I'm The Girl Who Will Always Be The 'Friend,' Never The Girlfriend

I'm The Girl Who Will Always Be The 'Friend,' Never The Girlfriend

I'm the girl who has never been in a relationship, let alone been on a date.

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I'm the girl who has never been in a relationship, let alone been on a date. I have watched many of my friends get into relationships. I have watched them love their significant other. I have watched them get their hearts broken.

Throughout my life, I have had people whom I have been attracted to and wanted to be with. Lo-and-behold, the feelings were never reciprocated. The boy from 8th grade surely did not feel the same way towards me. The boy from sophomore year was the boy who seemed to be a distant classmate. The boy from the senior year was the boy who I joked around with all the time, but there was no way he thought of me as anything other than a friend. The boy from my first year in college, the one who made me laugh all the time, looked at me with the eyes of "we're just friends." The boy from my second year of college, who came out of nowhere, was just another one of those boys who would turn out to be "just another friend."

As I have watched friend after friend get into a relationship, it has made me wonder - if there's something wrong with me? No, there is nothing wrong with me. Some relationships take time, truly they do. What's hard about it is seeing them all so happy in their relationships as I sit alone on another Friday night while many of them are out on date night.

Scrolling through Instagram or Facebook and seeing the pictures of couples makes me want a relationship badly. I am hands down a people person. I love doing life with other people, and to share life with one person sounds amazing to me. I would love to go on adventures with them. I would love to share weird memories with them. I would love to share life with them. So, watching friends of mine do that with their significant other is hard.

Being in college, this a time when many people start to get engaged and married. There is nothing wrong with that, but it can lead to thoughts such as- Am I good enough? Will I ever be in a relationship? and so on. It is incredibly hard to not look at those people and want what they have without feeling jealous. It could be just me, but it's probably not. It could be the fact that I have gone 21 years as a single girl, but it's probably not.

Don't get me wrong on this and surely do not twist my words. What I say in this is simple. I am the girl who talks sports with guys. I am not the girl who goes on dates. I am the girl who has boy friends, but never a boyfriend. I don't need a boyfriend nor do I think having one is a necessity.

It's simple, though, I am the girl friend and never the girlfriend.

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To My Boyfriend's Mom

He loves you more than you could ever imagine...
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Without you, there would not be a him, so first things first, thank you.

1. Thank you for teaching him to love a woman the right way, to put God first, and YOU before me always, the respect he shows you is so attractive, and you deserve it.

He talks about you like you hung the moon, I don't doubt for a second that he will be an amazing father one day, I owe all of that to you.

2. Thank you for giving me a chance, learning to love me when you knew your son was doing the same.

I can't speak for my own first impressions, but hopefully mine was not THAT bad...when we both slapped him on the arms for his rude remark at the same time, I knew our relationship was already blossoming.

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3. Thank you for every meal you have ever purchased me.

And chocolate, and candy...you know just as well as your son does that food is the way to my heart. Especially Taco Bell and cheesecake ;)

4. Thank you for your advice, suggestions, and opinions...and asking for mine

Whether it's telling me to slap him for being a smart a$$, or you're asking me about color swabs for your kitchen makeover, you come to me as if I am your own, and I am so honored to give you my own input.

5. Thank you for including me

You never fail to leave a spot for me, and I love family dinners/outings with you guys just as much as I love my own!

6. Thank you for teaching your son to never give up, and that if he does it is only to better himself, or it's the only choice he has left.

He is so focused on his future, he wants the best for himself, and he is constantly reminding me that these are things that YOU taught him, you deserve to be so proud.

7. Thank you for letting him love my family, and allowing me to love yours.

He is so loyal and loving to my family, and I don't even have to ask myself why because I see him with you and yours. Thank you for letting us double up on holidays when we can, and making sure we get the most out of our time with you!

8. Thank you for being his best friend.

I think of him as mine too, but I couldn't think of a better person to also hold that title, you know him better than anyone else and you always will.

9. Thank you for teaching him how to treat a woman

He is constantly telling me "You sound like my mother." Thankfully earlier in our relationship, he told me that the woman he wants to be with, should do just that. He always tells people who try, "No, no one calls me by my full name except my mom and my girlfriend."

10. Thank you for your honesty

We all know that he and I can drive you crazy sometimes, thank you for telling us like it is, and making sure we know you still love us anyways.

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11. Thank you for teaching him to work as hard as possible in anything and everything he does.

I have never met anyone with such a desire for success, he and I are constantly discussing how we can better our futures, and I know exactly where his drive comes from.

12. Thank you for teaching him to clean up after himself

Even though sometimes, it takes him a minute to do so.

13. Thank you for teaching him how to love, and letting him love me.

I have never felt so loved by a man, probably because anyone else who came into my life was just a boy. Thank you for your unconditional love for him, he is your entire heart and that is so easy to see, I am happy to share his with you.

You and I both know that even years from now we will both occasionally probably be closing the fridge that he left open, cleaning the crumbs he dropped, demanding he take a shower after playing soccer, or reminding him 20 times about plans we made weeks ago, we both share such a great love for such an amazing man. I could never be more thankful that you brought forth into this world such a comforting, supportive, protective, steadfast, driven, handsome, and hilarious guy. Thank you for everything you do for him, for me, and for us, I love you a lot!

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The Realities Of Dating A High Schooler While You're In College

A freshman in college dating a senior...in high school?

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I have been with my boyfriend since the summer before my senior year of high school. We knew coming into it that we would have to spend my freshman year of high school apart. Now with only 7 weeks left of my first year in college, here is my take on what it's like to date someone still going to your alma mater.

1. FaceTime is your new best friend

FaceTime is my most used app now. If I am free at night or just want to see his face, I can always depend on a call. This might sound cheesy, but FaceTime sleepovers are an *almost* daily occurrence. Even if we both have things to do, we just call each other and do our own thing. This makes me feel closer, considering the 125+ miles between us.

2. A whole other reason to come home

Seeing family and friends while being home is great. But what's better than a bigger bed and your boo cuddling next to you? Plus, I have rides to and from without having to bug my parents.

3. Different breaks

For both winter and spring break, there have been times when he is still in school while I am off. So, I am basically a "housewife" for those days. It does stink that I have to wait until after 3 to hang out with him, but at the same time, I can get some work done while he's at school. It'll probably always be like this, considering he is going to a community college at home for the next two years. But, maybe it'll coincide (fingers crossed!)

4. One foot in college, one foot in high school

Dating a high schooler and being friends with people in his grade and below, I do feel like I am sorta in high school still. I still sit in the student section at games, and workout with my friends at the high school. I'm still "popular" in some sense because of him but also because I am from a super small school. I just can't wait until baseball season!

5. DANCES!

Homecoming! Winter Carnival! Prom! Having a boyfriend in high school is great because my last dances weren't really my last ones. So now, I am looking at both formal and prom dresses!

6. People asking the dreaded question

Whenever anyone at college finds out I have a boyfriend, they always ask where he goes and what year he is. My answer is always "He's back at home" or "He's a senior...in high school". Everyone asks why I stay with him and my thinking is, why would I break up with him just because I am a little ways away? He knows that I am pursuing my dreams down here, even if they aren't necessarily with him (yet).

I don't really see the drastic differences between dating a high schooler while in college, but I am definitely not changing it any time soon!

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