To The Girl Who Is Always In A Relationship, Take Some Time To Find Yourself First

To The Girl Who Is Always In A Relationship, Take Some Time To Find Yourself First

A reminder to love yourself first.


Why do we say falling in love? Well, because we are actually falling and we have to hit the ground eventually. It hurts for a while, but sooner or later we do have to get up. Similarly, in love, we may have issues and difficult times, but we have to get up and either walk away or work to maintain the relationship.

When we start to fall in love, we start to lose ourselves in that person. We want to be with them all the time. The feeling of happiness we get with this person is unimaginable. It is something that is truly beautiful. However, there are some of us who lose who we are when we fall in love, we forget other people in our lives and when the love begins to wither away, we find ourselves alone and without sight of who we are without the person we loved.

What I would like to say is, no matter how in love you are with someone, do not leave the people that have been with you before you met your partner. Everyone needs love and it is alright to want to give everything to them, but it is not alright to give up everything for them.

It is not necessary to be in a relationship all the time either. It is okay to be single and have the time to find yourself. You cannot love someone else completely until you are able to love yourself and sometimes we get too busy loving someone that we forget to love ourselves.

I am writing this to remind you to love yourself and the people in your life that truly matter to you. People will come and go in your life, but you have to live with yourself until the end. If I were you, I would want to love that person most.

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10 Things To Know Before You Date A 'Car Guy'

Caution, there are two loves of his life: his car and you.

Dating a guy with a nice car seems cool, but slowly you will find out the perks and flaws of dating a car guy. You may have a sweet ride to cruise downtown on the weekends in, but serious rules apply to the life of the car guy. With that being said, here are some things you may want to know before dating that dreamy guy with the nice car. You have been warned.

1. Unthinkable amounts of money will be spent on car parts

No matter what, he will always be thinking of the next modification to put on his car, or some new part that he "needs" to make his car the best. Spending a grand on a new set of wheels seems like no problem to him, while you are sitting eating ramen on the top bunk of your college bed with three dollars in your bank account.

2. Weekends will always consist of at least one car event

"Hey babe do you want to go out tonight" will quickly turn into "Hey babe want to come with me to a car meet tonight". Although it may make you cringe, power through one or two of them, it will make your S.O. one happy guy, plus you may even enjoy it once you get out there.

3. Five more minutes under the hood is never five minutes

Whenever he tells you he will be done with his car soon, you might as well crack open a book because you will have a while. Catch up on some homework or errands you need to get done because I guarantee you it will take a while. Two hours later, maybe, he might be ready to spend some time with you.

4. He will refer to his car as "her" or "baby"

If you hear him say "My baby is looking good today" don't freak out. He's most likely talking about his car, not another girl. Get used to this name because it will most likely never go away.

5. You'll always be able to hear your S.O.'s arrival

It's something about car guys that makes them believe the louder the car the better. This comes in handy when you are able to hear your S.O's arrival so you are able to pull yourself together before he just walks on in. Surprise visits when you are unpresentable are eliminated.

6. Conversations will always lead to confusion

Once he starts talking about the new exhaust kit he wants to put on his car, you're lost. Just smile and nod ladies, it makes the conversation go by much quicker.

7. Never slam a car door

I learned this one the hard way. Just don't do it. Ever. Or your S.O. will be personally offended by your action and insist you apologize to the car personally.

8. Eating in the car comes with great caution

Eating in his car is a rare task that takes much skill. Although your S.O. won't have the heart to say no to your Chick-fil-a craving, he may cringe at the thought of Chick-fil-a sauce getting onto his freshly cleaned seats. Be careful, or just eat inside.

9. He will have two loves of his life: his car and you

His love for cars came before his love for girls, remember that. You are the love of his life, but so is his car. So you'll have to learn to share him just a little.

10. But in the end, he loves you just as much, if not more, than he does his car.

At the end of the day, you are his girlfriend and his love for you is massive. Although some days it may not feel like it you are loved just as much, if not more, than the shiny piece of metal he calls baby. Remember his car can't quite feed him and give him massive bear hugs like you do. You will always be important and very much loved.

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To The Boy I’ve Been Dating Since I Was 15, I Always Knew You Were My Forever

Thank you for showing me love when I thought I didn't deserve any.


Hey you,

People assumed our "fling" would only last a few short months. It's what everyone assumes when your first love happens during your sophomore year of high school. Yet here we stand, three and a half years later, more together than we've ever been. Although we've had our ups and downs, we still managed to keep our relationship going and to remember why we're together in the first place.

Many say loving isn't easy, but you make it a walk in the park.

You respect me in more ways than one, and you make me feel beautiful, inside and out. For a long time, I never noticed the beauty and strength I have within myself. I didn't see what others would point out to me, and at times I still find it hard to acknowledge my worth. However, you came into my life at a time when I felt I had no one, and you helped me to see all I have to offer. You helped me to open my mind to the thought of loving myself for who I am, and although the road is long and I'm not completely there, you've made me see how worthy of love I truly am.

Having you as my best friend, along with being my boyfriend, is the most rewarding feeling in the world.

I think the reason we rarely fight or stay angry with each other is that we truly are best friends. We could spend all of our time in deep conversation about any topic in the world and still feel engaged and ready to hear more from one another. Every single day I learn something new about you and vice versa. We can be ourselves in each other's presence and have fun doing absolutely nothing exciting. I am easily annoyed by a lot of things, but you are not one of them. Being with you for hours, even if we just watch TV the entire time, never gets repetitive or boring.

You treated me with the respect I deserved before I even realized I was worthy of it.

In many ways, I don't respect myself. Whether it be body image or letting "friends" walk all over me, I let many thoughts and people control my life. You, however, were the saving grace I needed. You've shown me how I deserve to be treated and how I should think of myself. Often I wonder how I got so lucky to end up with someone who loves me unconditionally and who values everything I have to offer. I say all the time that I don't deserve your heart, your kindness, your love, but you always remind me that I do. And I'm starting to realize that you're right; I deserve every bit of love, kindness, and respect that you have to offer. I can only hope that I award you with the same love and selflessness you give me every single day.

Three and a half years with someone may seem extremely long, but I feel as though we've been together a lifetime. It's hard to remember a time when you weren't right there beside me, and I would never want to imagine a future without you in it. There are so many more laughs, adventures, and memories to be made with you, and I only hope that I can be at least half of the person you are.

Thank you for pulling me out of the darkness. Today, tomorrow, and always.

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