Friends Aren’t Blood, But Sometimes They’re Closer Than Family

Friends Aren’t Blood, But Sometimes They’re Closer Than Family

I am grateful for every moment I spend with my friends


As I get into my 20's, I'm starting to realize more and more how much friends are family. I have had the same group of best friends for the past eight years, so they are basically my siblings. We were the lucky group to not stop being close after graduating high school and continued being buddies. You need solid friends to keep you moving through life, especially if your family situation isn't the best. I do have a really good family, a lot better than others, but lately, there have been hardships, making me depend on my friends more for that family feel and emotional support.

We all need someone we can come home to and rant about family members that aren't family. Because for one, they can't rat you out, and two they can offer you completely valid advice since they aren't seeing your family situation first hand. I live with three of my friends from high school and we are always so comfortable with telling each other our life and personal problems. It makes me feel safe and happy that I can confide in people who are so close to me like family but aren't actually my blood family.

If you grew up with a sibling or siblings, they were like a best friend to you. You could talk to them about how annoying your parents were, and feel like you had your own secret club. I'm an only child, so I never really had someone that I could immediately talk to about pressing family members (besides my dog, Turkish). I found in those situations that I would always end up calling my friends and talked to them about how I felt so that they could make me feel better. Friends are like an escape family.

When you are with your friends you are your happiest self. I swear every time I hang out with my friends whether we are playing video games or going out to get ice cream, I find myself completely enjoying and soaking in the moment. It makes me thankful for the close friends that I have and how I can always feel at peace when I am around them; unless they end up dueling me in Mario Party 8 and stealing all of my stars. I find myself always so excited to come home every day because it means that I get to see my friends and talk to them about how our day went, versus sometimes not being that excited to go home and be around parents.

Having friends that feel like family means that they can't tell you what to do and what not to do in a condescending way, and make you resent them for it. When my friends tell me what I'm doing is hurting them, or they don't like it, it doesn't make me angry in the way it would if my parents were telling me. I find it a lot easier to accept it and better myself from it, rather than just stirring my witches pot until I get so angry that I blow up. Friends can be closer than family on the sole fact that they are closer in age and can relate to our everyday struggles more; your family could just judge you for your problems and say you aren't trying hard enough or don't know what you're doing.

Getting to live with my friends and see them more than my family has been really interesting. I've noticed that it keeps me in a calmer mood and I am not as stressed. My friends keep me happy and on track in life, making me grateful for everything I get to experience with them. Family comes first, and that will always include my friends because they are just as much my family as any relative.

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A Letter To My Ex-Best Friend

I wish things had ended differently.


You were my best friend for eleven years. We grew up together, hit milestones together, and did everything together. We helped each other through our parents' divorces, the struggles of high school, mental health breakdowns, and everything else that was thrown at us. Whenever I needed a pick me up, you were the one I went to.

You were a part of my family. You could walk right into my house and no one would even bat an eye. You fought with my brother the way I did and messed with my parents the way I did. You would even text my sister. Most of my family vacations included you. I got into some huge trouble with you, but we also thrived together.

We helped each other choose outfits. I dragged you along to all my dates because I was way too nervous to go alone. We had so many nights of endless laughter over things that really weren't even funny.

You were my person.

But high school changed things. We began to gravitate towards separate friend groups. No more good morning texts, no more venting about the annoying girl in your first period that had a crush on the same boy as you. I stopped hearing about your boy drama.

And one day it stopped completely.

When we saw each other in the hallways, we pretended we didn't. Our memories faded and became just that; memories. We stopped asking each other's lunch plans and making plans with each other in general. We once knew so much about each other we couldn't even tell where one person started and the other ended. But now we're strangers.

And boy, do I miss you.

A lot of people feel bitterness towards their ex-best friends. Angry at the way things ended. I just feel a longing for the way things once were. Yes, our friendship didn't really end in the most civil way. But that doesn't take away from the years of tears, laughter, family vacations, and countless memories we made.

I don't feel angry at you, I just wish we never lost each other.

I think about you a lot. Whenever I see you in passing or on social media, I think about what things may have been like if we never parted ways. I think about how strong our friendship would have been. And it honestly breaks my heart.

I want you to know I have no hard feelings towards you. I know things will never be the same, but I will cherish our memories forever.

Thank you for being such a huge part of my life.

Thank you for not only helping me grow up but growing up alongside me as well.

Thank you for getting me through the tough times, from my parents' divorce to something as simple as a middle school break up.

Thank you for being my person for my entire childhood. You are the reason I'm here today and I will never forget that.

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