All my friends have their shit together, And then there’s Me

All my friends have their shit together, And then there’s Me

If you can’t find the one friend in the group that seems to be struggling, it’s probably you, my friend.


Sometimes I feel really shitty compared to my friends. It seems like everyone around me is graduating soon and on the (correct) path to being an actual adult. Then there's me: still in school, not going to the school I had in mind, single, and most importantly- broke.

Most of my friends from high school went on a different path than I chose - a four-year degree at a university. Why do I feel bad sometimes about leaving my hometown and going to a university? Probably because everyone back home either already has a well-paying job or they're graduating soon. Not me. Year two in my four-year degree, and even though I feel shitty sometimes, I love the path I'm on.

I've always done pretty well in school, so thinking about going to school for a long time has never deterred me or stood in my way. I guess I just wish some of my friends were a little more aware of how they sounded when they talked about their graduations while I'll still be in a classroom somewhere.

Don't even get me started on being single. Honestly. I *HATE* talking about relationships with my friends or constantly being the friend that gets set up on a blind date. Please stop putting me on pity dates. I'd rather go as a wheel... or get this - I'd rather stay home.

All of my friends seem to be in these long relationships, and while that's all good and well and I'm happy for them, it's not my thing right now. Work and school come first for me, and I don't have time to focus on someone else. I don't mind being single, so stop making me feel bad when I talk about more than one person.

I'm a broke ass college student. Shocker, right? I've already talked about how working back home in the summer is awful and hard to do, but wow. I miss working at least two jobs and going to school. I miss the freedom of it all. I don't even want to go out with some of my friends anymore because they only talk about money and the things they plan to buy. I'm happy for my friends' successes, but it's exhausting to hear how materialistic some of them are starting to become.

I'm definitely the struggle bus of the group, and this bus doesn't seem to be stopping anytime soon. Pretty soon my jobs and work start back up, and I'll feel better, but right now I'm going to enjoy time with my family and friends back home before it's time to say goodbye again.

My friends rock, and I'm so proud of them for everything they're achieving. I wish I felt that way about myself sometimes, but I'm grateful I'm able to feel that way about people I truly care about. I'm a broke, single student, and that's perfectly okay. One day I'll get my shit together, but until then, I'll be just fine.

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Any girl who is at least 5'8" will understand these struggles and possibly identify with them on a spiritual level.

1. Dresses not being long enough

Finding dresses for any occasion that will be long enough is like searching for rain in a drought. And when you find one, it's bound to either cost $$$ or not fit another aspect of your body.

2. Heck, pants are never long enough either

You are constantly flooding, or else you rolled up your jeans to look like capris. Unless you special ordered some jeans online in the coveted size LONG or EXTRA LONG, this will forever be your fate.

3. "Do you date guys that are shorter than you?"

This is a personal preference people! Don't assume that a girl will or will not date someone just based on their height difference! Also, don't judge if they aren't interested in someone who is shorter than them!

4. Not wearing heels because you don't enjoy being the skyscraper of the friend group

Wearing heels can be fun buuuuuuuut sometimes towering over everyone else is not our idea of fun.

5. It's hard to find cute shoes that actually fit

You would love to have all those cute little shoes in the clearance section, but most of them barely cover your big toe.

6. Everyone thinks you walk too fast

Short-legged people just can't keep up with you, even though you aren't even walking fast. Like at all.

7. People want to jump on your back

Just because you're tall doesn't give them the license to make you into their personal camel.

8. Never being able to cross your legs underneath desks and tables

You. Can. Not. Get. Comfortable.

9. Awkward hugs

Some people will never understand.

10. Never knowing how to pose in pictures

Should you sorority squat? Pop the hip? Bend the leg? Contort your body to feel like a normal sized human? So hard to decide.

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Summer = Rest?

Sometimes it feels as if we need a vacation... from our vacation.


Ah summer: Popsicles and sun burns, mixed with fresh-squeezed lemonade that local kids are pandering to make enough money for Roman candles and Black Cats. The crack of the bat can be heard among the simmering charcoal grills and Troy-bilts humming through the ever-lasting sun. School is out and children are wild. It's a paradise.

Or is it?

But after countless sports camps and tournaments, other camps, vacations, school (?) events, traveling teams, VBS, summer seems to have been sucked fun-free.

Maybe it's Hollywood and Harper Lee's fault for giving us this utopian view of what summer should look and feel like (I'm looking at you Sandlot). But how can we really rest this summer? Because everyone needs some actual rest, even adults.

First thing is do NOT pack your summer full. Say no to some things. Coaches and Families can expect too much and it's okay to say no to them. You have to. There is no time for kids to be kids anymore.

Work can take a backseat. Vacations need to be taken. Families need to reconnect.

And for all my super-scheduled people out there, please PLEASE don't schedule out your vacation. Just enjoy it.

Another bit of advice would be to put away the technology and spend some time outside. When was the last time you tried to catch lightning bugs? Or went for a swim? Or listened to birds on your front porch?

I may sound like I have an old soul, but I really feel like we have lost this connection to the outside world. Summer is all about getting a farmer's tan and getting stung once or twice. I can guarantee you that's some of the best therapy in the world.

Maybe this sounds all over the place. Maybe this sounds like me ranting. And it probably is.

But I'm telling you that this stuff matters. Don't let summer whiz by and you arrive in August more drained that you were in May. Enjoy this time with family and friends.

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