As many college’s across the country are gearing up -- or just finishing -- their recruitment process, we can all accurately reflect back on all of the surface-level conversations we partake in as the potential new members (PNMs, for all you non-Greek folk) attempt to flirt their way into a bid day card. We can pretend like every conversations held between sorority girls is groundbreaking and on the verge of curing cancer, but we all know you end up talking about your dog or what you had for lunch more often than anything. Here’s the 101 guide to how to girl flirt most efficiently.
Always compliment each other.
Oh, I love your dress! Your hair looks great, did you just get it highlighted? Your shoes. I need to have them. Walk to any table at any round of recruitment and these quick (and strategically valuable) phrases will be heard from every PNM talking to a sister. Everyone loves a compliment, especially when you want her to be your new sister. Throw one or two in the conversation, bonus points if you can fit a few in mid-conversation. Even if you hate their shoes, you can put on a smile and pretend like those are the most beautiful pair of shoes you’ve ever seen.
Never eat the food.
Regardless of if you skipped dinner to curl your hair and can currently feel your stomach eating itself, never actually eat the food they offer you. The popcorn and candy looks great now, but it isn’t as appealing when you’re trying to chew and hold a conversation at the same time. Look forward to the pizza you order with your friends after recruitment as you discuss your favorite houses and ignore the temptation of snacking. But make sure you drink all the water they offer you. Your throat will thank you later.
Wear clothes that are comfortable and cute (easier said than done).
Each round of recruitment requires different dress codes in terms of if you need to look cute and casual, or put together and fashionable. Good luck striking a balance between cute and comfortable! But depending on what night you are on and your geographic location, the clothing to wear can vary. Obviously, wear something that expresses your true self, but keep in mind that you’re going to be walking around all night. The only thing worse than talking with food in your mouth is asking to sit down because you physically cannot bear to stand anymore because those cute bootie are cutting off your circulation. Or do what I did and wear those five-inch wedges that destroy your feet as you trudge through six inches of snow, and regret the decision all night -- either one works.
Convince yourself that the chants are catchy.
I guarantee that after a few rounds of recruitment, you will be singing the songs that each house screams (literally…screams) at you for at least three hours after the night ends. You will silently curse them for forcing obnoxious sorority chanting down your throat, but remember that it’s super fun and the chants are super cute and you’re super doper excited to become a sorority sister. LOL.
5. Last but not least, remember the girls’ names.
You can be having the greatest, most thoughtful conversation of your life, but you can easily shatter all of that progress if you forget the girl’s name. This is top five most embarrassing things you can do, right up there next to talking with a mouth full of chips and tripping as you walk into a house. Nobody likes thinking that they are forgetful, but I can guarantee that you will be forgotten if you blare out a wrong name. Worse comes to worst, shout out the name “Emily” because everyone’s name seems to be “Emily”.
