To The Girl Feeling Insecure In Her Spring Break Bikini

To The Girl Feeling Insecure In Her Spring Break Bikini

Choose to remember splashing in the waves laughing with friends or sunbathing all day instead of obsessing over how you look.

I know you. You've been my best friends, and at times you've been me. It's so easy as girls to be insecure and beat yourself up- especially when you are half-naked laying on a beach along with half of your school. There's so much buildup and pressure to Spring Break. Crazy diets, working out, swimsuit shopping, it can all be overwhelming. Where's time for the fun in all this? For too many girls the excitement built up to Spring Break comes also with the dread of wearing a bikini in front of everyone.

I'm telling you to stop. Set aside the anxiety. Stop the crazy diets and start focusing on what's important. Don't waste time worrying and obsessing over how you look, think about how fun the trip will be regardless of a few pounds. The amount of fun a person has is not directly correlated with the number on the scale or a six pack of abs. The key to a perfect spring break is deciding for yourself that you will not let physical appearance or what others may think hold them back from savoring every moment.

Confidence is beauty, don't compare yourself to others.

Despite what the media tries to tell us, everyone has a perfect "spring break body." You have just as much of a right to rock a bikini as anyone else does. There is no one shape or size that a person should be to have fun on the beach with their friends or family. You are much more beautiful than you believe, and if you treat your body with the love and respect you deserve, other people will too. Put your shoulders back and hold your head high, the only one who has power over how you feel about your body is you.

Throw on your cutest swimsuit and your huge sunglasses and hit the beach.

Don't constantly look in the mirror and beat yourself up over every little imperfection. All that does is set yourself up for a day of doubting yourself. No one is going to look at you as closely or as critically as you look at yourself. I challenge you to stand in front of that mirror before you head out for the day and find 10 things you love about yourself. Whether it’s the strength of your legs that let you walk on the beach or the way your smile lights up a room, choose to focus on these things instead of things that put yourself down.

I know, it’s not easy. However, at the end of the day ur not going to want to look back on this trip and remember how insecure you felt. Choose to remember splashing in the waves laughing with friends or sunbathing all day instead of obsessing over how you look or what others might think.

Remember that the only person thinking negative things about your body is you. Choose to remember what matters.

Cover Image Credit: Julianna Merry

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.

You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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My Clothing Size Doesn't Define Me, Yours Shouldn't Either

Why my jean size won't determine my self-worth.


How many times have you gone into a clothing store and come out feeling like shit about yourself? I know I have, on numerous occasions. I got so pissed off at the way that I felt clothing brands/manufacturers kept making sizes "Alice in Wonderland" smaller, while clearly, I wasn't getting bigger.

Last summer, I went to one of my favorite stores at my local mall, and I left nearly in tears. Why didn't I fit into this size of jeans in this store? I fit into this same size in another store. What's going on here? Am I losing my mind?

After that experience, I decided that from that point forward, I would not let myself get worked up and stressed out over the sizing label on a pair of jeans—my clothing size doesn't define me. The inch measurements of my waist will not ever be relevant as to whether or not I am kind, smart, or freaking amazing at Karaoke (and I crush a good Stevie Nicks' song, by the way). My clothing size has absolutely no bearing on whether or not I add value to someone's life, or if I'm genuinely a good person.

Your clothing size should not ever define how you see yourself either. So what? You're a size 00—that doesn't mean that you're "nothing" or that you "look sickly skinny." So what? You're a size 16, or 18, or 22—that doesn't mean that you're "ugly" or "too big" or "not enough," or any of the other lies that society would have any of us believe about ourselves.

Society loves to put women in their place, and what better way to do this than to have us believe that because we wear size fill-in-the-blank jeans, that we are automatically "too small" or "too big." The problem is not with any one of us—the problem is with society and the fact that making women feel uncomfortable in their bodies have become the norm. I will never let the size of my jeans ever define how I see myself, and you shouldn't either.

As cliché and "Instagram hashtag" worthy as the old saying goes, it's actually true: Love yourself. In a culture that relies on women (and men, too), hating ourselves, it's absolutely critical for each and every one of us to accept ourselves exactly as we are.

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