Friends: Who Is Worth Your Time?

Friends: Who Is Worth Your Time?

One Real Friend is More Important Than a Bunch of Fake Ones

Certain people we meet through our journey in life will touch our hearts and our minds. Every single person we meet in our lifetime who leaves abruptly will have left for a reason. You will not always see it at first but the reason is there in the midst of all the smog of confusion. Some let the smog cloud the true reason and as they do this, the smog becomes thicker and thicker until the reason is only seen through a tiny speck of light in the distance. It is at this point in time when we feel we are most vulnerable, and every negative thought makes us want to give up. When this situation arises, use your time to contact the ones that have not left your side, the ones that you know make you happy. Try to refrain from trying to contact the ones that you think make you happy and the ones that have not been there the whole time. The reason I use the word “try” is because no matter how hard to try to be perfect, we are far from it, we are human, and as humans we have a name for the ones who we know make us happy, friends. These people you should not feel badly if you need to contact them for help, or even just for a laugh and a smile.

Other than our family and peers, perhaps the most influential support system is the support from our FRIENDS. They are the back-bone to our spine, and the note to our music. There are times where I am sure we feel alone, or lost, or depressed. When we look up at the night’s sky sometimes it is important to ask ourselves, “What do I see?” or “what am I feeling?” If you can answer one of those questions in a good paragraph, you aren’t alone. I am positive that somebody out there is looking at the same spot you are at that same time. Write your thoughts down on a piece of paper and save the paper forever. That piece of paper is your friend and will hold on to anything you put on it, even if what is there is just tears. Think about it, if you have the energy to pour your heart out on a piece of paper just think of what else you could do by yourself. You can accomplish anything as long as you try, but if you fail do not get frustrated at yourself or anybody else because in the end everything happens for a reason. In the end it is only you in the coffin, however the people outside the coffin are there for you. The people who have been there with you since you met. The people that have cared for you your whole life and watched you grow as a person and as a friend. The people who will show up to your funeral are the ones you want to hold your hand, cry on their shoulder, and cherish them every day because without them, where would you be? You would be alone inside and outside the coffin no doubt about it.

There are people you need to cut out of your life, people you need to bring back into your life, and people you need to keep in your life, always. The human mind can only take so much stress until it bursts. Half of the time it bursts at the people you need to keep in your life. That’s why you need to cut the ones out of your life that hurt you, and keep the ones that heal the cuts, because a single friend who understands your tears is far more valuable than a bunch of friends who only know your smile.

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A Thank You To My Boyfriend's Family

Because you are so important to him, you are important to me.

This one isn't easy to sit down and write because nothing I could say would do all of you justice in the way that I would hope I could. These are just words, but I hope that I am able to always show my thank you to you by treating him like the prince he is.

I can replay the moment of meeting each and every one of you all over and over in my head like it was yesterday. I was so extremely nervous every single time and I was trying to gather all the "right" things to say that would leave a good, first-lasting impression and that at the end of the day, you all would like me.

I think one of the most important basis and hopes in my relationship is that my significant other's family likes who I am. This is so important to me because whatever is important to him is equally important to me and your thoughts of me are crucial to our relationship.

The second I walked in the door, I was overwhelmed—overwhelmed with such a love. I had no idea at that point in time just how much you would all mean to me and how thankful I am for all of you!

Thank you for constantly making me laugh and feel at home.

Whenever I'm coming over for a family gathering or just to hang out, I know right off that I am walking into a world of laughter and good times are right beside that. You are all so entertaining and always have a good story to tell me. I can't name one time where I didn't feel like I was home.

And I appreciate the sweet, embarrassing photos and stories about my boyfriend that you all share with me! Even if it is by a photo, I have a glimpse of what his life has always been like thanks to each and every one of you individually.

Thank you for sharing your special moments in life with me.

You don't ever have to, but you invite me anyway. Whether it's just a family gathering, a birthday, or a holiday, I am thankful to have spent those times celebrating these moments in life alongside such amazing people. It's humbling and heartwarming to be a part of memories so unforgettable that you all share and that you have welcomed me to be a part of. They are days that I will never forget and have a place in my heart forever.

Thank you for always being there for him.

Since we have started dating, I have watched the way that you guys love him. I have watched the individual relationships and moments that you share with him make a difference in who he is. I have seen you all love and support him, no matter what he was doing.

With everything that comes along in life, this has been a simple reminder of an unconditional, loving, sacrificing family that is also the best support system. You are not only impacting him, but me, too.

Thank you for welcoming me in like your own.

Whenever you have to brave up and meet your significant other's family, I can say, for myself, that I didn't know what to expect. As I'm sure, none of you did when meeting me. Today, I catch myself wondering why I even worried in the first place. You all have welcomed me in your own ways and made me feel right at home. It is not always easy to do that with just anyone, but you have all taken the time to get to know me. And now I know that if I ever needed anything, I can call one of you.

Thank you for letting me date him.

I am most thankful for this. Thank you for sharing him with me and giving me a chance to show you all how important he is to me. I never thought that I would luck out and meet someone as special, kind, and wonderful as he is, but I did.

You have supported our relationship, given me a chance to love him, and welcomed me to new adventures in love and family. I have the upmost gratitude for each of you. You are the most wonderful, welcoming, and loving family. I am overjoyed to be able to experience just a glimpse of this life with him and with all of you.

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5 Things You Understand if You Are The Baby of the Group

That's okay, have fun without me

If you are one of the youngest members of your friend group, then you know just how it feels when everyone starts turning 21. Here are 5 things that only the babies of the friend group understand.

1. Always the DD

Once your friends start turning 21 and decide to go out, guess who gets to pick them up? That's right. You. The one that still isn't 21.

2. The mom

You may be the youngest, but when your friends come back from a good night out, you are the most responsible and mature one of the group. You are the one that has to take care of them.

3. Being left out of things

Well, if you aren't 21, you can't go to that cool bar that everyone else is talking about or on that wine tour.

4. Home alone on the weekend

While everyone else gets to go out and have fun on the weekend, you get to sit at home in your pajamas, watching TV. Sure this isn't a terrible thing, but when you are getting snapchats, and seeing your friends post about the fun they are having, you feel left out.

5. By the time you turn 21, your friends are over the hype.

You are finally 21 and you invite all of your friends. You are so excited, and they are excited for you, but after that night, you wanna go out and have fun, but your friends don't wanna go out as much because the hype of them turning 21 has faded.

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