In today's world, dating apps seem to be everywhere which is great but, it's shifting the focus from the reality of dating, to a bunch of A-holes wanting to screw around and a few genuine guys. I have so many problems with dating apps and websites. What ever happened to men being gentlemen and actually wanting to date a girl and not just "Netflix and Chill"? Where did the respect and classiness go?
Anyway, to the girl who is on Tinder looking for a date, take a break or stop using it. I'm not saying you can't find someone that way but, I just have high doubts about it. Sure, I easily found my boyfriend because it just happened. My advice for you is to clean out your social media and take a break. Stop worrying about finding your soulmate and focus on getting involved in school and focus on your schooling. Joining a club or even just talking to a few guys in your classes and making connections. There, you'll have a higher chance of finding someone.
When you find a guy or a few guys you like, become friends with them first instead of jumping to the guns and dating right away. Being friends with someone gives you time to hang out and really get to know someone. You get to build trust, you get to know their strengths and weaknesses, and what irritates them. You also get to see how they click with your other friends and what their favorite things are to do. I'm not talking about the basic stuff like, hiking, deer hunting, their car, food, and music genre; I'm talking about their favorite place to go when they need to think, place to eat, hobbies they don't talk about, if they were/are a music geek, and how they will treat you.
Those are things you don't find on the dating profiles.
The funny thing about dating profiles is they're true but not the whole truth. We select a few things about ourselves and a few pictures that may or may not show who we really are. It's twisted just enough where it seems like that's all there is to you, looks and a few interesting facts. That doesn't really give you or the other people a much of a chance. JUST GET OFF TINDER and get into the reality of the dating world. Face-to-face instead of face-to-phone-to-kind-of-face-to-face.
Girl, pour s cup of coffee or two, get off tinder, please stop stressing out over dating someone, and take a break. Guys aren't worth stressing over that much. As Matt Healy once said, "Life's too short to drink crappy coffee and cry over boys who don't care."
