No more excuses. Shit is going to happen regardless, so might as well have it some(what) together.

I was sitting at Dollop, enjoying Chicago's random 60 degree weather, when my best friend FaceTimes me, and she is balling her eyes out. All I can hear is , "Gucci--WHAAAAA, I can't even". I guess she dropped her Gucci perfume, and just broke down.

Talk about first world problems. After we lost connection I had an idea for an article, I pulled out my phone and typed, "girl, get it together" onto my notes. Shout out to Grace for the inspiration. Part of this is a note to myself, and the other half is a note to all those people that need a little encouragement. If you are looking for a sign, THIS.IS.IT.

There is nothing I want to change about the way I am (in relation to others). I've come to terms with the fact that I am "too nice" and "too giving", and it does not bother me. I want to be that giving all the time! I just want to learn the right way to give, and how to give to the right people. It may seem like a recipe for failure, to be that vulnerable, but this one is on me, my choice. I am holding the door open, I am allowing you to 'hurt' me. Here is what can happen. You can either hurt me, or not, that is up to you. I'm just holding the door open, you chose to walk through it or close it. If you close the door, that is that, I know you will not hurt me, intentionally at least. That's the kind of people I want to give my all to. The people that I know can hurt me, but given the chance, will not. I am willing to risk it, I want to be vulnerable and have no walls with my loved ones. I already have enough walls, I do not want to build anymore. It's a slow process, and there is more hurt I have to face, but it's coming along. In the mean time, here are some things to do to get your shit together, GIRL!

1. Make a BOMB playlist

I made a playlist on my tidal, and I put it on replay! It is a combination of all of my favorite songs, and empowering music. You may think that sad music helps, but if you are in a funk, you cannot, I repeat, CANNOT, listen to Lana Del Rey, or sad petty music. You need to feel like the Queen you are!

Here are some of my own jams:

High School Musical (Jesse Bloch & Jesse James Bootleg Remix), Breaking Free

Keri Hilson, Pretty Girl Rock

Shawn Mendes, There's Nothing Holding Me Back

Katy Perry, California Gurls

Wiz Khalifa ft. Snoop Dog, Young Wild & Free

Miley Cyrus, See You Again

Jason Derulo, Whatcha Say

Shakira, Hips Don't Lie

Avril Lavigne, What The Hell and Girlfriend

The Beatles, A Hard Day's Night and Help!

Beyonce: Upgrade U, Irreplaceable, Sweet Dreams, Rocket, Crazy In Love, Countdown, Lift Off, Schoolin' Life** (MY FAVORITE), Start Over, Best Thing I Never Had

The Black Eyed Peas, Meet Me Halfway

Outkast (Party Pupils Cover Remix), Mrs Jackson

2. TREAT YO SELF!

Go get your eyebrows done. Get them threaded so you feel some type of away. Go get a nice mani and pedi. Now, you are ready to walk around listening to your new bomb playlist. Feel yourself to the point that if a stranger sees you in the street, they feel your (new) good vibe!

3. Eat your favorite pastry/candy!

Want me to let you in on a secret? Chocolate comes from cocoa, coca comes from a tree. Trees have leaves, which makes it a plant. Chocolate is basically a salad! You're welcome!

4. Do your hair and makeup girl!

When I was in high school I used to dress up on the hardest days, so I wouldn't cry. No, I'm serious. I'm not going to spend two hours of makeup and hair, to be weak and (cry) up all my hard work. If you're having a rough moment, getting dolled up helps, because you may feel like shit on the inside, but at least you look good on the outside ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.

5. Bootylicious.

I don't like squats, I am more of a stair master kind of gal. But do your thing, go to the gym and kill it! Work hard on that booty! Do some pilates, go to Barry's Bootcamp, do something! Just make sure your booty is getting perky! You ate your donut, now make sure all those donut calories go to the booty!

6. Clean your room, clean everything, clean your soul!

Cleansing is a hard but rewarding journey. For Lent I decided to give up toxic people, and I'm getting there. If you are overwhelmed and it feels like your life is falling apart, clean your room, AND keep it clean! My mom is a clean freak, and I thank her every day for the OCD genes. If you're life is a mess, at least you can run home to a clean room! Wash your sheets, because sleeping in a nice bed is the best cure for anything!

7. Get your favorite drink.

Sometimes, we need a little numbing. One of my closest friends was prescribed antidepressants in middle school, and I have been against them since. I don't think that prescribed numbness is ever the answer, so get something (less, kind of) damaging. Word on the street says red wine is healthy(er).

8. Let it out.

I cry. Beyonce cries. It's okay to do it. I've learn that it takes balls to allow those emotions to show. You're not tough if you can hold them in, just cuddle your pillows, and call your girlfriends if you have to and let it out honey bunches<3.

9. Dance baby, DANCE!

Honestly, go off queen! Just play your favorite jams and go dance outside. When I was visiting my friend in Denver, his (frat) brothers started playing music outside, and before you knew it we were all dancing outside! Just do it, dance in your room, dance until you've dance the sadness away!

10. GIRLS NIGHT!

The secret behind a successful girls night is stating the end goal. What do you guys want to get out of it? Want to be less sad, want to dance all night, want a hook-up, a bomb insta pic? Whatever it is make it clear, and NO BAD VIBES! We all have issues and baggage, but as soon as girls night starts, it's all out the window!

11. Get some vitamin D

Not in a sunny state? That's why they made tanning beds for! Just go for 5 minutes and get your D!

The most important thing to do when you are in a funk is to take care of yourself. It may seem a little shallow, but you have to do what you have to do. It doesn't matter what you do, the funk is hard to get out of no matter who you are. Try talking to your friends about it, but don't put it on them, ya feels? Let them know what's going on, but don't put that weight on them. If you only have one support system, try to branch out. Join a book club, start a blog here on Odyssey! The possibilities are endless! If this helped or you just want to vent, just reach out, the chances are we could relate on so many different levels!