Let me start by saying that cheaters are the absolute worst. If you aren't happy with someone then BREAKUP. It will hurt that person so much less than if they find out you cheated. Yes, I am fully aware that girls cheat on guys, but for the sake of this rant, boys... you are the target.
When a girl finds out she got cheated on her mind immediately goes to, "Wow, I wasn't enough. What could I have done differently? Should I have slept with him?" We all know these thoughts are dramatic, but it happens in the heat of the moment. I have been cheated on and my thoughts went there too. Being cheated on puts the girl in such a vulnerable downward spiral. I have seen multiple friends go through this and it breaks my heart each time. I wish no one else would get cheated on ever, but it will happen. So if this happens to you or someone you know, please think back to these words.
The thought of "not being good enough" breaks my heart. This means first of all that the boy is holding the key to the girls worth. Trust me, I know from experience. It happens without you noticing because you aren't consciously thinking of where your worth lies. This needs to change. Just because some stupid boy doesn't realize how amazing you are does NOT reflect on your worth. I don't care if you think you are the worst person on earth that has messed up too much.
First of all, all things can be forgiven by Jesus.
Secondly, YOU HAVE WORTH. Jesus made you in HIS IMAGE. He made you exactly how He wanted you to be.
Note I said Jesus and not a stupid boy. You cannot let one stupid boy's mistake change your view on your value. Even if you change your view on your value, your value never changes in His eyes.
The next biggest issue girls have is thinking about "what they could've done differently." If you were smacking your boyfriend every time you got in an argument then yeah maybe you could've handled that differently, but do not let your mind go to the sexual aspect.
Boys will only want you for sex.
Men will love everything about you and sex is an added bonus.
Sex is not a bargaining tool.
You should never offer sex as a solution whether dating or married. Sex should be an intimate and special act shared between two people who love each other (preferably married). In a healthy relationship, nothing should be offered up — especially not sex. Arguments should be settled with your words and not your body.
The last thing I want to touch on is that it is OK to be sad. Going from talking to someone every day to never is a huge change. I remember looking at my phone all the time. Just waiting on that text. On his name to pop up. You are allowed to hurt, but don't hurt for him. Do not take this time to bring yourself down.
You can be sad that it ended this way.
Sad that this chapter is ending.
Sad for change.
Take a few days to eat ice cream and binge Netflix, but do not stay here for long.
Get your butt off the couch and start your new chapter. Instead of wallowing in how sad you are be excited to start fresh. Keep yourself busy. The first few months after a breakup SUCK. I am not denying that, but you will make it through. You will be stronger after this season and you will learn a lot about yourself and what you want in a guy.
Know your worth and focus your eyes on Jesus. Drawing closer to Him will make it easier to love and acknowledge your true worth. This boy was just a speed bump in the amazing journey that Jesus has for you. All you can do is learn from it and move on. You are ENOUGH and don't let anyone ever tell you different.
