For The Girl Who Forgives People Too Easily

An Open Letter To The Girl Who Forgives A Tad Too Easily

Do you forgive people at the drop of a hat? If so, this article is for you!

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I've been known to constantly forgive people a little too easily. You constantly hear the negatives of this trait-- how you're setting yourself up for failure. However, I see this differently because I see what forgiveness says about your character. Forgiving too easily is not always such a bad thing, and I explain why this is true. However, you must always remember to protect your heart.

Forgiveness is a crucial part of life, let's be honest. You will encounter many instances where your heart feels broken, and someone or something defeats you. Many people find it hard to forgive a situation that has caused them such heartache. But, you're different. You forgive too easily. No, this isn't always a bad thing which I'm sure you've heard many times before. People will claim you're being naive and setting yourself up to be hurt. I hear all the time that the PROBLEM is that I forgive too easily. I don't see this as a problem at all.

I see it differently. Forgiving others come from an empathetic heart, which is a good thing! You feel the pain of others. You feel what the other person may be thinking — and you forgive them because you believe forgiving is a way of moving on. You believe forgiving means avoiding conflict. You might feel free when you let go of your issues with someone else. You ultimately choose to be the bigger person. But unfortunately, this sometimes means you will be exposed to heartbreak. Someone does you wrong, and you will forgive them. Maybe a little too soon. Maybe without much fight. Let's think about what this says about your heart. You envision the best in people, you will always give them the benefit of the doubt. You hold compassion in your heart. I don't see this as a bad thing. You rid yourself of any bitterness, or hatred which is something that can be admired about you. You see the best in life, keeping a positive attitude towards the people or situations that tear you down.

However, you must ALWAYS remember your worth. When someone begins to take advantage of your kind heart, that's when it's time to cut ties with that person. Forgiveness is a wonderful thing, however, you must always keep your guard up. NEVER let people walk all over you. Because I hate to say it, but they will, over and over again if you allow it. They will see your beautiful soul and use it as an opportunity to abuse your trust. The bottom line is, don't let the hatred from the outside world hurt your delicate and forgiving heart.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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11 Hangout Spots In Athens That You And Your Buddies Can Enjoy

These are the coolest spots in Athens for a day of good wholesome fun.

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Athens is famous for being a party-hard college town, but it is also full of opportunities for an awesome time outside of the bars. The quaint local establishments encourage Athenians to spend quality time with friends and family, with options for every group and preference to hang out in Athens and have an entertaining time.

1. The Rook and Pawn.

This quaint board game cafe offers a multitude of games from "Risk" to "Exploding Kittens" and everything in between. Whether you want a chill night of fun or an intellectually stimulating competition, the Rook and Pawn is a perfect place to get to know others. They also have a tasty menu and lovely teas, adding to the homey ambiance of the establishment.

2. Ice skating at the Classic Center.

Take advantage of this event during its limited duration; it is a lovely winter activity best enjoyed with a group of friends or significant other. Skating around on the ice allows for pleasant conversations while still engaging in a nice physical activity and getting your exercise in for the day.

3. Athens Skate Inn.

Athens Skate Inn offers skating activities all year round. It is located off of Atlanta Highway and has both inline and regular roller skates available for rental, as well as a few video games and a party room. For those with a love for all things retro, Oldies Night on Wednesdays is a fabulous way to skate around with your buddies listening to the best classic tunes.

4. Showtime Bowl.

Another classic activity, bowling is a relaxing way to hang out with friends. Showtime Bowl also has an arcade room and billiard tables for those tired of hitting the alleys.

5. Legion Pool.

Only open from late May to early August, Legion Pool is located on campus and shares a parking lot with Bolton Dining Hall. It offers a refreshing reprieve from the heat of summertime in the south and is open to University of Georgia students for a discounted price.

6. Bear Hollow Zoo.

This zoo features animals rescued from the wild, most of which are native to Georgia. There are also several beautiful trails, a lake, and a playground in the property, and entry is free to everyone.

7. State Botanical Gardens.

The State Botanical Gardens are a dazzling representation of local and foreign plant species and hosts several events throughout the year such as the Insect-ival, a bug-themed festival which occurs every fall. The gardens and surrounding woods are riddled with beautiful paths and trails.

8. Georgia Theatre.

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Don't let the cozy size of this music venue fool you; it has housed many popular names in the music industry, such as Walk The Moon and Elle King, and its smaller capacity makes every spot in the house a good one.

9. Georgia Museum of Art.

The Georgia Museum of Art is tucked-away near UGA south campus and displays many permanent works of art and usually a few transient collections as well, so there is always a reason to revisit. Pieces from ancient times to the contemporary can be seen, and there is a particularly spectacular selection from the renaissance era.

10. Athens Farmers Market.

The farmers market at Bishop Park is an enchanting way to begin Saturday mornings; live music fills the tennis courts wherein the local farmers and artisans sell their goods and food carts and booths sell their freshly made pastries, cheeses, and other yummy bites. On Wednesday evenings Creature Comforts hosts a smaller segment of the farmer's market as well, gathering together the citizens of Athens to support sustainability and their local economy.

11. Tate Theatre.

Free to UGA students and open to other paying customers as well, the Tate Theatre provides showings of both recent and throwback movies, a convent and affordable opportunity for catching films that you missed in the theatre or haven't seen in a while.

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