Friends: Who Is Worth Your Time?

Friends: Who Is Worth Your Time?

One Real Friend is More Important Than a Bunch of Fake Ones
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Certain people we meet through our journey in life will touch our hearts and our minds. Every single person we meet in our lifetime who leaves abruptly will have left for a reason. You will not always see it at first but the reason is there in the midst of all the smog of confusion. Some let the smog cloud the true reason and as they do this, the smog becomes thicker and thicker until the reason is only seen through a tiny speck of light in the distance. It is at this point in time when we feel we are most vulnerable, and every negative thought makes us want to give up. When this situation arises, use your time to contact the ones that have not left your side, the ones that you know make you happy. Try to refrain from trying to contact the ones that you think make you happy and the ones that have not been there the whole time. The reason I use the word “try” is because no matter how hard to try to be perfect, we are far from it, we are human, and as humans we have a name for the ones who we know make us happy, friends. These people you should not feel badly if you need to contact them for help, or even just for a laugh and a smile.

Other than our family and peers, perhaps the most influential support system is the support from our FRIENDS. They are the back-bone to our spine, and the note to our music. There are times where I am sure we feel alone, or lost, or depressed. When we look up at the night’s sky sometimes it is important to ask ourselves, “What do I see?” or “what am I feeling?” If you can answer one of those questions in a good paragraph, you aren’t alone. I am positive that somebody out there is looking at the same spot you are at that same time. Write your thoughts down on a piece of paper and save the paper forever. That piece of paper is your friend and will hold on to anything you put on it, even if what is there is just tears. Think about it, if you have the energy to pour your heart out on a piece of paper just think of what else you could do by yourself. You can accomplish anything as long as you try, but if you fail do not get frustrated at yourself or anybody else because in the end everything happens for a reason. In the end it is only you in the coffin, however the people outside the coffin are there for you. The people who have been there with you since you met. The people that have cared for you your whole life and watched you grow as a person and as a friend. The people who will show up to your funeral are the ones you want to hold your hand, cry on their shoulder, and cherish them every day because without them, where would you be? You would be alone inside and outside the coffin no doubt about it.

There are people you need to cut out of your life, people you need to bring back into your life, and people you need to keep in your life, always. The human mind can only take so much stress until it bursts. Half of the time it bursts at the people you need to keep in your life. That’s why you need to cut the ones out of your life that hurt you, and keep the ones that heal the cuts, because a single friend who understands your tears is far more valuable than a bunch of friends who only know your smile.

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21 Things You Say To Your Roommate If You Two Are Practically A Married Couple

Until I made this list, I didn't realize how absurdly close my roommate and I were. #sorrynotsorry
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1. "Can you turn the light off?"

2. "We probably shouldn't go out for dinner again...right?"

*complains about not having money* *spends $8 on Chipotle three times a week*

3. "I always pick where we go"

This is a fight you have with your roommate almost every day when you're roommate is as indecisive as mine.

4. "Do you have my keys?"

5. "Can you pick me up?"

6. "Is it hot in here?"

7. "Does this outfit look stupid?"

The answer is usually yes. No offense.

8. "Can you throw this out for me?"

9. "Can we get ice cream?"

10. "I need coffee"

This text is usually sent when you know your roomie is out running errands... errands you know are near a Starbucks.

11. "Can you tell me what happened?"

12. "Are you asleep?"

There have been times where I couldn't tell if you were asleep or dead... and I had to say this out loud to check if you were alive.

13. "Check your dm's."

*cracks up in the middle of nowhere* *catches a weird stare from your roomie across the room*

14. "Can you plug this in for me?"

15. "Can you pick a movie?"

Another instance where "I always pick" happens.

16. "Look at this girl's Instagram."

*chucks phone across the room at roommate*

17. "Can you call me?"

18. "Can we meet up?"

Separation anxiety is a real thing, people.

19. "Can you help me find my phone?"

*Tries to leave the house to do something* *loses phone* every. time.

20. "What should we do tonight?"

*tries to get ready to do something fun* *ends up staying in for another girls night*

21. "Why isn't everyone as great as us?"


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11 Things I Learned About Having Long Distance BFFs

You get jealous of their local friends.
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Having best friends that live halfway across the country is easily one of the most rewarding— and frustrating— blessings. There are some things you learn about having a best friend who’s not present in your daily life. Invaluable things that end up saving your ass more often than not. Here's 11 things I learned about having long distance BFFs, and if you have some too, don't hesitate to let 'em know how much they mean to you.

1. You will always have an open “vacation” spot.

Doesn't matter if it's Wisconsin, Mississippi, New Jersey, or North Carolina; I always have somewhere to go, even if it's not a traditional "vacation" spot. I'm always down for the most, "nonrelaxing vacation ever" playing auntie to my favorite babies.

2. No time is too much time.

The first two days seem to drag before you find your stride (unpacking, setting up, etc) and then suddenly time is flying in hyperspeed. Nothing goes faster than a week spent laughing it up with your bestie and her fantastic fam.

3. (And you appreciate every second).

You can’t really get sick of her. You know you’re on borrowed time, and eventually you have to return back to reality, so there’s really no time to spend by yourself. You soak up every second you get with her because you never really know when the next time you’ll see her is.

4. You religiously stalk her life through any form of communication you can.

Sometimes I learn some of my best dirt from Facebook and Twitter. Sure, I learn more when I go directly to the source, but constant social media updates on her whereabouts aren’t so terrible either, especially if I don’t always have time to fire off a quick text (yes, we’re all really that busy).

5. You don’t have to talk every day to maintain a relationship (and you really don’t).

We can go days, weeks, or months without talking to each other and pick up right where we left off. The gossip is almost juicier that way. Besides, that’s how I know our relationship is built to last. I don’t need to spend every day with them, because we are just as close after time apart as we were when we did spend every day together.

6. You miss the crap out of them, constantly.

Nearly every conversation begins with, “I miss you SO much.” While missing each other when we’re apart is a really great indicator of how much we care, it’s also a glaring reminder that I don’t get to see my girls everyday. It makes me jealous of those who do have that luxury. Sometimes I’ll just be sitting, doing nothing really, and a wave of missing them comes over me so fiercely I could cry.

7. You never run out of things to talk about.

There’s always something to say when you do see each other again. Usually you’ve already kept up on the gossip so you don’t need to recap that, but you fall right back into the same old conversational patterns you had when you spoke everyday. You’ve probably forgotten just how weird they are (which is why you like them so much, if we’re being honest), and how weird you can be with them (that’s how you bonded in the first place after all).

8. You can be yourself with them.

You don’t have to worry about making them like you. They wouldn’t still be in your life if they didn’t. You know they know the real you, because over nontraditional means of communication (texting, phone calls, Facetime), anything goes. You don’t have to worry that they’ll be grossed out if you pee while they’re on the phone. After all, they used to stand with you in the stall, so…

9. Conversation flutters between old and new memories.

Usually when you see your local friends every day, there’s rarely a reason to talk about memories. You’re typically in the process of making new ones, or planning to make new ones. With long distance best friends, you have more time to explore your past. Old memories are just as important to talk about as planning to make some new ones.

10. You get jealous of their local friends.

You know all of the intimate details of her friends’ and families’ lives as if they were your own. And you're judging the shit out of that one girl who gives her hell and you're secretly jealous of her local BFF, even though you know she's too awesome not to have friends. Besides, you're also grateful that someone's there for her, especially when you can't be.

11.You couldn’t do life without them.

Do I miss being able to see them every day? Absolutely. But I wouldn’t trade having them in my life for anything in the world. We have gone through so many unspeakable things together: the good, the bad, and the truly ugly. They have made me the woman I am today, and for that I am eternally grateful. I couldn’t get through today, or tomorrow, or the next day, without knowing that they are out there in the world doing their thing and kicking ass. I couldn’t do it without knowing that sometime soon they’re going to have some great stories for me.

Bonus: You've seriously contemplated moving your entire life out to her at least once (probably more than once).

Wisco, here I come! Now let your long distance bestie know how much you appreciate her.

Cover Image Credit: Rachel Perna

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