Hey, he just liked my picture, should I act like I do not care?

Or should I like one back? Okay, I’m going to like one, but how many, and how far down can I go done his page without looking creepy. “Hey, I think I follow you on Instagram” is a well-known conversation starter at your local apartment parties.

We have fully accepted that we are submerged in a generation where a person just has to double tap their screen to get your heart beating a little faster, smile a little bigger. Scrolling through your likes just to see if they gave your photo a second look. Why has this became our standard of attention? I know it sounds of magical times: you know, where a man had to come knock on your door, not honking the horn or texting “here," but you would not be answering the door. Your father or your parental covering would be asking his intentions of being in your presence. And maybe after the talk in your living room, your dad would let him take you on a date. A date where your dad says, “Get my daughter home, and a respectable hour, I’ll be up.” A date that consisted of maybe dinner. A real conversation that couldn’t fit in a 120-character box, couldn’t use an emoji to express sexual innuendo and no glass screen to hide behind.

Do we lower our standard of love, intimacy, and connection because we believe things like this are just of our imagination or “things are just different now"? Or are girls afraid to stand a little bit taller in our own self-worth because they are nervous to lose that guy that texts them on the weekends, "sup" or "wya"" Why does the three letter magical word get such arousal out of girl? “Hey” to which has no good intention. Could be laying next to someone else, or could have sent it to five other girls and he’s just waiting to see who takes the bait first.

You are worth more than a swipe right, retweet or like. You are worth the extensive wonder, “What is she doing right this very moment. Did she have a good day, or a bad day. Is she smiling right now? Because if she is i want to see it.” We no longer have to be so accessible. We are worried if we do not text back within minutes, he will lose interest or get mad. We choose to be accessible and available. You are rare, you are unique and their is only one of you in the eyes of your creator. You deserve more than a like on Instagram. You are loved, it is time to start loving yourself, my darling. A like on Instagram is the bottom of the barrel of love. If he loves you, he will make it known. You will not have to wonder and wait up for the like or late night text.

Loss the attention of the serial “Insatgramer." The false intention will create a heartbreak that is not worth hurting over. He will stop liking your photos, and you will see him start giving other girls the lowest of attention he once gave you. It will sting for a little, but then realize you were created for more than a like.

So ignore the boy hiding behind his phone so the real man has the opportunity to walk up into your life and say "Hi."