You Need A Best Friend In High School, You Deserve A Best Friend In College

You Need A Best Friend In High School, You Deserve A Best Friend In College

If you're taking longer to find that person, don't give up on them.

For many people, high school is the best four years of your life; for others, it's the four most hellish years you'll ever have. No matter which side of the spectrum you find yourself, you probably had at least one close friend or maybe lucky enough to have a whole squad by your side. You had study buddies, people to go to football games with, and people to make your eight hours a day, five days a week go by as quickly as possible.

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College, on the other hand, is a completely different beast. You have your own schedules, your own clubs and organizations, and it's extremely unlikely that you have any class or overlap with your friends, especially if you're different majors. With such a hectic lifestyle that may start up, it's even more crucial than in high school to have a close friend, or a small group of close pals, to listen to you vent, motivate you to wake up and go to that early class, or bring you out to have fun after a long week.

In high school, many of your friends may have been circumstantial, same classes, same neighborhood, etc. In college, you deserve a best friend even more because you have to put in the work to make those close connections. Even with your own roommate you might not be the best of friends right away and have to work on developing that friendship. Creating a friendship that goes beyond making a few back and forth comments in class or doing one essay at the library one time takes a lot of work.

In high school, I had a group of eight friends who always hung out, did everything together, and still to this day frequently talk in our group chat despite being spread out across the country at our respective schools. In college, I didn't come in with a big group that I automatically could do everything with. I was fortunate enough to have my boyfriend and one of my best friends from high school at school with me, but it took over a full semester to develop my own friendships with my own people.

Now that I'm into my fourth semester in college, I realize how having close friends is even more important than it was in high school. It's very easy to find yourself staying in your room all day, doing work and watching Netflix, not realizing until hours in that you've had no other contact with the world today. For me, it wasn't until I joined my sorority and had weekly meetings with other women similar to me that I had the opportunity to develop those friendships and find my place.

Between calming you down and keeping you sane, grinding out at the library until the sun comes up, or dancing around your room blasting throwbacks, your college best friend(s) is to become your most prized possession. You'll find yourself smiling from the joy because you'll know you found your place in what can easily be a crazy, overwhelming world. If you have found your college best friend, hold them tight and don't let go, and if you're like me and taking longer to find that person, don't give up on them, they're out there.

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A Letter To My Go-To Aunt

Happiness is having the best aunt in the world.

I know I don't say it enough, so let me start off by saying thank you.

You'll never understand how incredibly blessed I am to have you in my life. You'll also never understand how special you are to me and how much I love you.

I can't thank you enough for countless days and nights at your house venting, and never being too busy when I need you. Thank you for the shopping days and always helping me find the best deals on the cutest clothes. For all the appointments I didn't want to go to by myself. Thank you for making two prom days and a graduation party days I could never forget. Thank you for being overprotective when it comes to the men in my life.

Most importantly, thank you for being my support system throughout the numerous highs and lows my life has brought me. Thank you for being honest even when it isn't what I want to hear. Thank you for always keeping my feet on the ground and keeping me sane when I feel like freaking out. Thank you for always supporting whatever dream I choose to chase that day. Thank you for being a second mom. Thank you for bringing me into your family and treating me like one of your own, for making me feel special because you do not have an obligation to spend time with me.

You've been my hero and role model from the time you came into my life. You don't know how to say no when family comes to you for help. You're understanding, kind, fun, full of life and you have the biggest heart. However, you're honest and strong and sometimes a little intimidating. No matter what will always have a special place in my heart.

There is no possible way to ever thank you for every thing you have done for me and will continue to do for me. Thank you for being you.

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Finding Your Niche In College Starts With Finding You

Attempting to be someone you are not for the sake of having company only hurts you in the long run.


Transitioning to college is hard enough, but trying to find a place where you feel "at home" can make this time even more stressful. Here are some tips on how to find that place/group of people that make you feel like sunshine.

I have always felt a little out of place wherever I went, but it wasn't until college that I realized that this feeling was so special and more people should capitalize on their differences rather than conforming to a certain mold. Transitioning to college and finding your place among so many people can be very overwhelming. The added stress of attempting to be someone you aren't for the sake of having company adds a whole other layer to this problem. The easiest thing for me to do in any situation like this is trying to make the setting a little smaller. One of the most obvious ways to do this on a college campus is by getting involved!

It is inevitable that within the first few weeks of the semester at any college, there will be an organization fair. This is a chance to scope out all that your school has to offer! Chances are there will be some type of group or club that lines up with your interests. Most college campuses have extracurricular opportunities ranging from social sororities and fraternities, professional ones, intermural sports, vocal groups, and so many more. You are more than likely going to find some type of organization that you can call home if you seek them out. Joining an organization is such an easy way to interact with people with similar interests. An interest can bring two completely different people together and create some beautiful friendships. It is situations like this where it is important to be your authentic self and mingle with those you share something with.

That being said, finding your place in college isn't always about being involved. Getting involved on campus is just one of the simplest ways to start. There are so many other opportunities on campus to meet people whether it be among others in your residence hall, people in your classes, or just people you find yourself stumbling upon! Finding people to spend your time with is easy; however, you should make it a point to surround yourself with people who bring you up.

Once you have a set group of people that you find yourself spending time with, it is important to pay attention to the way you feel when you're around them. If you find yourself feeling bad about yourself or get the impression that you need to change something in order to "fit in," chances are the people you're around are not the best for you or your self-esteem. It is important to surround yourself with people who allow you to feel comfortable in your own skin. That being said, you also want people who encourage you to make good decisions and help you reach your goals. People who encourage toxic behavior in your life might be fun in the short term, but in the grand scheme of things, you need to be surrounded by people with your best interest in mind. Essentially, surrounding yourself with people who influence you to be your best self is one of the best decisions you can make short and long term.

The key to all of this is being conscious of your own feelings and needs. Pay attention to who reaches out to you to hang out. Notice the ones who pay attention to you as you speak when it feels like no one is listening. More than anything, be conscious of who you're with and where you're at when you experience moments of pure happiness. Life is too short to waste your precious time on people who don't build you up. Wouldn't you rather spend your time with more moments of pure joy than self-hate? Start living for you!

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