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To My Best Friend When You're Going Through A Break Up

You'll be okay, and during this time, I'm never going to leave you.

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To My Best Friend When You're Going Through A Break Up
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It will be okay, trust my word on that.

"Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself- what you're wearing, who you're around, what you're doing. Recreate and repeat." — Warson Shire

I know right now life may seem like an impossible task, but you can do it. You'll overcome these struggles.

We all will fall in love somehow and there's going to be a boy that will pick you up and swing you around and he then may leave later, and your love isn't going to be there. You're wanting to keep that love and in that moment of fighting for that old toxic love, is when we start to fall out of love with ourselves. We give them all that we can, then it's like we have nothing at all. We depend on that one single person to be in charge of our happiness.

Then what happens when it ends? When that person leaves?? We snap and we break and we don't know how to control our own happiness, so we get stuck in a tornado of fear and sadness. We don't think we'll ever get out... But I promise that you will. You'll get through it and become a bigger and stronger person. There's more to life than loving that boy, let go. Cut the string and fall back for yourself.

Don't try and hold onto him.

He's not worth your precious time. Don't think about why he left. Think about the positive it'll do for you. Don't spend your time focusing on the past. It's behind you for a reason. You need to live for this exact moment because life is too dang short. Going back won;t do any good in the long run. It really won't!

Learn from it and move on.

I felt so much pain when my ex left me, I fell down and I couldn't get myself back up... And if you're ever in a situation like that, I'm going to be right there to get you back up. I'm going to help you become a stronger person. Love doesn't always last forever but that's okay. Because my love will. So take all that pain he gave you and heal from it and then move on. It won't hurt forever. This is a temporarily feeling Pain doesn't last forever.

Cut the string.

You can't move forward like I said before, letting go will do wonders for you. More than you think! We don't always want to let go of the pain because that's what is attaching us to our ex's. You don't want to let it go, but you must. It will take time, but eventually, you will be ready to cut it and say goodbye to the memories and to him. I held on way, way, way too long. It hurt me so much and ruined my mind and my heart. I couldn't live my life but when I let go, I realize how much life I was missing out on.

Don't be angry with yourself.

Sometimes we get frustrated with ourselves, we don't want to love them anymore, but you're going to for some time and while you feel that love, do NOT tell him. Just learn to love them from afar. You'll lose the love eventually.

Find the thing that makes you happy. (Like me.)

You need to find yourself again and one of the first things to do is to figure out what makes you happy. Whatever it is, do it. Keep your friends and family close keep your happy close those will keep you happy, do those.

This struggle is defining you to the person you are supposed to be.

You had a great time with him. You laughed until your stomach hurt, you cried, you lived with him in your heart. He changed your life. That's a good thing for you, really, and all the pain you're feeling now missing that is shaping you. You lived a new level of life with him. You now know what you need to do to create a higher level of life. Find greater happiness. Don't hold back. Create new moments for yourself, not anyone else.

Teach yourself what you loved about him.

You loved the way he laughed, you loved the way he did his hair, you loved the way he smiled. So now love all of that about yourself. Do your hair the way you think it looks best. Do it for you. You did it for him so I know you can do it for yourself too. Remind yourself what you reminded him.

I'm sure you were always there to tell him it'll be okay. and you probably held his hand to remind him you were there, now hold your own hand. Tell yourself you'll be okay. You don't need a boy. You need your girls. You need to give him up. Love you for you. Love yourself more than you ever loved him.

Pick your head up and realize your worth, and during this rough journey, i'm going to be right next to you.

You can do it.

Fall back to yourself. Let others fall for you. But until then, do it for you. Because at the end of the day you always have yourself.

You can do it.

We can do it.

Love,

Your best friend who is never ever going to leave you.

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