I've been seeing quite the flurry on Facebook about this article, "If Your Boyfriend's Best Friend Is A Girl." I read it, shrugged, and then continued on with my day. Then I saw this article, where a girl rebuked what the original article was saying. Once again, I read it, shrugged, and continued on with my day.

As I’ve thought of it, I realized that I wanted to comment on it because I am the girl best friend. My best friend since I was 5-years-old is a man. Most of my closest friends, except for two, are men. This is such an awkward situation for everyone involved, but it’s not as cut and dry as everyone seems to think it is.

See, I’ve been best friends with my best friend long before any of these girls came around. My newest guy friends and I might not have the time that my oldest friend does, but we have a bond that I’m blessed to have with them. I will never apologize for having such great friendships with these guys, regardless of what anyone tries to tell me.

However, I do know that my male friends will date. They will date other women. And when they do, I step aside and know that our friendship takes on a whole different tone because of this girl.

Do I get mad about it? Not anymore. I used to. It wasn’t until about a year ago when I realized how petty it would be for me to get mad at these girls for being a little insecure about my friendships with my guy friends. Although there is no romantic chemistry, I can see why they might feel threatened. I can see why they might feel like I could throw a wrench into things, even though it’s the last thing I want to do.

Being a girl best friend when your best friend has a girlfriend simply means that while he’s still your best friend, he’s got another girl in his life now. You have to share. It’s not a competition between you and her like these articles are portraying. When you make it a competition, you’ll lose every time because guess what – he doesn’t want the drama, and he will eliminate the source of it. As a best friend, your job is to be a best friend and support him through the good and talk with him through the bad. It’s not to make her feel threatened or make him feel guilty.

So to my best friends’ girlfriends, I do not want you to go away. I’m not threatened by you, and I don’t want you to be threatened by me. What I want is for you to make him as happy as he can be. I’m totally confident in my friendship with him. I want you to be confident in your relationship.

Don’t find a new boyfriend that’s not my best friend. I don’t want to find a new best friend. We can live in harmony.