Being in a relationship is one of the many joys of life. You get to go through a part of your life with someone who loves you, cares for you, surprises you, and watches out for you. The best kind of relationship is the one where you are not only a couple, but best friends as well.
But what happens when you break up? What happens when you not only lose your significant other, but your best friend, too? What happens when the person you thought you were going to marry breaks up with you? You can't breathe. You feel like someone is playing a sick joke on you. You would do anything to fix whatever problems may have arose and led to the end of your relationship. But the other person wants nothing to do with you. They block your number, they block you on every social media outlet you can think of. You feel like you're never going to get over them.
Overcoming a break-up is so much harder than everyone makes it out to be. Your best friend tells you to jump on Tinder to meet someone to take your mind off of them. But with every swipe, you see something that reminds you of your ex and suddenly you find it hard to breathe. Your mom tells you you're better off without them, but that just makes you even sadder. You feel like without them, you are nothing.
You can't just get over someone who was your whole world in a week or two. It can take months, and sometimes even years. You might seem so lost and think you physically can not get over them, but you can!
Here are some ideas that might help you get through this!
1) Listen to happy music.
Throw on some 2000's throwbacks. Sing those throwbacks at the top of your lungs and dance like a crazy person in your room.
2) Get out!!
Even though your body is telling you to stay in bed, GET OUT!! Call up your closest friends and go bowling. Go out to eat, anything to get you out of your bed of sadness and around people who have your best interests in mind.
3) Do something you've been wanting to do.
Color your hair that weird shade of pink you've always wanted to try but your ex wouldn't let you. Try out that new restaurant you've been dying to go to but didn't because your ex didn't like the food they had.
4) Join a dating site!
Although the thought might scare you half to death at first, having people other than your ex telling you that you're pretty or handsome will definitely boost your confidence! It makes you realize that they weren't the only person in the world who thinks you're attractive.
5) Talk about it!!
Talk to your best friend about it. Talk to a counselor. Keeping everything in is only going to hurt you. Once you talk about what happened, you will feel like the weight of the world is finally off of your shoulders.
6) Write about it!
Grab an old notebook and write like you have never wrote before. You can write anything and no one will judge you for it.
7) Draw it out.
When there are no words to describe how you're feeling, draw it out. Color a picture, paint, or grab a pencil and scribble as hard as you can until the pencil breaks.
8) Rearrange your room.
Sometimes changing how your room is set up can make you feel so much better. Get rid of that stuffed animal your ex gave you and go out and get a new one. Getting rid of any trace of your ex from your room will help big time.
9) Change your hair.
Cut your hair to the length you have dreamed of doing but was afraid your ex would dump you for it. Color your hair that deep violet you've been dying to try since you saw it on Tumblr. Make yourself happy!!
10) Cry.
Don't hold in what you're feeling. If you feel like you need to cry, cry. If you feel like you need to scream, scream! Let it all out. You will feel so much better when you do.
