After Months Of Knocking Tinder, I Finally Found The Perfect Match

After Months Of Knocking Tinder, I Finally Found The Perfect Match

Swipes right on Mr. Right.


My journey with a little dating app called Tinder has been a long and mostly unrewarding one. Filled with fuckboys, nice boys, creepy boys, and worst of all, fuckboys disguised as nice boys. I constantly felt bad for using Tinder. Feeling like I was a lonely loser for even having an account, even though I knew several people who used it and even met their significant others on it. But on the other hand, I'm a hopeless romantic and felt that if Tinder would help me find the true love, then so be it. Needless to say, I was at war with myself.

During this war though, I got a myriad number of new Snapchat contacts, hooked up with a few duds, and went on two underwhelming dates. Part of me was hopeless, thinking that maybe all I would ever get was a meaningless hookup, and another part of me was optimistic, thinking that if I didn't give up, I would eventually find the perfect match.

Then it happened.

It was late May and I had just completed my first year of college, which was a lot of fun but a roller coaster of a year none the less, so I decided I would chill and not focus on boys during the Summer. Then, of course, I started swiping again. Being back home, I encountered boys I went to high school with, and I died a little. But I was bored and looking for love so I continued to swipe, swipe, swipe until I matched with a cute, sweet, really nerdy, film major. He was totally my type. And apparently I was his because he messaged me right away. We started flirting and I started noticing that he was looking for the same thing I was: an actual relationship. He asks me to meet up with him. I actually wanted too, but was too afraid to go out on a Tinder date at home and have to run it by my parents.

So I stopped talking to him.

The boy kept trying to snap me but I wouldn't really answer. I was also afraid that he was just another creep from Tinder. So, we had something of a falling out. I learned later that he was devastated when I stopped talking to him, and I wish I hadn't. But hey, every love story needs a little depth.

After talking to a couple other Tinder guys and having it go nowhere, I started to feel alone and more pessimistic than ever. I was starting to think that maybe I would never meet a boy who legitimately cared about me and actually wanted to be my boyfriend, not just hook up with me.

Then my friend and I went to the beach together.

I took a selfie and posted it on my Snapchat story. I didn't think much of it, really, I just posted it and went along with the rest of my beach day. Then, just as my friend and I are about to head home, I get a Snapchat that boy from Tinder I stopped talking to saying:

"Hey Annie, I know you're not really talking to me anymore but I must say you look absolutely stunning."

And the rest was history. We started talking again and this time I realized that he was actually the guy I had been looking for all along. From actually talking to him, I saw the kind, sensitive soul that he was, I could tell that he wanted to take me out and treat me with respect and dignity, just like a princess. I worked up the courage to talk to my parents about meeting a guy from Tinder and they were very supportive.

The boy and I go out on a date and he's just as lovely in person as he is in texts. We go out again and again. He asks me to be his girlfriend. I say yes.

So, after almost a year of swiping left and swiping right, I finally find the perfect match. All the turmoil Tinder caused me is suddenly worth it. Because without it I wouldn't have found the man I love and who loves me for me.

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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I’d Much Rather Celebrate Valentine’s Day With My Single Girlfriends Than Any Guy

Bring on the pizza and ice cream because Valentine's Day is Girls Only this year.


Being single during any time of the year is difficult, but it can be even harder with Valentine's Day quickly approaching. People either love it or love to hate it. It's a day filled with dramatic romantic gestures, carefully planned dates, and an abundance of roses and chocolates. Well, at least for some it is. The pressure to have a "Valentine" as well as have the perfect evening is so high that in my option it completely takes the fun out of the day. So this Valentine's Day, I won't be stressing over the perfect outfit, restaurant or date. Instead, I'll be deciding if I should have another slice of pizza while my girlfriends try to figure out which cheesy rom-com we should watch next.

I don't hate Valentine's Day, I actually think it's really romantic. I think it's great that some people find happiness in grand gestures and extravagant presents. When I feel about someone strongly enough, I'm sure I'd do the same, but as of right now I don't. I don't want to be someone valentine or worry about finding the perfect gift. I want to focus on myself and just have a fun night with my girls. We worry so much about what everyone has to say about the things we do that often times we don't make any decisions for ourselves. Be a little selfish and do only what you want. Order too much food, break out the wine, and enjoy a stress-free night with the people that mean the most to you.

You will find me on the couch with my sorority sisters most likely catching up on "The Bachelor" or ruining our diets with dollar store sweets. And yes, I know there's an unofficial holiday already called, "Galentine's Day" (which I will be celebrating too) that's for ladies celebrating ladies. Who says you can't do it two nights in a row? Who says that Valentine's Day has to be a day spent with a romantic partner?

This is me telling you to take this day to have some fun and ignore the pressures society (and ourselves) put on ourselves constantly. Surround yourself with the people who support you; the ones who stick around through it all and love you unconditionally. If you still want to stay in the festive mood, you can exchange valentines with your friends and treat each other with chocolate hearts. And if you want to celebrate Valentine's Day with your significant other, go ahead, I'm not stopping you.

So, no matter what Valentine's Day for you is, celebrate it however you want. Dress up to the nines and have the night of your life. Stay in, order takeout, and fall asleep watching a movie. Hang out with your girlfriends, guy friends, or both! It doesn't matter how you do Valentine's Day, but rather who you spend it with.

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