To The Girl Feeling Insecure In Her Spring Break Bikini

To The Girl Feeling Insecure In Her Spring Break Bikini

Choose to remember splashing in the waves laughing with friends or sunbathing all day instead of obsessing over how you look.

I know you. You've been my best friends, and at times you've been me. It's so easy as girls to be insecure and beat yourself up- especially when you are half-naked laying on a beach along with half of your school. There's so much buildup and pressure to Spring Break. Crazy diets, working out, swimsuit shopping, it can all be overwhelming. Where's time for the fun in all this? For too many girls the excitement built up to Spring Break comes also with the dread of wearing a bikini in front of everyone.

I'm telling you to stop. Set aside the anxiety. Stop the crazy diets and start focusing on what's important. Don't waste time worrying and obsessing over how you look, think about how fun the trip will be regardless of a few pounds. The amount of fun a person has is not directly correlated with the number on the scale or a six pack of abs. The key to a perfect spring break is deciding for yourself that you will not let physical appearance or what others may think hold them back from savoring every moment.

Confidence is beauty, don't compare yourself to others.

Despite what the media tries to tell us, everyone has a perfect "spring break body." You have just as much of a right to rock a bikini as anyone else does. There is no one shape or size that a person should be to have fun on the beach with their friends or family. You are much more beautiful than you believe, and if you treat your body with the love and respect you deserve, other people will too. Put your shoulders back and hold your head high, the only one who has power over how you feel about your body is you.

Throw on your cutest swimsuit and your huge sunglasses and hit the beach.

Don't constantly look in the mirror and beat yourself up over every little imperfection. All that does is set yourself up for a day of doubting yourself. No one is going to look at you as closely or as critically as you look at yourself. I challenge you to stand in front of that mirror before you head out for the day and find 10 things you love about yourself. Whether it’s the strength of your legs that let you walk on the beach or the way your smile lights up a room, choose to focus on these things instead of things that put yourself down.

I know, it’s not easy. However, at the end of the day ur not going to want to look back on this trip and remember how insecure you felt. Choose to remember splashing in the waves laughing with friends or sunbathing all day instead of obsessing over how you look or what others might think.

Remember that the only person thinking negative things about your body is you. Choose to remember what matters.

Cover Image Credit: Julianna Merry

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Bailey Posted A Racist Tweet, But That Does NOT Mean She Deserves To Be Fat Shamed

As a certified racist, does she deserve to be fat shamed?

This morning, I was scrolling though my phone, rotating between Instagram, Snapchat, YouTube and Snapchat again, ignoring everyone's snaps but going through all the Snapchat subscription stories before stumbling on a Daily Mail article that piqued my interest. The article was one about a teen, Bailey, who was bullied for her figure, as seen on the snap below and the text exchange between Bailey and her mother, in which she begged for a change of clothes because people were making fun of her and taking pictures.

Like all viral things, quickly after her text pictures and harassing snaps surfaced, people internet stalked her social media. But, after some digging, it was found that Bailey had tweeted some racist remark.

Now, some are saying that because Bailey was clearly racist, she is undeserving of empathy and deserves to be fat-shamed. But does she? All humans, no matter how we try, are prejudiced in one way or another. If you can honestly tell me that you treat everyone with an equal amount of respect after a brief first impression, regardless of the state of their physical hygiene or the words that come out of their mouth, either you're a liar, or you're actually God. Yes, she tweeted some racist stuff. But does that mean that all hate she receives in all aspects of her life are justified?

On the other hand, Bailey was racist. And what comes around goes around. There was one user on Twitter who pointed out that as a racist, Bailey was a bully herself. And, quite honestly, everyone loves the downfall of the bully. The moment the bullies' victims stop cowering from fear and discover that they, too, have claws is the moment when the onlookers turn the tables and start jeering the bully instead. This is the moment the bully completely and utterly breaks, feeling the pain of their victims for the first time, and for the victims, the bully's demise is satisfying to watch.

While we'd all like to believe that the ideal is somewhere in between, in a happy medium where her racism is penalized but she also gets sympathy for being fat shamed, the reality is that the ideal is to be entirely empathetic. Help her through her tough time, with no backlash.

Bullies bully to dominate and to feel powerful. If we tell her that she's undeserving of any good in life because she tweeted some racist stuff, she will feel stifled and insignificant and awful. Maybe she'll also want to make someone else to feel as awful as she did for some random physical characteristic she has. Maybe, we might dehumanize her to the point where we feel that she's undeserving of anything, and she might forget the preciousness of life. Either one of the outcomes is unpleasant and disturbing and will not promote healthy tendencies within a person.

Instead, we should make her feel supported. We all have bad traits about ourselves, but they shouldn't define us. Maybe, through this experience, she'll realize how it feels to be prejudiced against based off physical characteristics. After all, it is our lowest points, our most desperate points in life, that provide us with another perspective to use while evaluating the world and everyone in it.

Cover Image Credit: Twitter / Bailey

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4 Ways To Show Kindness To Yourself During Holiday Weight Gain

In all honesty, if the king of the universe can give us grace, then who are we to deny ourselves of that?


Cookies and Candies and Pies, oh my! The holiday season is filled with so many yummy foods. For a lot of people, this is a time to put healthy eating on pause so that you enjoy the treats that Christmas brings. With this change in diet also often comes a little bit or a lotta bit of holiday weight gain. These few extra pounds can be very difficult for those that struggle with body image and self-kindness already (which is almost everyone), so here are the steps that I take to remember where my worth truly lies and to practice healthy methods of getting back to normal.

1. Remember that it is just a number.

Weight is literally just a number on the scale. It is in no way a measurement of how beautiful or worthy of love and respect you are. So what? You gained five pounds over the holidays? The world is not going to crash to the ground, I promise. You are still the kind, lovely, resilient human being that you were before. You are allowed to take up space as a human. You don't need to feel bad for indulging during the holidays.

2. Continue to eat.

Please. Never. Stop. Eating. This is so important. No matter how much weight you gain, you should never, and I mean NEVER starve yourself. Just because you ate a lot yesterday does not mean that you do not eat today. Not only is that horribly unhealthy for your body, but there have been many studies that show that returning to a normal diet helps people bounce back quicker. Starvation is never the answer, and neither is crash dieting. Just return to eating a normal and balanced diet, but remember that balance does mean that you allow yourself to splurge sometimes. It's a lot unhealthier to never allow yourself to have the food you want, then to occasionally give yourself a food present.

3. Begin making peace with your body.

Start making peace with your body and showing yourself some kindness and grace. When I began my journey of seeing myself the way that Jesus sees me, I stood naked in the mirror and yelled affirmations at myself. "You are a daughter of the king." "You are deeply loved." "You are more than just your physical body" "You have tummy rolls and they are cute as heck." In all honesty, if the king of the universe can give us grace, then who are we to deny ourselves of that? We are so freaking loved and so important. We are made in the image of GOD! I mean, FRICK! That's amazing!

4. Know where your worth lies.

No matter how big or small you are, the next time you think negative thoughts about yourself, just return to the fact that GOD IS YOUR FREAKING DAD. YOU LOOK LIKE HIM. AND HE LOVES YOU SO MUCH. YOU ARE NOT GROSS. YOU ARE BEAUTIFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE. Nothing can change God's love for you. NOTHING. Not ten pounds. Not a million pounds. That is where you're worth lies. Not in weight. Not in how you look on the outside. But who you are on the inside. Who God made you to be. Who has forgiven you. Who loves you. That is where your true identity is. Believe that.

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