Friends Aren’t Blood, But Sometimes They’re Closer Than Family

Friends Aren’t Blood, But Sometimes They’re Closer Than Family

I am grateful for every moment I spend with my friends


As I get into my 20's, I'm starting to realize more and more how much friends are family. I have had the same group of best friends for the past eight years, so they are basically my siblings. We were the lucky group to not stop being close after graduating high school and continued being buddies. You need solid friends to keep you moving through life, especially if your family situation isn't the best. I do have a really good family, a lot better than others, but lately, there have been hardships, making me depend on my friends more for that family feel and emotional support.

We all need someone we can come home to and rant about family members that aren't family. Because for one, they can't rat you out, and two they can offer you completely valid advice since they aren't seeing your family situation first hand. I live with three of my friends from high school and we are always so comfortable with telling each other our life and personal problems. It makes me feel safe and happy that I can confide in people who are so close to me like family but aren't actually my blood family.

If you grew up with a sibling or siblings, they were like a best friend to you. You could talk to them about how annoying your parents were, and feel like you had your own secret club. I'm an only child, so I never really had someone that I could immediately talk to about pressing family members (besides my dog, Turkish). I found in those situations that I would always end up calling my friends and talked to them about how I felt so that they could make me feel better. Friends are like an escape family.

When you are with your friends you are your happiest self. I swear every time I hang out with my friends whether we are playing video games or going out to get ice cream, I find myself completely enjoying and soaking in the moment. It makes me thankful for the close friends that I have and how I can always feel at peace when I am around them; unless they end up dueling me in Mario Party 8 and stealing all of my stars. I find myself always so excited to come home every day because it means that I get to see my friends and talk to them about how our day went, versus sometimes not being that excited to go home and be around parents.

Having friends that feel like family means that they can't tell you what to do and what not to do in a condescending way, and make you resent them for it. When my friends tell me what I'm doing is hurting them, or they don't like it, it doesn't make me angry in the way it would if my parents were telling me. I find it a lot easier to accept it and better myself from it, rather than just stirring my witches pot until I get so angry that I blow up. Friends can be closer than family on the sole fact that they are closer in age and can relate to our everyday struggles more; your family could just judge you for your problems and say you aren't trying hard enough or don't know what you're doing.

Getting to live with my friends and see them more than my family has been really interesting. I've noticed that it keeps me in a calmer mood and I am not as stressed. My friends keep me happy and on track in life, making me grateful for everything I get to experience with them. Family comes first, and that will always include my friends because they are just as much my family as any relative.

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21 Things You Say To Your Roommate If You Two Are Practically A Married Couple

Until I made this list, I didn't realize how absurdly close my roommate and I were. #sorrynotsorry

Let's be real: you and your roommate have said these things at least one to each other.

1. "Can you turn the light off?"

2. "We probably shouldn't go out for dinner again...right?"

*Complains about not having money* *Spends $8 on Chipotle three times a week*

3. "I always pick where we go"

This is a fight you have with your roommate almost every day when you're roommate is as indecisive as mine.

4. "Do you have my keys?"

5. "Can you pick me up?"

6. "Is it hot in here?"

7. "Does this outfit look stupid?"

The answer is usually yes. No offense.

8. "Can you throw this out for me?"

9. "Can we get ice cream?"

10. "I need coffee."

This text is usually sent when you know your roomie is out running errands... errands you know are near a Starbucks.

11. "Can you tell me what happened?"

12. "Are you asleep?"

There have been times where I couldn't tell if you were asleep or dead... and I had to say this out loud to check if you were alive.

13. "Check your DM's."

*Cracks up in the middle of nowhere* *Catches a weird stare from your roomie across the room*

14. "Can you plug this in for me?"

15. "Can you pick a movie?"

Another instance where "I always pick" happens.

16. "Look at this girl's Instagram."

*Chucks phone across the room at roommate*

17. "Can you call me?"

18. "Can we meet up?"

19. "Can you help me find my phone?"

*Tries to leave the house to do something* *Loses phone* Every. Time.

20. "What should we do tonight?"

*Tries to get ready to do something fun* *Ends up staying in for another girls' night*

21. "Why isn't everyone as great as us?"


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Finding Your Niche In College Starts With Finding You

Attempting to be someone you are not for the sake of having company only hurts you in the long run.


Transitioning to college is hard enough, but trying to find a place where you feel "at home" can make this time even more stressful. Here are some tips on how to find that place/group of people that make you feel like sunshine.

I have always felt a little out of place wherever I went, but it wasn't until college that I realized that this feeling was so special and more people should capitalize on their differences rather than conforming to a certain mold. Transitioning to college and finding your place among so many people can be very overwhelming. The added stress of attempting to be someone you aren't for the sake of having company adds a whole other layer to this problem. The easiest thing for me to do in any situation like this is trying to make the setting a little smaller. One of the most obvious ways to do this on a college campus is by getting involved!

It is inevitable that within the first few weeks of the semester at any college, there will be an organization fair. This is a chance to scope out all that your school has to offer! Chances are there will be some type of group or club that lines up with your interests. Most college campuses have extracurricular opportunities ranging from social sororities and fraternities, professional ones, intermural sports, vocal groups, and so many more. You are more than likely going to find some type of organization that you can call home if you seek them out. Joining an organization is such an easy way to interact with people with similar interests. An interest can bring two completely different people together and create some beautiful friendships. It is situations like this where it is important to be your authentic self and mingle with those you share something with.

That being said, finding your place in college isn't always about being involved. Getting involved on campus is just one of the simplest ways to start. There are so many other opportunities on campus to meet people whether it be among others in your residence hall, people in your classes, or just people you find yourself stumbling upon! Finding people to spend your time with is easy; however, you should make it a point to surround yourself with people who bring you up.

Once you have a set group of people that you find yourself spending time with, it is important to pay attention to the way you feel when you're around them. If you find yourself feeling bad about yourself or get the impression that you need to change something in order to "fit in," chances are the people you're around are not the best for you or your self-esteem. It is important to surround yourself with people who allow you to feel comfortable in your own skin. That being said, you also want people who encourage you to make good decisions and help you reach your goals. People who encourage toxic behavior in your life might be fun in the short term, but in the grand scheme of things, you need to be surrounded by people with your best interest in mind. Essentially, surrounding yourself with people who influence you to be your best self is one of the best decisions you can make short and long term.

The key to all of this is being conscious of your own feelings and needs. Pay attention to who reaches out to you to hang out. Notice the ones who pay attention to you as you speak when it feels like no one is listening. More than anything, be conscious of who you're with and where you're at when you experience moments of pure happiness. Life is too short to waste your precious time on people who don't build you up. Wouldn't you rather spend your time with more moments of pure joy than self-hate? Start living for you!

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