Friends Love You Anyway

Friends Love You Anyway

The lesson I learned from eating at Jimmy John's.

As college students, my friends and I try not to eat out very often. Some days, though, we just can't handle dining hall food anymore and have to eat somewhere else. On these days, one of our favorite places to go is Jimmy John's. There is one nearby our campus, and it is fast and cheap. We even sit at the exact same table every time we are in there. There is a sign next to our table, that says this at the top: "16 Things That It Took Me Over 50 Years To Learn." It looks like this:

Some of the items on the list are humorous, some are serious, but all are good life advice. Here're a few of my favorites:

"Never, under any circumstances, take a laxative and a sleeping pill on the same night."

"Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance."

"A person, who is nice to you but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person (This is very important. Pay attention. It never fails.)"

"Never be afraid to try something new. Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark. A large group of professionals built the Titanic."

"You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests that you think she’s pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment."

At my most recent visit to Jimmy John's, I was reading through the list, just as I always do, and I was struck by one of the things on the list. It was just five simple words:

"Your friends love you anyway."

I was amazed at how much could be said in so few words. How many emotions that one sentence drew out of me? How many memories were brought up from reading that? And I realized how important it is for people to believe that. That no matter what sort of mistakes you make, or how dumb you sound in the moment, your friends love you anyway. No matter what you weigh, how much makeup you wear, what your singing voice sounds like, or how opinionated you are, your friends love you anyway.

And if they don't, they aren't your friends.

Every human being deserves to feel loved. We all need people in our lives that tell us we are beautiful, we are valuable and we are loved. No matter what. In the last couple of years of college, I have learned how important that is.

My friends are constantly reminding me of my value. Through their words and actions, they show me love every day. On the days that I don't think that anyone wants me around, they are there to remind me that they choose me. When I say something dumb or mean or unloving, they are still there, laughing with me and pushing me to be better.

Without my friends, I would have never been able to make it this far through college. I can't imagine not having their support and love right now. So thank you, too all of my friends, for always loving me, even when I'm not the best friend to you.

And to everyone, let's take some time this week to remind our friends that we love them anyway. Because everyone needs to know that they are loved.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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To My Best Friend Of 15 Years

You are my person.


To my person,

I will never forget the first day that we met. It was the first day of preschool and my mom had just dropped me off. As I started to walk into the classroom I noticed that you were sitting alone on the floor crying. Not sure what to do, I went over to you and asked if you wanted to go play. Your face immediately lit up as we walked into the classroom and in that moment I knew that you would become my best friend. Ever since that day we've been attached by the hip and I wouldn't want it any other way.

April Roberson

Our friendship is the one true relationship that I can count on and for that I am forever grateful. This friendship of ours goes beyond our laughs and lake days. It's real. Through blood, sweat, and tears you've always been right by my side no matter what. You pick me up when I am drowning in pain. You cheer for me even when my ego is a little too high. You love me even when you should hate me. But, most importantly, you stand by me.

Our friendship is the perfect example of trust. You taught me that the right people can be trusted and will not betray you. No matter how dark the secret or how crazy the adventure, you never speak a word about me to anyone. You care about protecting my heart from the awful things in this world and when I am broken you are always there to pick up the pieces no matter how long it takes them to heal.

April Roberson

Our friendship has been a lifetime of happiness with a little bit of spunk. Not only do you encourage my crazy adventures, but you're always right by my side for each one. You keep life exciting and you make it easy. You are a true gift from God and I feel completely indebted to you for the role that you've played in my life. Our friendship is so special because it's full of our tremendous amounts of giving, sharing, and most importantly, love. There's not a day that goes by when I don't feel overwhelmingly thankful to have you by my side doing life with me.

So thank you, to my person. Thank you for always showing up for every little thing and making life so much better. Thank you for being my adventure inspiration and my lifelong travel buddy. Thank you for loving me unconditionally through the good, the bad, and the ugly. Lastly, thank you for being the one person that I can forever count on in this life time. I love you with my whole heart and I wouldn't want to do life with anyone else. You are my person.



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