11 Reasons To Get Rid Of Your Fake 'Friends'

11 Reasons You Should Ring In The New Year By Getting Rid Of Your Fake 'Friends'

It's 2019, the time for fake friendships and those who weigh you down are over.


We've all had those "friends." Those who act as though they have your back but when it really comes down to it, they don't. Those who pretend they love you but then talk bad about you behind your back. Those who say one thing and then do the complete opposite. Worse enough, the list goes on... and on.

We've all had these "friends" that pop up in our life. Sometimes we're strong enough to get rid of them and cut them out of our life but other times, we let them stay and basically become a parasite. They waste our energy and they drag us down and we don't know any better until it's too late and they've gone too far.

But now, it's 2019. We're ringing in the New Year and it's time to make some changes. Here are 11 reasons why you should tell those fake friends good riddance.

1. No one needs to talk badly about you behind your back.

Friends stick up for each other, not tear each other down.

2. You shouldn't let people take advantage of you.

Don't let people mistake your kindness and generosity as you being a pushover

3. Live your own life, don't let others pressure you into what you don't want to do.

Don't let your fake friends tell you what to do! If you don't want to go to the club and get wasted, then don't.

4. Secrets, secrets are no fun... when they're shared with everyone.

Good friends should be able to keep your secrets! Or better yet, anything you tell them! It's no one else's business what you say or have said.

5. No one should have the right to judge you.

It doesn't matter if it's what you eat, what you wear, who you date, or where you work! Each of these things are personal and private to you.

6. Friends shouldn't tear you down.

There is a huge difference between constructive criticism and tearing someone down. Don't let someone tell you that you look bad, fat, or ugly no matter what.

7. Lies shouldn't exist in a friendship.

I hate to break it to everyone but lies are selfish. They help no one and make everything worse. Friendships require trust and once you break it, you're done.

8. Holding grudges is childish.

Every friend group fights. It could be something small or something big but regardless, you should be able to get over it and move on once all is said and done.

9. You don't need someone who is never there for you.

What is the point in having a "friend" who is never there? At that point, they aren't your friend, they're just someone you happen to know. If you had a bad breakup, you want someone who will hold you while you cry and help cheer you up. You don't want someone who will just talk about themselves.

10.  People who only text you when they need something aren't friends.

Friends are people who you trust and those who are always there for you. If someone texts you just because they want to borrow your skirt or because they want you to drive them to a party, they aren't friends.

11.  Friends shouldn't be jealous of everything you do.

What you do and what you accomplish are important. If your "friend" is jealous that you're doing better in school and resent you for it, get rid of them.

Fake friends are toxic. They ruin your self-confidence and they drag you down. Life is short, don't spend it surrounded with people who aren't truly there for you.

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To My Best Friend Who Taught Me What True Friendship Is, I Can't Thank You Enough

"To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding."

Dear Best Friend,

You have been a part of my life for quite some time now. You have seen my good, bad, and ugly sides and have stuck by my side through it all. I don't know if I could ever find the words to truly thank you for everything your friendship has given me, but I am definitely going to try.

Our lives have taken some twist and turn these past few years, but we have stayed strong through it all.

Thank you for judging me just the right amount.

Throughout our friendship, I have made some very questionable decisions. A lot of people would say "thanks for never judging me," but I feel like everyone needs a best friend who's going to tell them how it is, to tell them when they are about to make a bad decision or how to avoid something worse from happening. You have always told me how it is (even when I don't always want to hear it), but I know that I can come to you whenever I need someone to set me straight.

You're always down to do nothing with me.

I think that you are the one person that I can call up to hang out and do absolutely nothing with and have a good time. From the nights sitting in and playing card games to ordering Chinese food and watching an entire Netflix series while I dance around with the cat: I know that we could do anything, and nothing together and it would be fun.

But also, you're always down to get lit with me.

I swear one day we will be two old moms at a bar drinking vodka crans and laughing about the stupid shit our husbands and children do. You're always down to go out and have a good time. Even if everyone else we're with is miserable, we find a way to laugh at ourselves.

You are one of the few constant things in my life.

I've lost a lot of friends in my life, but you have stayed by my side through everything. I can't remember the last time we actually fought about anything, but even when we do we can't stay mad at each other for more than a day. I know we will be in each other's lives until we literally keel over.

I want you yo know that you're the strongest person I know.

You've dealt with things that not many people go through ever in their life. You have always been so mature, and you handle everything with grace. You inspire me every day with your goals and successes and I am so proud of you and all of your accomplishments.

Above all else, you deserve the world.

It's so easy to get caught up in your own mind and think that you deserve the things that happen to you, but please know that the only thing you deserve is happiness. Please settle for nothing short of that. It may take a bit to find your happiness, but I will be there every step of the way. You're a remarkable human being, and I want nothing but the best for you.

To the person who will hold your heart someday, please do not break it. To the person who may wrong you, you will regret it forever. To the person who will love you endlessly, love her with kindness and understanding.

You, my best friend, future bridesmaid, godmother of my children, the person to bail me out of jail, the one who lets me cry on their couch for twelve hours,

I love you.

I will cherish our friendship forever. Thank you for being you.

Love always,

Your best friend.

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Being The Last Friend To Turn 21 Isn't ALL Bad

All your friends have turned 21, but that is okay


You may think being the last one out of your friend group to turn twenty-one is the worst thing in the world, but in all honesty, it doesn't have to be. One of the biggest perks is that everyone of your friends can go out to the bars with you on your birthday. All the people who turn twenty-one first have to wait for people to be able to go out with them, but you get to celebrate your birthday with all of your friends.

Another huge reason you should feel okay with being last to turn twenty-one is thinking about all the money you are saving. The bars are expensive. When you don't go to the bars you are saving so much money because an average bar drink is about seven dollars. This being said seven dollars multiple times a night, multiple nights a week really adds up, so you are going to have to budget your money better.

You don't have to be the one to buy alcohol for everyone else. Having a ton of people ask you to buy them alcohol must get annoying at a point, and if you're the youngest out of your friends, no one will be asking you to do liquor store runs for them because they can all go already for themselves.

The biggest reason is that you can enjoy being young. You should still continue to enjoy going to house parties and just being able to hang out with friends without having to go to the bars. Spend these months before you turn twenty-one just being able to enjoy life without feeling obligated to go out to the bars all the time. You have a great excuse when you don't want to drink on a weekday to just stay in. This being said it will be your turn to turn twenty-one soon.


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