From The Girl Who Is Tired Of Being An 'Almost'

From The Girl Who Is Tired Of Being An 'Almost'

No one wants to be a second choice, let alone no choice at all.

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It's no secret that the dating scene in 2019 is hard, romance is basically dead. You can order up a partner faster than a pizza from dominos. Men rarely approach woman anymore, and if they do it seems to only be for one night stands, not for the genuine interest of getting to know someone.

Like most other singles, I'm out of ideas and don't know how to land a stable relationship in this age of false intentions and no commitment.

I've been told about every line in the book on why it doesn't happen because of me like for example; I want too much or am too "serious," or my favorite is that I expect things too soon, but all I actually want is a guy who is honest, loyal and devoted to me. Is that really too much to ask? Seriously?

I've had endless "almost" boyfriends, I've almost become what they wanted. I almost had what I thought I really wanted at the time. However, each failed fling was just one more added instance where I became an "almost" or the "stepping stone girl" aka the girl guys were with before they found their "person" and for the longest time, I didn't care.

I just struck it down as male immaturity that would end in a year, a couple at most, but unfortunately, I think I was wrong and do not see it changing any time soon.

At almost 21 years old and still a little single pringle, I for one am just tired of it all. I'm tired of being peoples almost. I'm tired of being lead on or drop me like an old news article by the end of the week. It's a never-ending cycle.

If your intentions are to just use a girl, DON'T. Stop getting our hopes up and just leave her alone.

And don't get me wrong, I'm not letting my relationship status define my worth or the quality of the life I'm living. Thus far I've done everything on my own and I know I can achieve the goals I have set for my life alone.

If a guy wants to pursue me, and I mean truly pursue me, then great if not I'll just continue to thrive on my own. I've never been the girl who needed a man. I definitely want one, but don't get me wrong I will not be devasted without one.

But in all honesty, why me? Why do guys only see me as an almost? Why am I not worthy enough to be something more than that to someone? Why do they lead me on just to drop me in a few weeks like it was nothing and then in a couple of weeks end up getting serious with someone else? I'm just truly baffled.

I just feel like the odd one out. I would love nothing more than to have a partner, share all life's moments with. Someone who will be there with me through it all and kiss, hug, and love me. Even something as simple as walking downtown holding hands with someone would be a dream to me.

Life is short, I want young love. I want all that a relationship entails, the good and the bad. It's just frustrating being the only single one in your group, listening to everyone's relationships and having nothing to contribute because what you experience isn't even real.

I don't believe in "almost" you either want to be with someone or you don't. It's black and white and maybe I just don't understand but if you did want to be with someone why not truly give it a chance?

But until people figure their stuff out, I will gladly sit back, be single and wait until someone is truly ready and makes it worth trying because I will not be someones "almost" again. I'm not just a little stop on the way, I am the destination.

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10 Signs You Might Be A Clinomaniac

It's not as crazy as it seems.
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Since my concussion last month, my doctor prescribed me ample bed rest and sleep. I am normally the type of person that goes to bed late and wakes up early excited to get all things done and have a newly productive day. Because I take my recovery very seriously, I knew I had to put my usual uppity attitude and work ethic to rest (no pun intended). As of this January, I have actually been following my doctor's advice and taken sleep seriously...maybe a little too seriously. In addition to recovering from my concussion, I have also dreamt up a new idea that I have fallen in love with. In getting all of my necessary sleep, I have found it more and more difficult to leave the unrelenting comfort of my bed. I never realized just how comfortably satisfying staying in bed can be. From springing out of bed before my alarm went off to now hitting the snooze for as long as I can just to lay there, I think I might be developing clinomania.

"Clinomania" has Greek origins, " clino -" meaning bed and "-mania" meaning obsession. It literally translates into an obsession of bed . But what does it really mean to be a clinomania ? Here are 10 signs you might be one:

1. When someone asks you what your hobby is and your reply is "sleeping."

2. As soon as you wake up, all you want to do is crawl back into bed.


3. Your perfect date is in bed snuggled up in a comforter.


4. The thought of leaving bed is as daunting as leaving the womb.


5. You would rather be asleep than doing anything else, including eating.


6. The best part of your day is when you get to reunite with your bed.


7. You do everything from bed: eat breakfast in bed, read in bed, even file your taxes in bed.

8. There is never too much time that you can spend in bed.


9. You often daydream about dreaming in bed.


10. You feel most happy when cuddled up in bed and countdown the minutes to spend as long as you can in bed.


If you resonate with at least 5 of these statements, chances are you're a clinomaniac. I'm giggling as I write this from my bed right now. I love having the ability to recline comfortably on my pillows and snuggle up to my blanket at any moment. It brings me so much peace to be in bed, escaping off into a dream world whenever. Best of all is the class A comfort levels from doing things like homework and studying in bed.

Unfortunately, this newly captured love affair with my pillows may not be as amazing as it feels. If you linger in bed excessively for more than 2 weeks, you could actually be showing signs of clinical depression . If you are feeling constant tiredness and result in staying in bed all day, you could be suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome . More than likely, if you are reading this article then chances are you might be like me: a self-proclaimed clinomaniac who is simply in a love affair with their bed, pillows, blankets, and all things sleeping. I wish you all the sweetest of dreams and bid you a good night and farewell! :)


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I'm Not The Person I Was In High School And I'm Not Sorry I Changed

I'm sorry, the old me can't come to the phone right now.

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If those who knew me in high school hung out with me now, they probably wouldn't recognize me. If my friends from college hung out with me around two years ago, they probably wouldn't recognize me. It's safe to say I've changed... a lot. I definitely find the change to be for the better and I couldn't be happier with the person I've become

In high school, I would sit at home every night anxiously waiting to leave and go out. Now, honestly, going out is the last thing I want to do any night of the week. While everyone in college is at a fraternity party or at the bars, I prefer to sit at home on the couch, watching Netflix with my boyfriend. That's an ideal night for me and it is exactly the opposite of what I wanted to do a couple of years ago. There's nothing wrong with going out and partying, it's just not what I want to do anymore.

I craved attention in high school. I went to the parties and outings so I could be in Snapchats and photos, just so people would know I was there. I hung out with certain groups of people just so I could say I was "friends" with so-and-so who was so very popular. I wanted to be known and I wanted to be cool.

Now, I couldn't care less. I go to the bars or the parties if I really feel like it or if my friends make me feel bad enough for never going anywhere that I finally decide to show up. It's just not my scene anymore and I no longer worry about missing out.

If you could look back at me during my junior year of high school, you probably would've found me searching for the best-ranked party schools and colleges with the best nearby clubs or bars. Now, you can find me eating snacks on the couch on a Friday night watching the parties through other peoples' Snapchats.

Some may say that I'm boring now, and while I agree that my life is a little less adventurous now than it was in high school, I don't regret the lifestyle changes I've made. I feel happier, I feel like a better person, I feel much more complete. I'm not sorry that I've changed since high school and I'm not sorry that I'm not living the typical "college lifestyle." I don't see anything wrong with that life, it's just not what makes me happy and it's not what I want to do anymore.

I've become a different person since high school and I couldn't be happier about it. I have a lot that's contributed to the change, but my boyfriend definitely was the main factor as he showed me that staying in can be a million times better than a night out. My interests and my social cravings have completely transitioned into that of an 80-year-old grandma, but I don't regret it.

Change doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can bring a lot more happiness and comfort. The transition from high school to college is drastic, but you can also use it as an opportunity to transition from one lifestyle to another. I don't regret the lifestyle flip I made and I couldn't be less apologetic about it.

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