. Independent women need love too!

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