I’m 20, I Settled Down, I Have My Own Place. Get Over It

I’m 20, I Settled Down, I Have My Own Place. Get Over It

From bills and renovations, to learning about your partner and cleaning (always), it's an adventure for sure.
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So, recently my boyfriend and I moved into/bought our first home. Boy, has it been a learning experience. From realizing how much "stuff" you have to have to make a house run, to learning the ins-and-outs of bills, we have had our hands full. However, moving into our first home has also been very exciting. Just thought I'd share some of our experience, and hopefully, all you new homeowners and young couples can relate.

Bills. Good gracious, there are a lot of bills. So many different due dates too. Why can't everything be due on the same day? And on top of that, each and every place is so particular on how you have to pay them. Some online, some mail in, some over the phone, etc. It's quite overwhelming going from a couple to a ton. Props to parents, I understand why you were so stressed all the time, I feel ya.

This one is for all you young couples. You never truly know someone until you live with them. Sure, my boyfriend and I stayed together a bunch at each other's houses, but I never truly understood how it would be to live with him. For starters, men are helpless. Sorry guys, I'm sure that's not the case with you all, but my boyfriend, brother, and dad all follow this. He has no idea how to wash clothes, load a dishwasher, or clean. I mean, I'm feeling a bit like the old south here doing all the household duties. However, I do have it good because boy does my man know how to cook! Since I pretty much suck, for lack of better words, in that department, it is nice to have someone who knows what he's doing help out.

Who knew there was so much to clean? I mean, I always thought it was annoying having to keep my room clean growing up, and then also occasionally the bathroom I shared with my brother. But a whole house? It's a full-time job in itself.

Groceries. Why is food so expensive? Where my boyfriend and I moved to is in the middle of the country, a good ways from town. So McDonald's is not the best option. Therefore, we have had to buy groceries and cook, but oh my the expense of food is ridiculous. Even trying to get what we could at Dollar General is crazy. Again, props to the parents on paying for my high metabolism all my life.

Even with all these annoying things, this experience has been exciting. We can't stop talking about all the improvements we want to make, the additions we want in the future, planting a garden in the spring, etc. It is so nice to have the freedom to do what you want to do with your own property and home. Decorating has also been a perk on my end, since we bought a little farmhouse and I am obsessed with paintings of cows. And my boyfriend has enjoyed our several acres of land, exploring and just being a guy. Ya know, cold beer, gun, and four wheeler. Yes, we live in Alabama.

All in all, it has been an experience, and I'm sure there is much much more to come. Good luck to all you fellow young couples and first-time buyers, and just know, I feel ya.

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30 Things Guys Wish Girls Knew

Things a best male friend would tell you.
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1. The sexy, crazy fun girl doesn’t always win the guy.
Yes, we are attracted to the fun party girls that never settle down, but at the end of the day, we can’t bring those girls home to meet our moms. Every guy is looking for the sweet, beautiful and down-to-earth girl that makes us laugh, keeps us grounded and believes in us. We want a girl that we can talk to about more than just how many shots we can take before we blackout. Guys want to date a Megan Fox and marry an Emma Watson.

2. Men are not mind readers.

3. Sunday sports are like the sun rising in the East and setting in the West. It's a fact of life, and you've just got to let it be.

4. When a game is on, please only talk during commercials.

5. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions, so neither do we.

6. Ask for what you want.
Let me be really clear about this one. Whether the hint is subtle or obvious, we're probably not going to get what you're trying to say. So, just tell us what you want.

7. Anything said a week ago becomes null and void and cannot be brought up in an argument again.

8. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how to do it. Not both.

9. We only see about 16 colors.
For example, the term "peach" is a fruit, not a color.

10. If we ask what’s wrong, and you reply, "Nothing," we will act as if nothing is wrong.
We probably know that you’re lying, but it’s not worth the fight.

11. You have enough of my fraternity shirts.
Don’t keep asking for more, and don’t just take them. You have to earn them.

12. Stop telling me to make you my #WCW.
Everyone gets annoyed with the couples that make each other their #MCM or #WCW every week; we will not be that couple.

13. It’s not attractive to hear you talk bad about other girls.
I know you don’t like one of your sisters because she stole your Big-Little shirt idea, but keep that talk for your sisters, not us.

14. Being smart is very attractive.
We want a girl that can read a book and carry on a good conversation.

15. Allow me to open the door for you.
Don’t let chivalry die. I know you’re 100 percent capable of opening the door yourself, but see it as a nice gesture. It’s something our dad taught us to do.

16. I’m going to try and fix your problems.
Don’t vent to me if you don’t want me to try and fix what’s going on. That’s what guys do.

17. Don’t take my fries.
I’m a growing man, and I need my food but will gladly take whatever you don’t eat.

18. Don’t be dramatic.
Guys don’t like girls that are crazy about drama, plain and simple. If you enjoy the attention that getting jealous gets you, you will not get my attention.

19. Don’t say you miss me after an hour or a day.
That’s when you begin to edge into the "clingy" zone.

20. It’s okay to compliment us.
We like when you tell us we look good. We will just never say that out loud.

21. But don’t call us "pretty" or "beautiful."
This is not "Twilight," we do not sparkle, and we are not "pretty".

22. “I’m not looking for a relationship” can sometimes be directly translated to "You’re great, but we’re just not ready to be tied down quite yet."

23. We’re all on that college budget.
So know that we would like to give you the world, but can only afford the dollar menu sometimes.

24. If my friends don’t approve of you, then odds are we won't be able to date.
The same sentiment goes for my family.

25. I will smile, but not 100 times.
I’ll take pictures because you want to, but if I’m being honest, you’re going to look just as good in the first one as you will in 100th one you force someone to take.

26. We don’t always have to be doing something.
We can enjoy Netflix and a large pizza.

27. You have too many shoes.

28. You have enough clothes.

29. Don't ask a question that you don't want an answer to.

30. We are in shape. Round IS a shape.

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An Open Letter To The Love Of my Life

Happy four year anniversary, Kaylee.

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She is the most perfect thing on this planet. Her hair, her face, her body, her personality, her everything is perfect. Her name has even been "perfect" on my cell phone since I met her over four years ago. The second my eyes met hers, I knew she was the one. I know many people say they fell in love at first sight, but mine was one hundred percent real. Our four year anniversary is coming up and I couldn't have been happier. This perfect woman is Kaylee Clever.

It may sound funny to others, but I actually met the love of my life at the local McDonald's. I was from Schaumburg and she was from Elk Grove. My Schaumburg friends knew Kaylee from a prior event and we all met up for the first time at McDonald's. She went to grab some food from the counter with another guy and my heart shattered thinking she was taken. I was very relieved to hear that she was just friends with this guy so I had a shot. She was so beautiful when I saw her, even with the smell of greasy McDonald's fries in the background. I had some small talk with her but was too nervous to even get a number. I thought that was the last time I'd see her, but I was thankfully wrong.

A week passed and I eventually saw her again at a friend's house. We started talking about "Flappy Bird" and we tried to beat each other's high scores. I made her laugh some and we added each other on Twitter. We would DM each other every other day when we beat a high score on "Flappy Bird." We laughed a lot and started texting. I started to fall for this girl even harder because she was so easy to get along with. She had the same personality as me and I knew she was the one.

A few months passed and we talked every day. I knew I had to do something. I asked her out and she wasn't ready yet. My heart shattered and I didn't use my phone for weeks. I was blaming myself and I didn't know what I did wrong. I thought our friendship was over because we didn't talk for weeks, but one day I saw a text from her. We started talking again and I felt happy again.

We got to know each other better and on July 6th, 2014 we officially started dating. I was the luckiest guy on earth. We went to Cici's to grab some macaroni and cheese pizza, to later realize it sucked, but we had a blast. She met my family and I met hers. And that day ended in a wonderful first kiss. I blushed like crazy and she made me so happy. It's been four years now and I look at her like it was the first time. She is such an astonishing human being who will forever be perfect. I couldn't have been luckier to have met the love of my life at the age of seventeen. I thank you for every second together and I hope to spend the rest of my life with you. You complete me and I complete you. Thank you so much for everything Kaylee Clever, I love you so much. Happy four-year anniversary sweetie.

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