I have always been the kind of person that prefers staying in with a pint of ice cream and some comfy sweats instead of getting dolled up to go out somewhere fancy.

I’ve never enjoyed wearing heels or things that need Spanx underneath them. Give me men’s sweatpants and a baggy t-shirt and I’m the happiest girl in the world – and there’s no shame in that.

Ever since I was young, I’ve wanted to wear jeans to church instead of pretty sundresses, I’ve always preferred flip-flops and Uggs to stilettos. But, as I got older, I saw a lot of my friends dressing up for certain occasions or even just in general. If that’s what they want to do, then good for them! If they feel confident in that, then they should rock it. Myself, however, is not one of those people.

I have been told that I don’t dress “girly” enough, that I should put more effort into the way that I look, that I should try harder, and the list goes on and on. Here’s my thing: I don’t need to wear certain things or dress a certain way to show that I’m a lady. I don’t need to appear girly to show that I am a girl.

To me, true confidence does not lie in what you wear, but in how you carry yourself wearing whatever you choose.

It is a rare occasion that you will see me in something dressier than jeans – and even that’s pushing it sometimes. The truth is, I don’t dress to impress others. I dress in a way that I am comfortable in, whether that be sweats, jeans, or the occasional dress/skirt.

If someone judges another person for their clothing, that’s their problem. It seems to be an age-old issue that might always be a problem. However, if we choose to accept and acknowledge that people have different comfort levels and styles, then we can start accepting people for what’s in their heart and not what covers their skin.