'Girly Things' Will Not Hurt Your Boy, But Your Sexist Behavior Will

'Girly Things' Will Not Hurt Your Boy, But Your Sexist Behavior Will

Let the boy have the butterfly face paint.


I have never understood what was so harmful about "girly" things. Colors like pink and purple and any pastels. Flowers and butterflies. Painted nails and ponytails. Skirts. Makeup. Face masks.

Society has decided that anything tied to beauty, anything tied to women, is not acceptable for men.

God forbid a boy put on a face mask.

Society decided that exuding feminine energy is weak.

Boys can't wear skirts! It's not like all clothing used to be the same.

Society made it a rule that men be stoic, emotionless, masculine, and unmovable.

Do foundation and sharp, winged eyeliner really determine what someone is capable of? How strong is someone who cannot empathize?

Society showcased femininity, an example of how not to behave.

Do sharpened, red nails still scream submission?

I saw a post the other day that made me hurt for the young boys out in the world. A little boy wanted a little, blue butterfly painted on his face, but his parents told him no, he needed to have something better fit for a boy. The person who posted about this encounter was the one painting kids' faces. They tried to convince the parents to let the boy have a butterfly — it was what the boy wanted, and it was just face paint — but the parents demanded he have a skull painted on his cheek instead.

With all the darkness and pain and suffering in the world, nothing could be more innocent and heartwarming than seeing a little boy running around with a tiny, blue butterfly on his face.

Pardon my French, but what in the actual f*ck is wrong with all of you?

Why is a butterfly girly? It's a bug.

What is wrong with a boy being feminine?

Why can girls be tomboys but the minute a boy so much as looks at his sister's pretty pink nails, something is wrong with him?

God forbid he "turns out" gay.

Here's the thing:

When we tell our boys they cannot be like girls, we are telling them they are above women. We are teaching them being a woman is bad. We encourage them to establish dominance, to embrace toxic masculinity, to replace compassion with violence.

We are setting them up to fail.

America, we are setting our children up to fail.

It is time to do better. It is time to be better.

Let boys express themselves the same way you let your girls. Let children be children, and stop letting "gender" obscure every angle of your vision. We bring children into this world to love them, to encourage them, to help them become their truest selves.

Do not give your child life just to turn around and take it away.

Wake up, and let the boy have the butterfly face paint.

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I’m Christian And I Don’t Call Myself A Feminist But I Do Believe That Men And Women Are Equal, Just As It Should Be

I'll say it louder for the people in the back.


Recently there was an article published called, "I'm A Christian Girl And I'm Not A Feminist, Because God Did Not Intend For Women To Be Equals." While we are all subjected to our opinions, I have mine and I want to share it to show that just because you are a Christian, doesn't mean you can't be a feminist of some sort.

I am the type of girl that does not necessarily consider myself a feminist, but I am still all for supporting women. I think that men and women should be equal. I think men and women deserve equal opportunities, equal leadership roles, and equal pay. I do not think that men are necessarily superior to women. We are all human and we should all be treated EQUALLY.

I am a strong Christian and grew up going to church and lived in a Christian church my entire life. I love the Lord with everything I have and believe that everything in the Bible is true, but here is how I perceive the creation of women.

Yes, God created man first and then woman, and he created women out of the rib of a man. He created a woman for a man to have a companion because man could not live alone. In order to reproduce, woman had to be created.

So I'll say it again for the people in the back,

Men and women should be treated as EQUALS.

As a woman in the 21st century, I believe in working for my success and reaching my goals on my own, not because a man handed it to me. I believe that women should have equal opportunities as men.

When it comes to relationships however, I have more of a traditional perspective you could say.

I believe that men should pursue women when it comes to a romantic relationship, and I do believe that men should "wear the pants in a relationship" and be the head of the household. But, with that love in a relationship, there should be mutual respect and you should lift each other up and a man should support their woman in whatever she wants to do and the goals she is trying to reach.

Women should do the same, respect their husbands and support them in everything they do, because a relationship is a partnership.

So call it what you want, feminism or not, but I support women.

Everyone is allowed to have their own opinions, but this is mine, and I think that there are many other women out there who could agree.

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What's Up With This Non-Inclusive Feminist BS?

What is "white feminism" and why is it harmful?


What some people may or may not know, "Feminism" is the current movement that is taking media by storm, and leading people to believe "women are fighting for other women's rights", when actually in some ways, is the complete opposite.

Feminism: An idea of giving the rights to all woman, regardless of her biological makeup. Now, this sounds GREAT in theory, doesn't it? Equal pay, equal rights, and all that jazz white cis men are born possessing. But, something we do not think about, it the discrimination within the community. White women silencing women of color by tone policing (will get into that in a minute) white women not believing the idea of equality within a mission to "create equality for all and through all"…but when is enough, enough? Recently for one of my English classes, I was assigned the book This Bridge Called My Back | Writings by Radical Women of Color.

For some, this book could be a bedside staple but for others, it could be brand new territory. The book is a collection of writings, poems and published work done by women of color, or women of oppressed groups. The editors are Cherrie Moraga and Gloria Anzaldúa; Moraga was born from her Mexican mother and American Father, Anzaldúa is an Asian-American. The women start the book with the ideals they hope the book holds, with the work inside. I have never been so impressed with a collection of work before, but this blew my mind.

So back to the idea of "tone policing"; I thought looking up the actual definition would be a sure fire way, of getting everyone to understand: "It's simple, really. Tone policing describes a diversionary tactic used when a person purposely turns away from the message behind her interlocutor's argument in order to focus solely on the delivery of it." https://medium.com/@tessintrovert/racism-101-tone-policing-92481c044b6a

Basically, tone policing is another way of systematic racism; the idea that a white woman telling a woman of color to "change her tone" to better help "people understand your point". Now, I don't know about you but I have a lot to say about this, especially as a white woman but I am not making this about me, it's about us. It's about this new wave of white feminism, that white women are creating solely for other white women. There are endless destructive consequences of non-inclusive feminism, and yet again it is a systematic power raised by white women and their cis white husbands. INCORPORATE, EDUCATE and BE KIND. Do not tell me I am white so I cannot call other white women out, BECAUSE THAT'S HALF THE PROBLEM. Do not tell me you do not "see color", so how could "white feminism" be real…(this example came from a real life situation I was put through). See those for who they are, take beauty in differences…because who said differences cannot equate kindness?

Also, for all those out there who still own the Pink Pu$y Hats…please throw them out, burn them whatever you have to. THE HATS DO NOT INCLUDE WOMXN WHO ARE WITHOUT A UTERUS!!!

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