8 Ways You Know You Found Your Future Maid-of-Honor

8 Ways You Know You Found Your Future Maid-of-Honor

You may not even consider that person a friend anymore, more like a long-lost sister you are convinced got separated at birth.
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In your life, you have probably had a lot of best friends. It could have been that girl from your neighborhood growing up, the family friend that has been there since the beginning, or someone you just instantly connected with. But, there will always be that one person who exceeds everyone else you come across. You may not even consider that person a friend anymore, more like a long-lost sister you are convinced got separated at birth. Regardless of who it is, there are definitely some signs that point to who that person is in your life.

1. She is the first person you call to give any type of news.

Failed your test? Went on a date with a cute guy? Saw a dog while you were walking home? Big or small, bad or good, you want her to be the first person to know. Since she's your best friend, she'll always have the same reaction as you since you two are basically the same person.

2. You share absolutely everything!!!

No need to go to the mall when you need something, just go straight to your best friends closet! If you don't have something, she most likely will. From clothes to shoes, to beauty products, what's mine is hers.

3. She's already apart of your family (and you're apart of hers).

Oh, how many times I have gone on Snapchat just to see that my family and best friend are hanging out once again without my knowledge. If your best friend is really your best friend, they should feel at home and comfortable with your family (even if you're not there.) You bring her out to every family function and vacation because, without her, your family feels incomplete.

4. You can sit together in complete silence and it's just as fun as a night out.

Sometimes the simple joy of sitting with someone and just enjoying their company is better than a crazy night out. Don't get me wrong, a night out with your girlfriends is definitely needed once in a while but everyone needs a day or two to relax. And once you've found your best friend, you want them there too.

5. You've seen each other at your worst.

What comes along with being so close is that you see each other at every stage in your life. The worst and the best parts are all shared with your best friend. They are there through it all and stick with you even when you feel like you've hit rock bottom. Having a true friend through your worst times is important because that's when you can really tell they are there for you through it all.

6. You've already planned your futures together.

Neighbors in a cute little neighborhood down south, husbands and kids that are best friends, our cute puppies running around the backyard, family dinners every week and family vacations every year. You've most likely spent a lot of time with your best friend and what more do girls like to do than plan? You're lying if you said you've never thought about how you can't wait to live right down the street from each other.

7. They support all of your decisions and don't let you make bad ones.

The best thing about them is that they support you in whatever you want to do...for the most part. A real friend would never let you make bad decisions that they know will only end in a disaster. They want only the absolute best for you so don't be mad or upset if they're just trying to help. Sometimes they know what's best for you before you can figure it out.

8. No matter what, they will always be there for you.

No matter what happens, no matter how badly you might mess up, you know your best friend is going to be there for you. Even in the toughest times you know they'll be there by your side through it all. Having someone through the ups and downs of your life is important. They're so much more than your best friend, they're apart of you.

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11 Ways You Found The Cristina To Your Meredith

"We're friends, real friends, and that means, no matter how long it takes, when you finally decide to look back, I'll still be here."
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The term "my person" describes the relationship between two people who have reached the highest level of friendship. They're people who have ridden the roller coaster of life together for so long that their lives would be boring without each other. In "Grey's Anatomy," the characters of Meredith Grey and Cristina Yang describe each other as each other's "person." They have a perfect friendship. Everyone (including myself) strives to achieve a friendship like theirs. What is it like to have "your person?"


1. Your person will tell it like it is.

If you think that your new haircut looks bad or if that dress makes you look fat, your person is always there to reassure you that nobody cares.


2. Your person is always on your team.

Whether it's an argument between you and your parents or you and your boyfriend/girlfriend, your person will always be there. They will go to bat for you 10/10 times and they will always be there to have your back.


3. Your person will celebrate the small victories with you.

Did you go an entire day without crying? Awesome, let's celebrate! Did you eat something other than chocolate chip cookies for breakfast? That's wonderful! The small victories count the most.


4. They will listen to you, even when you are ranting about the craziest things.

Let's face it, we have all been there. When it's late at night and we're laying in bed, thinking of the world's hardest questions, and you start to think about crazy scenarios, your person is always there to listen.


5. People instantly think that you and your person are a couple.

You aren't a couple, you just understand each other on a much higher level, so people think that you guys are in a relationship. Just go with it.


6. Your person isn't afraid to tell you that they are embarrassed by you.

Everyone gets embarrassed about each other at one point or another. Most people just pretend that it doesn't happen. Your person is going to flat out tell you that your actions and the things that you say embarrass the crap out of them.


7. Your person isn't afraid to knock you down a few notches.

Just when you think that you are on top of the world, your person will come and pop the growing balloon known as your head. They aren't afraid to snap you back into reality.


8. They will build you up faster than they will tear you down.

Yes, they will bring you back to reality and tell you like it is, but they will also be the first one to encourage you and to tell you how wonderful you are.


9. Your person is not afraid to call your bluff.

They will call you out on your BS and make you tell them how you really feel, so they can help fix you.


10. You stick together no matter what.

Even though you get mad at each other, or don't speak for a few days, you will always stick together.


11. In the end, no matter what, no matter who comes in and out of your life, your person will always be your person.

Your person is there no matter what. They care when no one else does and they are always there to hold your hand.

Find your person and never let them go. They are your best friend, your worst enemy, and your biggest critic, but they know you better than you know yourself sometimes.

As for my "person," you know who you are. I love you and couldn't do life without you.

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5 Warning Signs You're In A Toxic Friendship

Because life's too short to spend it with people who don't value who you are.

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Coming into college, I thought I was going to make the best friendships to last a lifetime. I had already known my roommates before coming to campus and was excited to join new clubs and organizations meeting new people to form relationships with. Good friends are vital for our well-being and give support in times of need. However, once a friend starts sapping your energy and undermining your self-esteem, it might be time for an honest conversation. Below are some warning signs of toxic friendships and how to address difficult situations.

1. If they attempt to control you, it's better leave them now.

I've always found it difficult to leave friends who wanted me to conform to certain standards of society in order to "fit in". Wanting to be popular in high school, I remember girls placing unreasonable demands on me to control what I wore, which classes I took, and who I hung out with. Realizing that my time was more important than meeting other's demands, I cut off toxic friendships in order to be myself.

It was hard. I became lonely.

While controllers can be hard to spot and confront, it is better to be open and honest with a friend about how you feel than to start believing lies and stories. If a friend insists on being in charge of what you do or where you go, he or she is not worthy of your friendship. You are in charge of your life choices and deserve the right to make your own decisions. Real friends will respect the choices you make no matter if they agree or not.

Being in college, I have realized that freedom and independence are a luxury. I enjoy having free time to myself and hanging out with people who have the same values as me. On the other hand, if a friend starts to be demanding or acting entitled, I will choose to leave an unhealthy relationship to keep my own personal opinions and values in check. You should never feel inferior because of your own beliefs, and true friends should be understanding of your viewpoints.

2. If you begin to feel isolated, something is up.

On a similar note, controlling friends can also try to stop you from making new relationships. An easy way to find out if you're engaged in a toxic relationship is to evaluate if you're hanging out with the same people all the time. As for me, when I find a group of people I'm comfortable being around, it is hard for me to reach out and form other deep relationships when I have a close group of friends. Sometimes I don't even notice this isolating influence until I realize that other friends and family members have drifted away.

Don't get me wrong, having a close friend group is perfectly OK. However, when one person decides to take charge and leave out other members of a group, things may start to change. True friends seek to include everyone in a conversation to form close, unique bonds and grow closer to one another. Controllers look for ways to manipulate you into spending all your time with certain people and get angry when you have other friends. Some may even resort to peer pressure and take advantage of you to get what they want. If this is happening to you, seek out help and get out of the toxic relationship.

3. If they don't listen to you, they aren't worth your time.

I'll admit I like to take charge of certain situations and be a leader when it comes to making plans for a large group of people. What makes me upset, however, is when participants decide not to respond or choose to ignore what I have to say. Toxic friends, rarely, if ever, listen to one's problems or concerns. When I am trying to form new friendships, I look for people who will be loyal and listen. Friends share their worries with one another and believe in mutual understanding.

This can also go along with one-sided friendships where one person is initiating most of the communication or has never returned a favor. If you're the one making most of the plans to spend quality time together and go out of your way to show love and affection for another friend, chances are you're in a one-sided friendship.

4. If they envy your success, they'll never be truly happy.

Everyone likes to be praised for what they achieve, and true friends should be the first to congratulate you on your successes in life. Toxic friends can't and won't share your happiness with other people because of their own jealousy. You are not responsible for your friend's successes and can only achieve what dreams you set out to come true. Success does not come easy. I have to work hard to make good grades and pay for my finances to attain my goals. I wish my true friends would be happy for my successes and inspire me to keep moving forward.

5. If they don't keep in touch, it's their loss.

While it's impossible for friends to always be together, it's imperative to keep in touch with one another. Sending a simple text or agreeing to make a phone call once a week makes a huge difference. I regret not keeping some of my friendships because I decided to isolate myself from certain conversations I didn't want to have with another person.

When involved in the conflict, however, it is important to be upfront and honest so that the situation doesn't get worse. If the toxic friend has no interest in maintaining his or her relationship with you, it is his or her loss. You shouldn't feel ashamed of your own decisions and there will always be more people to form relationships with.

To the toxic friends that bring you down: thank u, next.

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