Yeah, believe me, it’s as awful as it sounds. I have been on the giving and receiving end of this awful new trend. I don’t fully understand why people think this is OK, but it’s not. If you’re wondering what I’m talking about, I’m talking about ghosting. Yeah, people, it’s a thing. An unfortunate, but real thing.
If you don’t know what this means, essentially, you are dumped with no explanation. It stinks. You have no idea why or how it ended, but it did. You have no idea what you said or did. But it's not you.
If there has ever been a scenario where things did not work out, I have tried my best to tell the guy why I don’t think we’re the best fit or what I wouldn’t tolerate anymore. However, sometimes for both you and the other person it’s best to stop feeding into their questioning and simply stop answering their calls, snaps and texts. After a while, maybe they’ll get the picture? You’ve given them the reasons and closure they need. However, after that...
So now on to my point… just don’t do it. If you cannot be mature enough to deal with aspects of dating and relationships, don’t be a part of it; simple as that. Is it really necessary to completely ignore someone and make them feel inferior just because you can’t deal with reality?
As much as it may hurt someone’s feelings, just be mature and tell them that you can’t continue on. You don’t feel the same way. You can’t have a relationship right now. You have been seeing someone else. But don’t, please don’t, ghost someone. Let them know it’s not them, that it’s you. Yes, you. If you’re ghosting people on the reg, clearly you’re the one with a problem. Do some reevaluating in your life. You need to know a little bit more about how adulating works, how relationships work and how common decency works.
Simply put, save yourself and the other person some heartache. Just do what’s best for you and make sure you think about others. Would you really want that done to you? People all have emotions. Let them have the closure they need. Don’t be selfish. Don’t be a ghost. Be a blessing in disguise.
