My Friends Are Engaged And I Am Not Ready To Attend Their Weddings

My Friends Are Getting Engaged And I Am Nowhere Near Ready To Attend Their Weddings

I hear wedding bells and I want to cry.

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These are people I played with in elementary school, cheered beside in middle school, and had homeroom with in high school. I have not seen these people since our high school graduation a few years ago. However, I have stayed up to date on their personal lives through social media. My Facebook and Instagram are FILLED with people getting engaged. I don't know how to handle it. They are so young, happy, in love, and look fantastic. But I am not ready to attend these weddings and here are some reasons why:

1. I am going to cry like a little baby at the ceremony. 

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Come on! Imagine seeing your third-grade best friend walking down the aisle in a white gown! We used to plan and say what we wanted our own weddings to look like, and now it is actually happening.

2. We aren't old enough to get drunk at the reception.

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Some of us attending the wedding are not yet 21 and have to either beg the groom's uncle for a beer or sneak the future mother-in-law's glass of wine once she is drunk after the toasts. What am I going to toast you with? Ginger Ale?

3. I'm broke and the wedding gift will probably be what you didn't want.

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Here ya go. I'm sorry. I'll make it up to you later.

4. I don't want to loose a good friend.

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You're getting married and moving away and I may never seen you again. Not fair!

5. You're marrying because you are in love.

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You are going to have the best time being in love and starting a new family.

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To The Friend I Never Saw Coming In College

It's the friend everyone needs, but doesn't know it until they find her.
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I owe you a whole bunch of thank yous

1. For always keeping me on track

When I have forgotten about the homework due in an hour, you're always there to send me the answers super quick or just when I need help with any school work, you're my go to girl. And lets be honest, just sitting with someone doing homework together will ALWAYS better than doing it alone.

2. For doing absolutely everything with me

Thanks for always being my date to the Caf, running errands with me, supporting my sorority fundraisers, tanning by the pool with me, taking walks with me, bringing me a sweatshirt to class, giving me snacks, studying with me, laying by the river with me and really just being there overall. I know I'll never be alone in this crazy college ride because I have you.

3. For being just as weird as I am

Some of our inside jokes (and study tactics) people will never understand. We can look at each other, and start laughing with no words said and make the weirdest comments without ever being judged by one another.

4. For always being a listening ear

Considering we spend almost every waking second together, you always know the drama in my life, and you're always down to listen. From the rants about the mean girls at the bar, to the ridiculous nights you missed out on, I know I can always ramble on about anything to you and you'll always be there to listen and talk about whatever it is with me.

5. For understanding my love of junk food

From the "screw the gym today" texts or my favorite "the Caf has chocolate frosted brownies today", you always understand my everyday cravings for junk. It's always good to have a friend to be lazy and pig out with.

6. For encouraging me

Shout out to you for reminding me what I deserve in life. You always keep it real and tell me when I'm messing around with the wrong guys, telling my secrets to the fake friends, or just telling me the truth about how crazy my hair looks that day. Whenever I'm upset or discouraged, I can always count on you to cheer me up and give me 1000 reasons to smile.

7. For being another closet

Thank heavens we're the same size shoe! You always have exactly what I'm looking for, and if not you help me find it. Life's a whole lot easier knowing you have about 100 more outfits to chose from for that fancy sorority brunch, so thanks for always letting me borrow your clothes when needed.

8. And for just being you

For being crazy, but lazy, funny, smart, dedicated, weird, sassy, fun, adventurous, and simply just you! I'm so happy college led me to you, and I can't wait for the rest of this journey with you.

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7 Signs You've Found An Authentic Friend

Never take true friendships for granted.

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In a generation like ours, sometimes it's hard to distinguish a lifelong friend from a temporary one. There are friends for every part of your life: your childhood friends, college friends, work friends, and even friends that you play poker with at your retirement home. But one thing holds true during your life journey, hold on to your authentic friends. Here's how to distinguish one from an ordinary friend.

1. They remember specific details you've told them in the past.

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How did they remember that your dog was turning 12 on June 6th? It's because they genuinely take the time to listen to you. This shows how much they care and want to know about your life.

2. They care about your well-being.

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If you've heard your friend say things like "drive safe" or "text me when your flight lands", this shows how much they care about your safety. Authentic friends will make sure you are protected and feeling happy.

3. They always want the best for you.

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We all know there is a big difference between a jealous friend and a supportive friend. Surrounding yourself with friends that want the best for you is important. More positivity will be brought in your life if you are aware of maintaining an encouraging environment for yourself.

4. They will be extremely honest with you.

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True friends say it like it is. They won't lie and tell you your skirt matches your shoes if it doesn't. Honesty is the best policy when it comes to distinguishing a genuine friend.

5. They keep your secrets safe.

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You can trust them and tell them anything. Authentic friends won't repeat secrets you've told them to anyone else, and this is such a refreshing feeling! These are reliable and trustworthy people.

6. They will go out of their way to help you.

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This relates to caring about your well-being because they will do anything for you. Your true friends will go the extra mile without hesitation. They will be there for you wherever you need them and won't expect a favor in return.

7. They embrace your goofy side.

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Everybody's got one! If you are able to be your true goofy self around your people then you, my friend, have found a true one! Enjoy being weirdos together.

If any of your friends meet these criteria, then you are blessed! Never take your true friendships for granted.

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