I honestly think ending a friendship is harder to get over than a romantic relationship. Certain friends are irreplaceable and depending on how close you are they’ve probably been a huge part of your life. Which is why when you decide to end it, it’s extremely hard to continue on with your life because it always feels like there’s an empty spot. Whenever good things happen or something hilarious you’ll always look over expecting to see them smiling and that’s not the case.
As you get older you start to realize the importance of surrounding yourself with people that will make you grow as a person. And if you have a friend who isn’t being a positive influence, but instead making your life harder than you should consider ending that friendship. Friendships aren’t supposed to be hard! They’re supposed to build you up and support you! As hard as it may be sometimes cutting off ties can be the best thing for yourself.
Now that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy. You were friends with someone for a reason. They probably made you laugh and always knew the right thing to say when you cried. Especially with friends that you’ve known for years, calling it quits is going to be an adjustment. You’ll probably always miss them, because we always like to think about the good times.
Once you’ve decided to end the friendship that hard part starts. Trying to move on is going to be different. Someone you used to spend every day talking to is gone. You now have to find new friends to fill the void and you’ll end up talking to them more to distract yourself. If you both are in the same social circle it will be hard seeing them as they go on with their life and knowing that you’re not a part of it.
But being able to move on from a close friendship can be a positive despite the disappointment. You have the opportunity to meet new people and possibly make even closer friends. It also allows making new experiences. Sometimes when we get too comfortable in our friendships we get repetitive in our day-to-day activities. This allows you to branch out and try new things that you couldn’t before because your friendship was holding you back.
The reason that ending a friendship is so hard is because we never want things to change. It might seem easier to just continue on and act like it’s OK. But your happiness is the most important and if you feel like a friendship isn’t benefitting you then you need to take steps to change it. You don’t always have to end a friendship with someone; sometimes discussing your problems can solve the issues. But if that isn’t the case then ending it will show growth and strength as you move on to find other people who can help you. You will always wish them well and think fondly of the good times, but leave memories in the past and go on trying to be the best you can be.
