We all know the term forgive and forget. While I'm pretty sure most of us can forgive it's harder to forget. Many situations will happen in a persons life that can leave a scar and a bad memory. We forgive those that caused the scar but never forget what they did. I say it's time to forget. The past is back there and the future is ahead. Do you really want to bring all those bags with you to your new life?
Personally, I have dealt with many situations that required a lot of forgiving. A person I was very close to and looked up to got into some very messed up things. This person eventually had to leave my life for a couple years. This act caused me to become very angry and lash out at others. I thought there was no way I could open my heart back up to this person. But one day, when the time was right I did. I to this day do not regret letting this person back into my heart. I choose to close the open wounds and erase all of the past for a fresh start. It was not easy, and it's easier to write about than to do, but with help from friends, family, and therapy, it was able to be done.
Another issue I have dealt with is bullying. Bullies are a nation wide issue that many kids, teens, and adults face. These bullies purposely left me out of plans that were made, spread rumors about me, and would repeatedly call me fat. At the time they were young, immature kids who thought that making fun of someone made you "cool." Who even defines what cool is anyway? Now that I am older, I liked to thank those bullies for giving me a back bone. I will never again let anyone call me names or disinvite me on purpose because I have a voice and I plan on using it when I am upset or made fun of. Like the previous situation, it was hard to forgive, but with time and a lot of work, I did.
It's hard to forgive and not easy to be done but I promise you it can be done. There is no greater feeling then overcoming and rising above a hard situation. Once the forgiving is done you are able to let go of that time and enjoy the present. So are you going to move on to the future, or dwell in the past?
